I have a new fancy job so I need nice clothes. All week my mom told me we’d go shopping Saturday and I was excited. Yesterday which was Saturday, she was taking my dad to the spa in the morning and told me to be ready by 2.
I knew this ahead of time, I’ll admit and was getting ready at 12:30 because I thought I would have enough time. She came back at like 1:15 and I told her I’d be a little longer. 2 rolls around and I’m still not ready and she’s screaming at the top of her lungs how I need to hurry up and why does it take me so long. I told her I’d only 10-15 more minutes and she had a full mental breakdown and comes to my room and yells at me for why I’m not ready. I asked her if she had something else to do that day and If so she could go do that instead because I didn’t want to hold her back or she could have told me so I could’ve made sure I was ready.
When I asked her this she said “it doesn’t matter, it’s just about having respect for people’s time”. I 100% agree and she kept slowing me down because she was screaming at me through a closed door about how me taking so long was unacceptable and said she was leaving without me.
I ended up being ready at 2:20 and I did feel bad and she already got in the car and was about to leave me and I texted her I was ready.
In the car she yelled at me and threw a whole fit to how I’m inconsiderate of peoples time and don’t take accountability for being late.
I told her I was sorry but would’ve have apologized if she didn’t react so chaotically.
She literally got so chaotic and loud it scared me and I didn’t want to go anymore. When we got to the mall she ignored me and instantly started looking for stuff for herself and not me.
I called my boyfriend and my mom told me to hangup and stop telling him stuff and ranting before she embarrassed me in the middle of the mall. I then walked away and walked around the mall by myself and she didn’t even call to see where I was and told me to find my own way home. Was I wrong?
I knew this ahead of time, I’ll admit and was getting ready at 12:30 because I thought I would have enough time. She came back at like 1:15 and I told her I’d be a little longer. 2 rolls around and I’m still not ready and she’s screaming at the top of her lungs how I need to hurry up and why does it take me so long. I told her I’d only 10-15 more minutes and she had a full mental breakdown and comes to my room and yells at me for why I’m not ready. I asked her if she had something else to do that day and If so she could go do that instead because I didn’t want to hold her back or she could have told me so I could’ve made sure I was ready.
When I asked her this she said “it doesn’t matter, it’s just about having respect for people’s time”. I 100% agree and she kept slowing me down because she was screaming at me through a closed door about how me taking so long was unacceptable and said she was leaving without me.
I ended up being ready at 2:20 and I did feel bad and she already got in the car and was about to leave me and I texted her I was ready.
In the car she yelled at me and threw a whole fit to how I’m inconsiderate of peoples time and don’t take accountability for being late.
I told her I was sorry but would’ve have apologized if she didn’t react so chaotically.
She literally got so chaotic and loud it scared me and I didn’t want to go anymore. When we got to the mall she ignored me and instantly started looking for stuff for herself and not me.
I called my boyfriend and my mom told me to hangup and stop telling him stuff and ranting before she embarrassed me in the middle of the mall. I then walked away and walked around the mall by myself and she didn’t even call to see where I was and told me to find my own way home. Was I wrong?
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It's understandable that you feel frustrated and upset about the situation. However, as an Stanger I cannot make a definitive judgment on who was right or wrong in this specific scenario. Relationships and interactions can be complex, and it's important to consider multiple perspectives and individual circumstances.
Communication breakdowns can happen, and it seems like there was a misalignment in expectations and timing between you and your mom. It's unfortunate that the situation escalated to yelling and negative behavior. Both parties could have handled the situation better by calmly discussing their concerns and finding a compromise.
Moving forward, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your mom about your feelings and the impact her actions had on you. Effective communication can help resolve misunderstandings and find solutions that work for both of you.
Your mom sounds like a nutcase
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