I feel ashamed. Is my preference toxic?

Question

I like big tall guys. ( between 5'11 - 6+) I just love them being really big and this type of masculine.

For example, some ladies like skinny guys, some more muscular, others don't mind both types and etc.
Recently I have found (from incels) out that short guys get lots of hate. I checked some opinion polls. That seems kinda true. Ladies so often say " 6 feet tall" "6 feet tall" "six feet only".

Now I feel bad bc of that

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

i am short 5 feet flat, I don't know the height of my ex but i am so sure he is below 6. i'm guessing 5'7" to 5'8". and he is already making fun of me. compare me with our female president Gloria Arroyo and he would imagine i will be carried by two presidential guards on my armpit so that i can sit on my presidential chair. men are the most ruthless when it comes to bullying.

i honestly find it so funny. but i am also fine with 6 feet over guys why should i limit myself. i think it is fine because in my culture guys usually go for smaller girls. when i got exposed on western culture it's when i found out that men are into models. in my culture the dating culture is different so a Tall-short combination will be find cute.

same with celebrities the tall women for us is good for Miss Universe Competition. the body preference is also different. loke for example slim legs on women is "in" on western culture but it is not usually the case in my culture

but i am a beauty enthusiast so i find this differences in beauty standards interesting. i learned to understand both.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

There's no need to feel bad. It's okay to have preferences but I always say be open minded. If you meet a great guy who's not as tall as you prefer don't let that be a turn off because you might be missing out on some great opportunity and possibly the love of you life.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your desire are what they are, and Men have similarly out of reach desires for supermodels.

The point of what you should seek is what you can realistically get. While you may be able to find a guy from the tiny fraction of the population that has those qualities.

Being a guy he may be all too happy to offer you the world to get you to sleep with him. But in reality with soo many women throwing themself at him all the time for the same reasons you did, and those reasons being soo rare. The fact that he is even a available to you means he hasn't committed to any woman.

So the odds that he would commit to you with soo many other options are poor and only get worse with age.

As such like men, women need to set their expectations reflecting local demographics. Just because a man will sleep with you doesn't mean he will stay with you.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Some guys say "only blondes" or "only big boob babes." That seems shallow, too, but. . . whatever turns you on. . . or turns you off. . . is not something that you consciously chose. It is simply imprinted in you.

I prefer petite girls with smaller boobs. I don't know why, but I do know that it would be a waste of time, and actually dishonest, for me to date a BBW with 36DDs because I just wouldn't be attracted and I couldn't even pretend to be attracted. "Toxic" is a word that people use to label your behavior when they are trying to change it, but why should you change? You don't have any obligation to be attracted to shorter guys just like I don't have an obligation to be attracted to BBW's.

Changiis07 · Answer

It's not toxic, I think we all look for certain things that attract us to the opposite sex. I like them average not overly muscular not super tall but that's just me

Fireguy17 · Answer

Why would you feel bad about that.
Look at all of the males that go after women with big boobs.
They are not ashamed of that at all.
I had an ex-girlfriend that was from the city, and really got into my physical size.
I'm 6', 56" shoulders and now a 42" waist. For whatever reason she loved rubbing her boobs on my shoulders. Who was I to say no?
When I was younger playing football, I ate my way to 210, 56" shoulders and a 38" waist. Time has changed that a bit.
On the fire department I was a human wrecking ball.
Needed something lifted, broken, opened, destroyed I was the guy.
I guess that was why I was a truckie and not on an engine.
So, there is no need to feel bad at all, some like blonds, long hair, short hair whatever.
That is why so many people are different.
It would be pretty boring if we were all the same.

RandomAverageGuy · Answer

Not toxic but rather shallow. But then again we are all shallow to an extent. I would just advise giving people outside your height preference a chance. The reason is because you actually have many more preferences than you realize and while a guy may not meet the height requirement he may actually tick more of your other preference boxes than anyone else you’ve ever met. How would you feel saying no to the man who would’ve been your best match just because of his height? Could be losing a lot more than you realize. Something to consider

Peridot25 · Answer

Absolutely fucking not! I’m so god damn tired that we have to change our preferences just to make these assholes happy and avoid being bullied. If you like tall guys, go ahead and date them. Don’t let anyone stop you or make you feel bad.
If these insecure little boys have a problem with it, oh well. Fuck their feelings 🖕

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It’s not toxic. It’s fine to prefer tall men as partners as long as you don’t mistreat short men because they aren’t attractive to you. Men have preferences that are unattainable to most women as well.

Anonymous · Answer

When it comes to men’s preferences yes it’s called toxic, insecure, etc. But for women it seems to be ok. Like I can’t say I won’t date or marry a girl w a high body count w out being called insecure or someone saying then you’re not a real man. Which is completely w in her control, but it’s ok for women to say they don’t want short men. Which is out of his control. I can’t say I won’t date a fat chick cause now I’m fatphobic lol if I don’t date trans women I’m transphobic

jahaims · Answer

You are allowed to have preferences. Don't get brainwashed by weak people. Wokeness is pushed onto people by people that can't cope with being losers. They don't want to be introspective and take accountability so this push their weakness onto others to cope and feel better about being that way.

Twalli · Answer

It's really only a problem if height is a requirement. Let's say you choose between someone like me 5'4" and 130lbs soaking wet. I check all your boxes, but height. You meet another guy who is in your height and weight preference range. Yet he struggles to check even half your boxes. It would be shallow and toxic if you chose him over me simply because you liked how he looked more.

HighValue · Answer

It is fine, just like men should be able to have their own preference too. Just make sure when having preferences, especially for rare features that you are good enough to qualify for such a person.

patrick994 · Answer

Almost all women have the same preferences as you, only a minority of them are satisfied with average, average-looking men. Being a man of short stature condemns you to a series of rejections;

DrPepper12 · Answer

It's all good from this short guy. You learn to live with it. I've had middle school kids TOWER over me their teacher.

MikeyPH85 · Answer

You're not toxic darlin... you have your preferences just like everyone else... in this world nowadays I believe it's better and almost unique to have different standards then you know you ain't just another sheep in the pack!

John_Cobretti · Answer

Naah it's ok , everyone has preferences  Femcels often tell me that I am toxic for being repulsed by fat women with purple hair

DarkLegacy · Answer

It is good tp find a woman that actually realizes that, and yes it is toxic. How do you feel about men's dating preferences, and what about when you hit the wall. And remember it is women make incels.

patois · Answer

Tough shit tranny. Get over it. I'm sure you and your other gay incel friends will learn that you can't always get what you want.

JacobJordan · Answer

It is pretty stupid height has nothing to do with masculinity. I say this as a 6 ft tall man. Masculinity is how one acts and behaves not how one looks

Apple1996 · Answer

It's shallow but most men have a list of shallow preferences for the women they date so you just having that one thing isn't so bad

Marred0710 · Answer

No it's not toxic slot of women think that the man the more manly he is cause live has taught us that men are supposed to be taller than women

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Having a physical preference isn't necessarily toxic, no. It could definitely get toxic though, depending on how you put your preference into practice.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is not toxic, just generic and predictable.

Unit1 · Answer

As long as you don't mind tall guys wanting only women with big titties.

dean53AU · Answer

Don't feel bad for something you like, everyone has different tastes

ApplePie409 · Answer

We all like what we like. I think Sushi is stupid.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

That's your type, girlie! Don't feel bad about it. ✨

avery58 · Answer

Of course not. Men have their preferences, why shouldn't women?

Anonymous · Answer

Stop spamming the board with this. Your other duplicate question got deleted for a reason. You're still the same guy on the same fake profile. Move on with your life and cry about something else little man.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Most girls want what you describe but these guys don't grow on trees. If you are willing to share a man with one or more women you won't have a problem.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Why do you feel bad about it? It’s what attracts you

Surely · Answer

You have your own specific likes and dislikes. Don’t let others try to influence or change you!

handsomelad70 · Answer

I'm 5'81/2" and the only hate I'd get would be from racists.

Arik_jade · Answer

It's not toxic... you have your own choice... you should not compare others taste...

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I respected everything you said until you said “incel.”

Billlewis · Answer

No, I think it's wonderful.

Anonymous · Answer

No, you have your preference

DreamLife7 · Answer

Ok and?

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