Alright I had to scroll down a lot to find which side you actually meant, so as a tip you come across extremely selfish in this post while you are trying to be selfless. Next time it's better to also write that you wish to allow him to have sex with others, it's important context for the actual answer.
Because since you aren't being selfish here he is not going to be the one hurt by it. That is going to fall on you and your ability to handle this. For me I know i'd be heartbroken seeing the love of my life have sex with another guy, I can't handle that. After the close bond I experienced during my last relationship I want nothing more than pure monogamy.
If I put myself in the position where you wanted our relationship to be open i'd still act like its closed because I wouldn't compromise on the connection. Other guys will probably have their fun with it though, so you have to be prepared for your guy not to be like me and actually go out and do it frequently. And then that has to not damage you emotionally.
How you react to it is very personal, I have seen stories where the girl feels empowered because despite every other person he is fucking he's with her at the end of the day and prefers her over anyone else he could fuck. I have seen stories where she becomes jelous and the whole relationship falls apart. I have seen stories where she allowed him out of love but was hurt every single time and neglected by the guy.
So the only good outcome I see is if you either aren't bothered or are the type to feel empowered by it. Otherwise its going to be a struggle of your own making.
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It’s not for everyone , so really think about this before getting yourself involved in one , before making that decision cuz sadly it could backfire on you and you will end up kicking yourself in the ass for making that decision. As for me, I prefer FWB’s with a girl that is on the same page as me , we only have sex with each other but we are both allowed to date other people if we choose to , if one of us ends up in bed with someone else? We promise each other we will just remain friends and eliminate the benefits part. This works for people , including myself that doesn’t want to rush into a commitment with someone right away , it gives us both time to really get to know each other before making that big commitment with each other
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My ex is in one. I can only say she seems happy and she recommended the book The Ethical Slut. I have not read it but I'll pass the recommendation on to you.
I will say if by one sided you only want yourself to be allowed to sleep around the only sort of guys who might go for that are likely busy doing their own thing and won't have a lot of time for you. But if you mean only the guy is allowed to sleep around probably most guys would at least think they want it but might quickly let it go to their head and become unbearably cocky.You’re ready to date. Now you’ll never date. But let me tell tou. Between beinf single forever and having a open relationship. Be single. Trust me. They never work and anyone who claims to be happy and has done this long term is lying or a crazy exception to the rule
No idea, but I would rather jump out of an aeroplane without a parachute than to go through one of those!
"I was thinking about having one whenever I’m ready to date but I want it to be one sided."
You seem like you want somebody to love, but not exactly ready to "date".. Not with that attitude.. LOL..
an emotional rollercoaster that doesn't go anywhere unless you both equally bag partners. If there's any unevenness, someone gets hurt emotionally.
My advice is that you be clear by what you mean one sided, that it is in his favor, not yours.
Why would you want it to be one sided? No one would want to be with you if it were one sided.
Don't do it they have a near 100% failure rate in under 2 years and not one has been reported making it past 5 years
Wish I could. You could always date with the COMMUNICATED caveat that it's not exclusive til you say so.
It's but bad, I'm in one. Well my girlfriend gets to do whoever she wants and I don't.
u mean like , only person allowed to date other person?
The best thing is your independence
I imagine lots of heartbreak?
It's not healthy
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