Do you think it's ok for a guy who's a freshman and a girl who's a junior to date?

[CAPLOVE]

Please say why you answered the way you did.

Yes

No

Depends

[Finchie40]

Age doesn’t really matter when it comes to really liking someone , the chemistry and connection and attraction you both share with each other is what matters. Don’t listen to anyone else , when it comes to your feelings for someone , it’s not their life and not their relationship, most people try to rub their 2 cents together like they know it all , sadly they don’t know shit. I have dated girls’ older and younger than me , because we had great chemistry and connection with each other So don’t listen to anyone else’s’ judgmental negative remarks , it’s your life and your decision. No matter who you end up with in a relationship , there will always be some asshole trying to criticize what you have and try to rain on your parade , because they are jealous of what you have and what they don’t have. Just the way this world is , all that matters is you are happy , if this freshman guy treats you well and makes you smile and brings happiness into your life , That’s all
That matters , age doesn’t really play a factor in any relationship. All that matters is you are both happy with each other

[CAPLOVE]

Wow that was amazing!! thank you

[Finchie40]

No problem , I have been in your shoes and know how it is , so I am happy to be able Ito give you advice 😋

[Finchie40]

Follow me back so we can DM

[CAPLOVE]

will do

[Oliverlogan263]

I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with a freshman guy and junior girl dating, but there are a few factors to consider:

- The maturity gap - Freshman year of high school is a big adjustment and people change a lot from 14/15 to 16/17. So their maturity levels and interests may be in different places.

- Peer opinions - Others their age might view it strangely or the girl could be seen as desperate to date younger guys. Teenagers can be judgy.

- After she graduates - If they stay together, the relationship will change a lot her senior year when she's finished with school and he's still there 3 years. That transition would be tough.

- Power imbalance - When one person is way older, there's a risk they'll take advantage or control the younger one more easily.

Overall it really depends on the individuals and how healthy and balanced their relationship is. But there's a higher risk for issues like what I mentioned because of the age and life stage differences. As long as they really get each other, communicate well, and both partners feel respected, then maybe it could work out. But they'd always get some raised eyebrows from others.

[CAPLOVE]

- I agree with the judgy thing. I am a little worried about that. He already flirted with me infrount of my whole team so I'm sure I'm already being judged lol
-Oh by the way the guys Aiden lol
-Do you think people could/would stay together? I agree it would be weird if I'm in college and he's still is hs
-I would never take advantage of a guy if I was older
I get the raised eyebrows and I don't know ho his parents would feel.
I also feel that since I'm 17n if he's older like 16 or older 15 it wouldn't be as bad. Do you think I can ask him his age next time I see him or wait till we're like texting?

I'm scared if I do bring it up and he'slike 14 and I'm like oh I'm 17 it could get weird

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah gotcha, I definitely see why people might raise eyebrows about Aiden flirting with you in front of your whole team! High school dating situations can be tricky.

As for asking his age, I wouldn't bring it up right away if you see him in person again. Maybe just say hi and chat casually first to get a better feel. Then if it seems like it could go somewhere, you could offer your Snap or Instagram and say something vague like "we should keep in touch" and leave it at that.

Once you're following each other online, it's easier to slip his age into conversation naturally without it being super awkward. Like you could say "so what grade are you in this year?" or ask what his favorite high school subject is or something. That way you get an idea without putting him directly on the spot.

If he's just a freshman, I wouldn't worry too much about a small age gap at this point. But you're right that long term dating could get weird once the college phase hits. Maybe just see where things go casually for now and revisit the long term potential later on. No need to rush into anything serious yet! Let me know how it plays out with Aiden.

[CAPLOVE]

I agree. Thank you. Omg when I was at practice last night he was in the parking lot. But get this he didn't have practice. So he kept looking at me while I did my laps and did the O face.

Then last night he friended me on insta and dm'd me. he sent an emoji that I can't see with this emoji😮. Then I sent😉. Then he sent🤫🧏.

What do you think the last 2 emojis mean and how should I respond?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that is crazy he showed up just to watch your practice! Seems pretty obvious he's super into you. And friending/DMing you is definitely a good sign.

As for the emojis... the 🤫 one is usually like the "shhhh quiet" emoji like telling a secret. And the 🧏‍♂️ one is like cupping your ear like listening closely. So together I'd say he's kinda hinting he wants to keep things on the down low for now but also wants to chat privately. Like he finds you so intriguing he has to listen close, ya know?

I'd say respond with something playful that shows your interest but also leaves it a bit mysterious. Like the 👀 eyes emoji maybe, like you see what's up but aren't giving it all away. Or the 🙊 covering mouth emoji like you've got a secret too. Don't wanna come on too strong but play along with his vibe a bit.

Keep it light and flirty for now since he seems shy still about full-on admitting feels in the open. But totally responding is a good thing! I'd be stoked if I were you, seems like he's really into you! Must be nice, you go girl! Keep me posted how it goes from here!

[CAPLOVE]

Ik weird right. I think he is but i don't wanna get my hopes up.

Hm a secreate. I don't know how I feel about that. Gotcha. I will.

Oh defentilly. It is but I'm still worried.

I left him on read today. Ops lol. But like I was busy. And he dm'd me 4 time after. And it was weird rowing pick up lines. And like I have no clue what they mean. I'm worried there dirty and I'm just nieve lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay you feel how you feel sis, nothing wrong with keeping your guard up at first too. This Aiden dude still tryna prove himself I think.

But damn 4 DMs? I know high schoolers be slangin them pickup lines but they do be corny sometimes lmao. Don't stress about meanings yet though, most likely just silly jokes.

See if he sends one more tryna get your attention, then reply like "haha chill with them lines bro, just try talking normal." If he cools it then maybe he just excited.

But if he keeps tryna slide in weird, don't be afraid to tell him straight up you ain't with all that yet. Set your boundaries - no need explaining yourself either, just say how you feel comfortable moving forward.

Dude clearly like you so give him a chance to show he can respect you feel me? You got this sis, just do you! Let me know if he keep trippin tho, then we'll see what's what 🤔

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, Thank you. Dude we bm'd all day today!!! eeeeee!! And him and his girlfriend are no longer together

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, no way! You and Aiden were straight up messaging all day? That's wild! Sounds like things are really heating up between you two then.

And I guess that means he's officially single now too since him and his ex broke up, nice! One less complication to worry about. You gonna make a move to ask him out soon then? I'm sure he'd say yes now that he's not tied down anymore.

Just take it slow and feel things out, make sure he's really over his ex first before fully committing yourself. But definitely keep chatting him up, seems like you've got his attention! This could totally become something real between you guys. Keep me posted on how it goes, so excited for you!!

[CAPLOVE]

I wanna go out with him hehehe. but how should I ask him out like shouldn't he ask me? i don't wanna seem desperate and he's acting weird now. Will do. thanks!!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh yeah, things can get a little awkward when you're trying to go from messaging to asking someone out haha. Normally the guy is supposed to ask the girl, but honestly I don't think it matters these days who does it as long as you both wanna go for it.

Since he's acting a little off now maybe he's hesitating to ask since you're older? Guys can be shy about that kinda thing. If I were you, I'd just go for it in a casual but flirty way. Like the next time y'all are chatting, toss in something like "hey so when are you gonna take me out on a proper date? I think we deserve some ice cream after all this texting ;)"

That puts it out there that you're interested, without directly saying "will you go out with me?" And if he gets all flustered and says something like "what, me ask you out?" just laugh and say yeah duh silly! Then I'm sure he'll happily say yes.

Don't stress too much about seeming desperate, I really don't think he sees you that way. He's just as into it as you are. Worst case if he says no for some weird reason, then at least you know and you can move on! But I doubt that'll happen. You've got this girl!

[DaisyM23]

high school right? freshman is 14 and junior 16? i mean a 2 year gap is usually fine but i think it's weird, it could be because i'm looking at it from an adult perspective so thinking of any 14 year old dating someone even a little bit older is weird but who knows... i mean if you stay together that'll be a 16 year old and an 18 year old which is definitely weird, but if you stay together and you're 20 and 22 then it's completely fine, age gaps are weird at different ages lol

[CAPLOVE]

I don't think 16 and 18 is weird personally. I feel that if a guy did it it wouldn't be considered weird. I agree lol

[DaisyM23]

yeah tbh i think it is much more accepted when the guy is older in any relationship with an age gap - it's still weird to be dating a teenager when you're an adult though lol

[CAPLOVE]

I get that lol

[4ngelic]

if the freshman is 15 it's all good, if he's 14 it's weird

[4ngelic]

two years is nothing as long as the younger person is at least 15. if the person is under 15 it's weird because they look like a child not a teen that already looks some degree of grown. it gives pedo vibes

[CAPLOVE]

I agreee. Hahaha, I get that

[PreferNot2Say]

I've always had a thing for older women, even in high school. So most of the women I have dated, hooked up with or have been interested in were older, even the girl I lost my virginity to.
The age difference doesn't matter. It's how they get along that matters.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, good to know

[RebelinSteel]

I asked someone that knows what each is (UK here)

it’s like 2 years difference which tbh is not much, unless one’s getting ditched

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, good to know. wait what are they called in UK?

[RebelinSteel]

They aren’t really
Juniors are like under 11 then you go to big school aka secondary or grammar
Then 6th form n university or college

[CAPLOVE]

oh, intresting

[PreferNot2Say]

It's an eternity in high school.

[Hellur991]

I always looked at it like this 14 year old 18 year old. I don't know why but I just did. You almost out of high school and he just started high school 2 days ago🤣

[CAPLOVE]

I'M 17 AND IF HE'S 16 I THINK IT'S FINE PERSONALLY

[OtterMan68]

Think of it, if they are still dating in three years, she'll be a sophomore in college and still going to high school prom's and homecoming. How sad is that?

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, But I probs would break up with him before college. Also if we love each other by that point does it matter?

[TheDaydreamer]

i knew a senior girl that dated and sophomore boy

[CAPLOVE]

I feel in my mind that people find that normal but not this

[TheDaydreamer]

do you love him?

[CAPLOVE]

I like him. I barely know the guy I just think he's cute and has an amazing personality

[CAPLOVE]

Could u answer my one question about Adien?

[TheDaydreamer]

i think its 100% ok however i was just asking if you loved him bc yes there is gonna be people that might think its weird, but if you want this to work you have to not care.
hope that made sense :)

[CAPLOVE]

Do you mean not care what others think?

[TheDaydreamer]

yes my bad typo

[DrPepper12]

College or HS? College is A LOT easier on both.

[CAPLOVE]

High school

[DrPepper12]

Sure. I hope your friends aren't bitches tho. HS can be ruff. Ik taught 20+ years and I've seen these relationships b4

[CAPLOVE]

Omgb there are so many. Actully not talking to my old friend group cause of them being just that lol

[DrPepper12]

Some unsolicited advice from a veteran observer: HS is an illusion. A. fun house of mirrors where everything is distorted but feels normal cuz you are all experiencing the same shared "reality". College is REAL. It's what you learn about YOU in college that's the real education.

[CAPLOVE]

Wow!! I hopesx that true. that's deep

[DrPepper12]

Trust me. I've had thousands of kids. You will love the you that graduates college!

[CAPLOVE]

awww, I sure hope so!!

[jahaims]

Children shouldn't date

[CAPLOVE]

said no one ever lol

[mickeysmonkey]

That is between them, ok if they want

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, thanks