My boyfriend gets way harder when looking at other women either before or during intimacy. He never gets that hard for me and we've been together for a long time. Is he more attracted to them? Why would this happen?
Are you actually present when he's fucking other women?
He isn't sleeping with them. Just looking at them. He will either before or during sex or a blowjob. He gets so big and I notice because he has never gotten that big if it's just me blowing him.
We use both. Porn or girls on Facebook.
We did it to try to spice things up because he didn't really seem interested in sex with me very often and when we did he didn't seem very into it.
I suggest y’all stop watching porn. He’ll end up seeing you less attractive because obviously you’re not the same as women on porn. Porn affects sex with your own partner. Talk to him
Maybe in the bedroom before you hit the sheets it’s time to change things up & do a little roll playing or something sexy like that & see if that gets a rise out of him.
Are you suggesting that I need to try something new because maybe he's bored?
Indeed I am & trying something new might be the way to go.
Could also be if he's pushing 30 or if he's just tired of the same old same old blah blah blah blah 😑
He's 36. Do you think he's bored? He's said variety is nice. But I mean he gets bigger than he ever has for me. Part of me isn't complaining because seeing it that big is hot, but at the same time it's like do I just not get him that turned on?
How old are you yourself though and I mean how would you two are physically? I mean couples I guess can be divided in the hot couples, the mixed average hot couples, the ugly couples, the nerd couples, and the list goes on and on. And also I'm no medic, I've just "heard" that like all bodies with aging, things decline. No wonder at 35+ he's not exactly a spring chicken compared to 25. Whether you're hot stuff yourself or whether he's hot stuff. It could also just simply be, that I don't know what I'm talking about, and that's the crux 😋 if I do so say so myself toot my horn 👍🏻😁
He's 36 and I'm 34. We have two kids. So I mean I'm no hot mom running around because I've been busy with a toddler who needs a lot and I do most of it on my own. Don't remember the last time I had time to myself. But I mean after all this time together I figured he would get that turned on for me. I mean I was 20 when we got together. I was thin and cute with big boobs.
I don't think she has much to do with it because all he has to do is look at them and he gets really big. In the entire time we've been together he's never gotten that big for me. Even when I was young, thin and hadn't had kids yet.
Whats this she you're talking about? Lol. Please keep in mind I'm just like ever other sheltered (average mindset) GAG male here. lol. it sounds like you at 20 and the reality of life doesn't stand still, is I don't know lol. Seek a counsellor for professional couples help. That said, there are days where your the described type of 20s big tits small frame (healthy body) that I'd like as my girlfriend aka when I was 20 and a fellow 20 year old woman of your description if I imagine it. That said, I think maybe in hindsight I should be grateful I never with any woman of any type I never got hitched to any woman. Otherwise now I'd be 30 ( I am 30) yet fatter or unhappier. I would say like anyone I have my moody days. Anyways. What can I tell you lady? Lol.
Time just doesn't stand still for nobody. That said, for many many years now I've known I don't want offspring. Hooray me. And that said, I think I for one am really a happy single guy, sure with regrets, and baggage, a happy enough guy who should appreciate his good fortunes more often even little fortune it is lol 😆
Speaking for myself about myself. Anyways lady. All the best to you and seek professionals if you need them. And yeah, happy 2024 ahead to ya, Irish to be sure to be sure 🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪
Thank you for that. And I'd love to seek a professionals help, but he refuses to. So what can I do? But thanks for reading and trying to give the best advice you could. I appreciate it.
If you had your time again if I may ask, to and this is a rather "crass " question to a degree and a real "out there" however I do want to ask since you've actually now at 34 lived the real world life experience aka you met a hot guy when you were hot 14 years ago or more now, you got marriage, kids, and so on and now things "appear" like they are on the rocks a little can I ask: would you do anything differently knowing still what you know yet transported back to 20 year old self you?
I just like to hear people's introspection and hindsight and Brains 🧠
I absolutely would. I would have followed my instincts back then and I wouldn't have gotten with him. I definitely always wanted to get married and have a family so I would eventually do that, but I would choose more wisely. I would also go back to school and figure out what I wanted to do and prioritize that ahead of a relationship.
Can I just ask, though, and I don't mean this additionally as so shallow yet, a woman like yourself in your 20s, the way you sounded, I wonder a) why any woman would just prioritise party time in their 20s and by 30s b) still enjoy being childless in their 30s and partying or steady with a solid boyfriend. Whether he lasts as a husband or is just a lifelong man hot bod until his muscles decline aka 40 lol 😆
I guess boobs sag and skin sag is the same with 30s/40s aging also as much as a guy losing his looks over time lol
On the plus side lady, at least you can say, I never settled and I never got hitched and at 30 now myself, neither appeals to me. Lol
I mean sure I could even if I really tried lol I could even date a 20s woman right and me the "matured seasoned man" lol with his life together lol and party up my 30s
However you know
Most women want offspring. I don't
Lol 😆
That's completely fine. To each their own. Some choose not to have kids. I always knew I wanted kids though. I didn't really party much. I got pregnant very early and had my first at 21. So there was just never time for that. If I could go back now, I would have waited longer and been more careful because I didn't get to enjoy just being in my 20's like you said. But I will say I wouldn't have kids quite as late as I have. I had my second when I was a month shy of being 31 and now I'm 34 and pregnant with my third. So I know that isn't helping things. I definitely wanted to have my kids earlier though and closer together. But it is what it is at this point. All I know now is that I just want to be happy and I'm not because I feel like he's not being honest with me about something and I feel as though I don't matter.
All the best to you lady
I guess my only. last question would've been, was he only interested in you at 20 from day one for the big tits and slim body? 😋👀 On yourself truly. I guess all men are the same.. lol I won't lie that I came across in my 20s many gorgeous women some blessed with their assets and features yet they were either already taken or claimed taken or they just you know. Fizzled away or they got fat or they just plain never I saw them again. You know. If they're not into me okay dokey
@Asker did you wish to add me? I'd enjoy chatting to you via private message for just a little longer lol unless you'd prefer not the convo topics of like 20s aged you lol back down memory lane for escapism lol 😆
Of course. How do I add you? I'm new to this whole thing but really needed answers.
Usually following once a user is here long enough lol 😆😁
Gotha. I figured it out and followed you. 🙂
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You’re gonna have to talk to him about it and have a serious conversation and what makes you think this is the case?
It's because I can feel it. I've tried to talk to him but he just says it's all in my head or that it has to do with how long he's been turned on but even when we have sex or I give him a blowjob for a long period of time he still never gets that hard for me. He just gets way bigger when he's looking at other women during it. I mean decided to try something new but then I noticed this. So I'm wondering if maybe he's just more attracted to them?
Because he does it right before a blowjob or during one.
We did it to try to spice things up because there was no excitement there anymore it seemed. So we started doing this and I noticed how much bigger he got and I asked him about it and he just said it's all in my head even though I can feel it. He also said it's because of how long he's been turned on but I mean we've had sex for an hour before and he's had long blowjobs in the 14 years we've been together and it still never gets like that for just me. If we include something else, it does. I feel like he isn't being honest with me about it.
If he is looking at other women, it is probably already over.
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