Why doesn't society acknowledge the benefits of marriage?

[Anonymous]

I'm getting married in a few weeks. Right now I am just enjoying what marriage really has to offer. I have a strong man to lean on , a therapist to cry to, vent to. He becomes my diary after everyday at work. We soothe, touch, caress each other every night (relieves so much stress), we get to have sex any time we want. I always have someone to do things with, go on vacations with, go out to dinners at restaurants with. I have a best friend to share my entire life with, tell my deepest darkest secrets to. I get a free masseuse, free therapist, free cuddle partner, someone to help me out with the bills, a strong, gainfully employed man who spoils me.

Just a year ago, I was completely single. Lonely, depressed, had very few friends, had to beg people to go on vacations with me (which was extremely difficult because not all of us wanted to go the same places). When I went through a rough period in my career, I had absolutely nobody to talk to. Maybe vented to an occasional friend twice a week but it really didn't do too much for me. I was suffering in silence most of the time. I avoided eating at restaurants because I didn't want to eat alone. Friends were flaky with plans. I had nobody to hug me when I needed it the most. When I had back aches, nobody was there to massage me.

Now I get massages whenever I need it (I no longer have back pain, thanks to my fiance's efforts) . I have someone to pay the bills so I can financially save up to buy a house. I have a man who reminds me that I am loved daily. I have a man who cares enough to escort me to the doctor. When I was single, I remember stumbling around in the streets and vommitting on my way to the doctor's office. Nobody to escort me or ask if I am doing ok. Nobody to cook for me when I am sick.

I think that society needs to stop avoiding commitment and realize that there are tremendous benefits to marriage. There are also hundreds of years of proof that married couples live longer healthier lives than single folks.

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When I was single, I would always be out on weekends trying to find someone. I would date one guy to the next. There was no stability. I had to keep on looking for years out there. Nobody to rely on. Now for the first time in my life, I have stability. Just with 1 person.

[Chazmatazz269]

You didn’t list a SINGLE benefit that ONLY married people enjoy. Because there are none. Just so you know, your man is either an idiot or a masochist. Probably a bit of both. Ell oh ell!
No intelligent, self-respecting man would marry with the marriage and divorce laws the way they are now. YOU got all those benefits PLUS a winning lottery ticket when you’re sick and tired of him. All he gets is a lousy T-shirt. Ell oh ell!

[Asker]

You definitely sound lonely bitter and jaded. No woman would ever be attracted to you

[TommyMountainFigure]

Society refuses to acknowledge it because marriage doesn't work for everyone. The cost of messy divorces run in to thousands, sometimes millions.
However, when you meet the right person as both you and I have, marriage is wonderful I agree with you 100%
Oh, and congratulations for your upcoming wedding!

[Asker]

there is no such thing as the right person or soulmates or "the one". when you say these sort of things... people have unrealistic expectations of marriage and their spouses. The truth is... if you are going to be picky, you will be single forever. There is no such thing as the perfect person. There will always be something you absolutely hate about your spouse. Humans are all flawed.

[Asker]

The people that have the longest marriages are the ones who stuck it out, never gave up, acknowledge that rough patches are normal part of marriage, would do everything and anything to make their marriages work.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Not sure why you're arguing with me. You do know I was agreeing with you, don't you?

[Asker]

I don't agree with the belief that a successful marriage is entirely based on finding the "right person". compatibility is important. but ultimately it has more to do with your determination to make things work and stick through rough patches.

marriage does work for most people. but its just that people have unrealistic expectations of marriage. It's the belief that marriage all boils down to who you marry rather than the work / sacrifices that it takes to maintain a marriage.

Marriage can be glory one day but the total opposite a few months later. But we stick it through because we know we have more to gain being together, at the end of the day. Better days will come. Marriage is a partnership, not a joy ride in an amusement park.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Okie Dokie!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for MHO

[Astarlessnightsky]

What you describe are the benefits of any relationship not marriage specifically.

[Asker]

Who else would do all these things for you on a daily basis besides your parents?

[Astarlessnightsky]

Your partner, married or not.

[Asker]

If you're doing all of that and he won't make u his wife, hez ripping u off

[Astarlessnightsky]

LoL.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Apperantly you are unlucky and only had toxic relationsships.

So sorry about that lol.
That was immature and too quick and without thinking.

I hope you soon find someone who isn't toxic

[In_Trance]

I don't see the benefits of it

[Anonymous]

Because feminism.