I have this huge feeling that my boyfriend is not into me anymore?

[Anonymous]

Hey ya’ll, I don’t think my boyfriend loved me or even likes me anymore. We barely talk on the phone anymore, text or hangout. I do complain a lot about his social media and how he used to like girls bikini pictures and follow bikini girls all the time. He doesn’t do it anymore but I complain how he used to and he backed off so much that we don’t go out on dates and guess what, I complain about that we don’t go out on dates, we barely hang out and he hangs out with his friends more and I complain about that too. My friends have told me to give him some time and when he does call me to be pleasant to talk to and i will start seeing that he will want to be around me more. As that is great advice, i don’t think it’s going to work :( I think he has gotten to the point where he does not like me anymore. yesterday he went all day without calling me or texting me. Also if we do talk on the phone or do hangout it’s not fun or pleasant because i’m boring to talk to. Since i don’t do anything with my day I don’t have anything to talk about and I don’t have any friends so I also don’t talk to anyone either. I’ve also noticed that if I do try to talk to him about anything he doesn’t really talk back.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks that you're feeling like your boyfriend's not into you anymore. I know that's gotta hurt a lot. It sounds like there's been a lot of tension and distance between you two lately.

The constant complaining about his social media habits and how much time he spends with friends instead of you probably isn't helping the situation. I get that you're feeling insecure, but constantly nagging at him is just gonna push him further away.

Your friends give good advice - try to be more positive and pleasant when you do talk or hang out. But I gotta be real with you, it seems like the damage might already be done here. If he's going whole days without even reaching out, that's a bad sign.

Honestly, it kinda sounds like he's just over the relationship at this point. The lack of communication, lack of quality time together, and overall disconnect are major red flags. As much as it sucks, you might need to start preparing yourself for the possibility that this thing is coming to an end.

My advice would be to have an honest, vulnerable conversation with him. Don't accuse or argue, just express how you've been feeling and see if there's any willingness on his part to work on things. But be ready to accept that he might not be invested anymore.

This is a tough situation, but try not to blame yourself too much. Sometimes relationships just run their course, no matter how much you care. Focus on taking care of yourself, and don't be afraid to lean on your friends for support. You got this, girl.

[teamvic]

If it wasn't like this in the beginning of the relationship then yes that seems like it would be the case

And that he's losing or already lost feelings

A wise man once said," theyll put up with you, till they can replace you"

You constantly complaining about stuff isn't helping either. Now I'm not telling you you shouldn't be complaining and the stuff you keep bringing up to him is valid but to HIM it's just more stuff he's gotta deal with

It may not be what you wanted or were hoping to hear. But it's what you needed to

[Anonymous]

Then let him go, don’t chase or hang on when he isn’t either. You already felt the shift, felt him pulling away, why cling to someone like this? Where you can feel in your heart he’s losing interest?

[Nikki1989]

"We barely talk on the phone anymore, text or hangout."

Have some self-respect and move on.