Guys, do you like when a woman chases you or do you care if she doesn’t?

[Pinay_ako]

Ladies, do you chase? Or replace?

[ZackBan]

My answer to this changed over tbe years.

I used to say the chase didn't matter and I didn't mind it.

But being chased by a woman is a game of russian roulette.
She could be in it for the good time but she could also be trying to "fix you" and settle you down when you don't want to.
That can be dangerous.

[LiamS95]

It depends on which woman is chasing me.

[Pinay_ako]

Meaning?

[LiamS95]

If I'm attracted to her please keep chasing you're going to catch me... lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 what if she doesn’t

[LiamS95]

Too bad, there's alway another one.

[Finchie40]

I prefer having a girl chase me , mainly from my own personal experiences with girls’ the ones that chased me , are the relationships that lasted the longest Most females know what they want and what they are after Most females have a lot more options to choose From than guys’ tend to have. So if she wants me , she doesn’t really treat me like a convenience, she makes me her priority compared to the girls’ I chased that eventually started treating me like a convenience

[AviatorTom]

My father once told me that he chased my mother until she caught him. They were married for almost 50 years, until he passed away.

[ManOnFire]

It's fun. It's nice to know a woman is into you that much, but it's not required for me.

[DishLady]

The problem here is whether someone values themselves — their own time, gifts, etc. If they value themselves they won't chase someone who doesn't value them. If we were meant to chase, we'd have four legs… it would be faster.


Some guys like to chase — a risidual effect of the "hunter-gatherer" instinct — but then their egoes get in the way when they THINK the woman is going to figure out that they're not "all that and a bag of chips." So then the "fight or flight" kicks in and… you guessed it… flight seems to be the dominant thing (ghosting, gaslighting, not taking accountability for starting something they don't plan to see through).


To sum up… ladies don't chase, they value themselves and the people around them enough to find the person who is right for them rather than chasing (which is an empty activity). Gentlemen may do a minimal amount of chasing to feel the satisfaction of a challenge (as part of an ancient reflex), but excessive chasing indicates that they don't value their own time. Respect yoursleves and the right person will come when you're ready.

[Juxtapose]

Just waiting for the right person to come along only works for women.

[Juxtapose]

If you want to see this in action, create a male tinder account and then create a female tinder account.

[DishLady]

Oh, no no no, tinder is quite awful for anyone. Very predatory. I’m not suggesting “just waiting” but not rabidly chasing people down who don’t value you. Sorry if that didn’t come through clearly.

[Juxtapose]

Oh I misunderstood you. Thank you for clarifying.

[Unit1]

@Juxtapose this doesn't Even work for women.
Lately i concluded for myself, that women tend to give the worst dating advises. Just hear this one.
Their Question: how to get a boyfriend?
Their answer: do nothing. Let them come to you.

[Juxtapose]

@Unit1 well if you're a pretty woman and you go out in public even semi-regularly, you're going to get hit on.

[Keyboardkat]

Many years ago a girl chased me. It was loads of fun being chased by a beautiful, sensual girl. Problem was, I fell hard for her, and we were an item for a few months, but then she turned off. I think the problem was she needed a challenge to stay interested, and now the challenge was gone, although she said she loved me. I trusted her and told her how I felt, and within a fairly short time she began to change. If I had stayed aloof from her and remained a "challenge," she might have stuck around, but how long can a person do that? I mean, that's playing mind games. I'm not into games.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd rather direct. Honesty is the best policy. Since now woman ever dared be direct with me not even flirt directly with me, they lost out and I've been single all this time.
After all, women could've asked anytime to me, there's never been a wedding ring 💍 to see and so I never walked in with a chick on my arm

[itsclearlynicholas]

@Pinay_ako short answer: never been chased, was never flirted with or even plainly asked out or flirted by, so you know: the women lost out for it and lol they probably ended up with far lower standards 🧐😅

[itsclearlynicholas]

@Pinay_ako they probably ended up with guys fatter, smellier. I'm slim and fit. So you know. Jokes on those women throughout my 20s, lol huh? Theyd stare or they'd glare, yet they never had guts to ask me or even to flirt with me, so I wasn't gonna ask them out or do the hard yards for them. So yeah, luckier me 😁♂️ happier single me 👍🏻😃

[Pinay_ako]

Are you really happy single you?

[itsclearlynicholas]

@Pinay_ako that's a very insightful question and the answer is: yes and the reasoning why is because: that's how things have played out or been written, true? After all, a man can't pick where he's born or undo his past or have time stand still or ask for 3 wishes and so on and so on. So given all the whole picture, I'd say I'm happy enough, despite my moody moments lol 😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

@Pinay_ako However, if I had my choice in how I'd like to have written my own script, without losing my present day memories and experiences, I'd for one write my own story the way I'd like. Lol 😆 ah well

[itsclearlynicholas]

@Pinay_ako and the 20s passed me by. 🙂 Ah well. 😈

[TommyMountainFigure]

If I was single I still wouldn't chase a woman. I'd just be myself and do what I tell other single people to do.

Go shopping and speak to women just by making polite conversation. It works because everyone goes shopping, and being pleasant doesn't hurt, It isn't creepy and you never know where it might lead!

[Lynx122]

I like it more than the other way around where I'm trying to be good to a girl and she just tolerates me until I askher and she tells me she's not that into me. That happened to me when I was younger in my current relationship she chased me more and it's going well. There are still some issues sometimes but she likes me and I like her so it's good.

[Unit1]

I love it when girls show super duper obvious interest in me (not just looking at me for 2 seconds) and even make a move.

There's a reason we're getting AI Girlfriend simulators and it's gaining popularity day after day.

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[magiusX26]

does not matter for me anymore as i will not participate it fating again. that includes 1. n. s. offers. back when i entertained this aspect of insanity, i would have preffered her to chase a little, if for no other teason than to let me know she is actually intetested.

[JHAYES317]

I’m not like most men…I don’t enjoy the chase. I’d much rather a woman give me her number or ask for my insta than the other way around.

[Pinay_ako]

Why don’t you enjoy the change?

[Pinay_ako]

I mean the chase

[JHAYES317]

@Pinay_ako because rejection gets old fast especially when it’s for the same reasons every time

[Lliam]

I like when they show interest, send signals or take initiative. And if I am slow on the uptake, it's great if they keep trying. But if I show disinterest, chasing becomes annoying. I mean, "Get a clue. Do I have to be rude?"

[DryGermanGuy]

All is fair in love and war. 🤔😬
I hope she would not literally chase me, though. That would look awkward.

[genericname85]

i mean if i didn't care about her, that would be annoying. if i was super into her, that would be nice.

[Pinay_ako]

So if you’re into her but she doesn’t chase, how would you feel and act towards her?

[genericname85]

Depends on if I see any sort of reciprocated affection otherwise. If I don't, I'll assume she's not into me.

[worldscolide]

My wife chased me.. Im married 9 years now, what does that tell you?

[Pinay_ako]

Aww 🥰 that’s beautiful

[worldscolide]

Thank you!

[Markymark92]

I like it but sometimes I don’t catch onto the signs lmao, I’ve been told multiple times I’m horrible at seeing the signs 😂

[Pinay_ako]

You like it? 🤣 why

[Markymark92]

Makes things fun and flirtatious from both sides

[PeachyPie93]

I used to chase, but now if I don't feel wanted, or more then an option I just move on there is no need to chase what is not meant for you.

[slatyb]

Games are for children. I don't have to be chased, and if a woman refuses me I'm not going to ask again.

[SYTHOX]

Yeah it's nice, especially since I I'm not very social or see it as a point to chase after someone unless they're also willing to put in some work without all the games. It's nice to be "chased" feels much more mutual that way

[Chazmatazz269]

I do like it when a woman openly expresses her interest in me.
The two times i felt actually “chased”, it was very stalkery. Not a fan.