How has your experience been with open relationships?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I’m sort of in one right now? For an indefinite amount of time? Weird situation, she’s down and out with health issues, so she’s not out dating around, but she’s basically told me she can’t consistently be a physical partner for me, (for about ten-plus years now, I’ve lost count, honestly), so she’s told me I can hook up with or even date other women for as long as she’s like this. The only rule is she doesn’t want to know. And that’s certainly doable because we live two hours apart. So, we’re solid, but she’s just like “dude, I know you have needs, it’s ok, I’d do it too if I were you.” I can basically cheat on her but it’s not cheating…. and that feels weird.

I wouldn’t even bring it up since it’s not a traditional open relationship like you’re probably talking about, but I’m just jumping in to say that there is something, for me, and maybe not for everyone, that feels off for me. I definitely couldn’t handle her going elsewhere. I could absolutely do it myself, hypocritically, lmao, but since the relationship itself it’s built for the long haul, do I want to complicate things? I don’t know. Not the time or place to hash that out, just thinking out loud.

But I say all that to say that I think you need to have a certain mentality and emotional wiring for it to work. The hound dog in me is down, but the good guy in me is very unsure, and I absolutely couldn’t handle a two-way open relationship. The thought of my lady with another guy is just something I can’t take, personally. Just not for me, I guess. But if everyone involved is into it and the rules are clearly defined and observed, it’s probably a great situation for people who are built for that sort of thing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

they seem pointless to me

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I fail to understand how is it a “relationship” if parties involved are sleeping with other people…

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

they are pointless

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No experience. Why call it a "relationship" if it isn't monogamous?

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

They're nothing more than excuses to fuck.

All around nothing more than an excuse to fuck each other, an excuse to fuck others, and it's just an excuse to not take the relationship seriously as well. New chicks would be like "Why should we have sex?" and that excuse was used to convince them to fuck as well.

You'd be amazed at how many chicks will go for the straight-up nothing-but sex without the threat of someone catching feelings involved. Some would stop because they feel guilty for cheating on their main guy... only to call randomly and just want more dick. It's an excuse for them as well as for yourself to just fuck.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Most of the ones I know of have ended really badly every time. Keep in mind I have been in the non monogamous lifestyles since the 90's, swinging etc.

The biggest difference is trying to split such emotional attachments to so many other partners, everyone loses. Every single person involved has to sacrifice their own needs to try and keep things balanced which is nearly impossible. There are very very rare examples of it being somewhat successful, but even those relationships take a unimaginable amount of time, energy, emotional investments is staggering.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’m too territorial for that shit so not willing to try. I have talked to more than one guy at a time and been in several love triangles where they fought over me. But i wasn't able to get physical with either nor consider commitment until i made a choice. So yea just not for me

molonski2 · Answer

I've never had one , and my only experience was when I realised one of my partners was in an open marriage , married to this European guy , honestly it was a long time ago and really I didn't handle it well..

I think I could have , but she should have explained it to me first , as it was very strange meeting the husband , but I will say , he had a great life happening in Phuket , and a stunning property.

Anonymous · Answer

Mostly only had friends with benefits experience but when we started dating we were exclusive till we opened up with me dating an ex. It went very well for 2 years romantically but been ended since 2019. Only had fwbs since and it’s been perfect honestly. Jealousy is a thing for some people but as long as it’s another part of your social life usually it goes well for most people!

sawno · Answer

From my experience with monogamous ones I can already tell its not for me. I LOVE being loyal to my girl and seek that deepest connection possible. I'm seeking someone to truly commit to, not a relationship where we fuck around.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Amazing, over 8 years and life has never been better for us.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in an open marriage and it's going great.  Answering anonymously so people don't attack me in dms. 😂

Anonymous · Answer

It worried about stds if I was you who do this, also billions of people who took the vax now have internal problems that can be transferred to others during sex. its not worth the risk.

Anonymous · Answer

Mine has been mostly friends with benefits and it worked out fine.

GWolcott · Answer

It’s depends on the open relationship you’re talk  about.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

An "open relationship" is not a relationship, it is a dysfunctional fuck buddy arrangement.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Well...

MissBoogus · Answer

It was tough the first few months but after we got adjusted it’s great

9in_Serpent · Answer

I have not been in one yet but i firmly believe this is how relationships are meant to be

Luckycharms12 · Answer

I've no experience so can't say for some majority people wouldn't go for it.

meh51 · Answer

Why need a relationship when it's open relationship?

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t be in an open relationship if i wanna fuck around one night stands + casual dating rather than an “open relationship”

Anonymous · Answer

Open relationships/marriages = failed relationships/marriages.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'm polyamorous and it is working great.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’ve never been in one willingly lol

Minahh · Answer

Don't engage in such bullshit

DreamLife7 · Answer

No , I'm not insecure

Yannae · Answer

Non existent so far.

EBoyXx · Answer

Never been in One

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