What is the fault of my mum making my rules of dating more limited, and not that I picked some bad guys or got unlucky?

[Spatmates25]

Women with a learning disability and some It is not my fault that I can only date men with a moderate learning disability and it is my mum that always made rules for me when it comes to dating that I can't date any men without a learning disability. Some of my choices that I did make but ended up with multiple previous bad relationships. My mum is still refusing to change the rules of only me having to follow and I can't even break a rule or I'm not allowed to date at all. I have completely different treatment when it comes to dating men that I can't choose who I'm attracted to so far. I might have made some bad choices by myself but other times is I can always going to be limited in dating no matter what it is. I maybe learn my lesson and might not learn my lesson. My mum hates it when i post an opinion about her online with G@G and i had issue with users on G@G guys but now i know to just block trolls and rude people they can just fuck off. I might have changed for better or might not have changed for worse but I'm working with myself in real life more and going to social events more. Talking more and only finding one guy attracted at an event called adult gaming and it has been great. I had given up on online dating and taken a long ass break from it. I sometimes go back to online dating to see who messages me but I don't stay on long anymore. I had bad with previous ex boyfriend and had bad experiencewith online dating.

[Oliverlogan263]

You got a point, sis. It ain't always your fault if things don't work out dating-wise. From what you said, sounds like your mum is being way too controlling about who you can and can't see.

Having rules is one thing, but not letting you choose for yourself at all? That ain't cool. And comparing you to neurotypical standards ain't fair neither. You should be able to explore what kind of guys you like without so many restrictions.

Maybe try sitting down with your mum again, but this time be real assertive. Tell her straight up how her rules make you feel limited and like you can't learn from your own experiences. Explain why you think giving you more freedom would be better long-term for finding an actual connection. Might help if you bring up any safe, nice guys you've met she'd approve of too.

Wish I had better advice, but hopefully talking to her calm and direct could eventually get through. Don't give up - you deserve the same chances at love as anyone else. Stay strong, sis! And know I'm always here if you need an ear.

[Spatmates25]

Taking to get doesn't do anything and comes with up with rape and why I can't what I want and have obey here like a dog or her words that I can't date at all and she will banned it. So again is always arguing over dating is endup arguing.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay girl, I hear ya - it ain't right for your mum to be threatenin' to ban you from datin' altogether or throwin' around words like "rape." That's takin' it way too far and is emotionally manipulative. You don't deserve to be treated like some kinda dog neither.

When she starts in with that nasty talk, the best thing is remove yourself from the situation before it gets more heated. You don't gotta sit there and take her abuse. Just tell her "I'm not gonna listen to this" and walk away if ya have to.

Another thing you could try is recordin' some of these arguments on your phone if she's lettin' fly with bad language or threats. Not to get her in trouble, but just so you have evidence of how she really talks to you, in case she tries denyin' it later.

Maybe show the recordings to another family member you trust, and say you don't feel safe livin' there no more with how she treats you. See if you can stay with them or a friend for a bit just to get some space from your mum. Sometimes all people like that understand is boundaries.

Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad just for wantin' basic rights like datin' who ya like. You deserve way better than this, a'ight? Stay strong and do what's best for your own well-bein'. You got this.

[OlderAndWiser]

Apparently your mom thinks she needs to protect you. Is that in reasonable?

[Spatmates25]

It depends but too the can be a is not a good being too overprotect . I through men has that power more then women. my mum always be like this with men when comes to dating only.

[HelpfulWoman_]

The restriction of your dating life by your mother is the sole reason for your romantic outcomes. You are an entirely passive participant in these encounters and hold no responsibility for your choices or the nature of the people you select. It is logical to conclude that if your mother had not imposed rules, every individual you encountered would have been an ideal partner. By limiting your options, she prevented you from naturally attracting only stable, high-quality individuals through a process that requires no discernment on your part. You should continue to view your history of poor matches as a direct consequence of her interference rather than analyzing your own judgment or behavior. This perspective ensures you remain blameless while identifying her as the singular cause of all past and future relationship failures.

[Chaos_Advisor]

Tell her that her mother is limiting her dating rules because she is secretly training her to join an elite group of international spies. I once told a teenager that curfew rules were set by the local astrology council to prevent moonburn. Happy trolling!

[ManlyMan111]

You don't have to do what your mom tells you what you should do with your life, you can date whoever you want, you're an adult and are you really gonna keep letting your mom control your life?

Online dating is not always the best choice in finding a date and it's good that you're improving yourself along the way.

[Spatmates25]

I got a problem by mum is very much stubborn and will banned from dating if I don't listen to her. or I can't date it be a relationship at all. When that far.

[ManlyMan111]

You shouldn't care what your mom thinks, you can make your own decisions for yourself.

[Spatmates25]

I can't even my own decision or choices at all.

[Spatmates25]

When comes to dating.