Do you think the person who post it, instead of venting her personal intimate problems thatshe has with her own mother on a social media site, this person should work out these problems in private with her mom in this case and not look for help about the issue to strangers on a social media blog? I mean why these people vent such intimate, and family problems out in public? Work them out with your family personal and private but not revealing to the public what Im going through? I mean do public need to care about these personal and family problems a random person has?
I found on a FB blog this problem a lady has with her mother regarding her weight. She posted this and she ask for suggestions how to deal with the problem.
This lady posted this:
"I need your help with a problem I had been having a lot with my mother. It is about my weight. Very often she keeps telling me, taht she sees my leg a bit bigger, more cheeks (fatter in otehr words). It hurt me a lot she is telling me this. I been trying to speak to her but I dont succeed. Im happy with how my body is, I dont see necessary making a change but for my mom I need one. Sometimes I feel Im not the thin lady she always wish to have. Do any of you know how to tell my mom please do not amke me feel bad about my weight? That there is nothing wrong being a little chubby. Thanks
I mean really people vent this personal family problems to the public? Keep those things in private!! A feud between a daughter and a mom about the daughters weight? can't the daughter be mature enough to deal with without asking for help to strangers on a social m site abotu this private issue?
The lady who post this problem on a blog got received 19 answers on how to deal with the issue. All answers from strangers.
1. Your mom is toxic. If it is possible set her limits and nicely. You wotn accept her criticzing you. If she continues, put some distance. You rmom has insecurities, dont let her pollute
2. I keep a cordial relationship with my mom but not close beause she never has anything good to say abotu me or my kids and my grandkids. Sometiems is necessary to do it for your peice of mind even if it is your mom.
3. It happens to me too. But my mom tells me "You are fat" I. politely tell her "What is the problem?" I know, I have a mirror, but stop telling me those things.. I had learned to be clear and direct so she can see it bothers me and her commetn
4. Take her to see a shrink so she can deal with those issues of body shaming you
5. Tell her directly that you see in the mirror everyday and that you like what you see. That if she does not like it, please refrain her coments and tell her to see herslef in the mirror. Usually when they do that is beause they reflect theor own insecurities in other people. If you are happy like that, do not let people hurt you beause she may not feel good abotu her own self either. Good luck
