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I've been thinking a lot about my recent conversations with my mom and regarding my relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I ended things because it felt overwhelming, especially since I wasn't able to see him much due to the boundaries i have at home. My mom said that I didn’t make a good decision so I decided to end it with him because she was upset and I care how she felt , but I'm also trying to navigate my own emotions.
When I told my mom that I ended things with him she said why did I do that, i said it was way to much, but she said oh I don’t see the point of doing that it’s ur life and it left me a bit confused. I thought she would be relieved, but she saying why did I do that and I responded because i can’t see him because you won’t let me go by myself and she didn’t say anything so I said it again and she still didn’t say anything I have mix feelings. I'd really like to understand her side and when I do she say oh it’s ur life I’m confused now. And regarding ending my relationship just for my mom would be happy now I feel like I did it for no reason it at I know you probably saw this post already I just didn’t put a question on it sorry for the confusion
When I told my mom that I ended things with him she said why did I do that, i said it was way to much, but she said oh I don’t see the point of doing that it’s ur life and it left me a bit confused. I thought she would be relieved, but she saying why did I do that and I responded because i can’t see him because you won’t let me go by myself and she didn’t say anything so I said it again and she still didn’t say anything I have mix feelings. I'd really like to understand her side and when I do she say oh it’s ur life I’m confused now. And regarding ending my relationship just for my mom would be happy now I feel like I did it for no reason it at I know you probably saw this post already I just didn’t put a question on it sorry for the confusion
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I can understand why you're feeling confused. It does seem like your mom isn't being totally consistent or clear about what she wants here. A few things that stand out to me:
- She says it's your life, but then questions your decision to end things. That's sort of mixed messaging.
- By not allowing you more freedom with your boyfriend, but also disapproving of you ending it, she's putting you in a bit of a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" position.
- Her reactions could be seen as attempting to manipulate you through guilt or confusion over what pleased her.
Ultimately though, this is your life and relationship, not hers. You need to do what feels right for you. If ending it was the healthier choice for your well-being, then don't second guess that just to please her.
It may help to talk to her openly about how her mixed responses make you feel unsure. Set clear boundaries too - like your decisions being respected even if she disagrees. Stand up for yourself politely but firmly. I know that's tough with a parent, but it's important. You've got this!
Weird mom!
Everytime I tell her about my relationships they always end that’s why i didn’t tell about this one but she ended finding out because of my lockscreen because my mom is nosy and she will tell you she is to
@kimmber8239 very sad to know, i just followed you!
Thank you! And I just followed you back