Why does he ask my thoughts and feelings, and then says he currently doesn’t want a relationship?

[Candylassi]

This guy I've known for six months as a friend, but there's a stronger connection between us. He has asked me several times, what do I want from him? and what I am looking for?

but then shuts down saying he doesn’t want any relationship. I know he just went through a rough break up out of a long-term relationship maybe a year ago. But it still seems that fear is controlling him. I don’t understand why he’s always trying to know my thoughts and feelings and yet won’t move forward with anything at the moment. And yes, he’s one of those people that Waits for me to sign online message app…like literally waits for me to login and sit there online with me. This is ridiculous.

Why ask me these questions and then say you don’t want a relationship ties? It’s like he’s trying to feel me out, but still living in fear. So maybe is there a chance he will come around eventually?

[Mr_twoface]

Could be two reasons in my opinion. Either his break-up has truly left scares within him that he is afraid to put himself out there and be rejected (again) and hence takes a step back wanting you to express yourself OR he he wants to feel you out as to whether or not you are willing to just be a friend with benefit and hence he doesn't need to commit or take you for granted.

Since it seems that you are frustrated of this game and find some things to be ridiculous, best outcome is once in for all, first know what it is you want and are willing to commit to and take thereafter the lead and communicate with him. Be straightforward and ask those questions you want response on. If you are not seeing or wanting to have a "friend with benefits" relationship with him, before stating your mark, ask him if he wants to do that. If he says yes, then you can say your peace and move on (because i'm thinking in the end he is a guy, so if you say early on that you are not into being friend with benefits, he might suggest that he ain't too without being completely honest about it). Get answers to your questions and then you know what the next move is suitable for you.

Best of luck!

[StarWarGirl]

He has clearly told you that he doesn't want a relationship now. You have also already told him what are you looking for. So things are already clear inbetween you both.

Now you don't think much over why he acts this way etc. People are complicated. Feelings are complicated. There are many times we want something but same time we don't want that. You should simply respect his choice. No matter it's because of his fear or whatever reason. You need not to bother about it but you should simply respect his choice.

And same time you know already what you want also you know he isn't willing to give you that. So you first should accept it and should start looking for other person who can give you what you want. And this is perfectly fine to do as you both are just friends and not in relationship.

You should never force him to give you what you want, also you should not stop yourself being hanging on him that if i want then I want him only, it's wrong. There are many more guys out there who is willing to give you that. So you should move on. And same time you can still remain as friends with him.

[JayBones2469]

Because he wants to take as much as you're willing to give while giving as little as you are willing to accept