What should I do with my toxic mom?

[Anonymous]

I don’t really like interacting with her because she seems to always have something negative to say, she compares me to my sister a lot because she definitely plays favorites. I tell her I got good grades (because she asked me exactly what my mark was) and ever since then today and yesterday she’s been treating me like shit.. she said I’m the worst and watch what I say, and she threw my makeup on the ground yesterday.

my mom is always at home, making it an early impossible to avoid her.. especially when she enters without knocking. I can’t stand her, and I mostly often just feel super stressed now that finals are this week and I’m here crying because of my mom or wanting to scream into the pillow. I wish moving out was easy but right now, it’s hard because no job since corona and I’m still full time student atm

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everytime I pass by her, she either calls me a bitch or says some rude stuffs while nagging

[JustAHumanHere]

I think your being very emotional right now. Rightfully so. I think you need to breathe and think of this from an outside perspective. I think you need to ask your mom for a time and place and insist on having a grown up mature conversation with her. Feel your feels before the conversation so when your talking to her your clear, logical and thinking of the bigger picture. Tell her what is bothering you, ask her to give you a moment and hear what your saying and to please let you say it. She needs to know that this is really bothering you, you can't expect change if she's not 100% aware of how this affects you. She will also see your serious if you approach this in a mature way. I'd suggest calm down, maybe drink a calming pill and then talking to her, in a place you both feel safe. I used to have a lot of issues with my mom to, and I know being 20 as apposed to 16 when we faught, that parents fuck up. And their human. And they don't have their shit together either. People react in ways because of stuff that's happened to them. I know this might be hard, but try to sympathize with her on a human level to see why she is doing this. If you've done all of this, and you know in your heart you've tried to work on this relationship then you truly know it's not your fault and you done all you could. Goodluck, I hope it all works out. Fighting with parents sucks. Being compared to a talented sibling is even worse.