Is marriage losing its value in today’s world, and why or why not?

Question

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

Let me tell you something about the world today:
It’s identical to the world of yesterday

10 years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago…. And so on.

There was always people eager to get married
People afraid of it or not finding value in it
People who are unsure because of childhood trauma and bad/ missing role models.
The world was hard place to get by
People worked and lived at the mercy of their economy that is constantly shaken up by wars and conflicts

We love to think that our times are different
The world was a certain way for thousands of years and just now it’s changed

It’s not true

And every previous generation thought the same thing and it wasn’t true for them either

Marriage is marriage.
It’s not a magic pill to a happy future
It’s not a prison or a pain either
It’s what you make of it
By choosing the right partner and building a commonly thought after life

Marriages tank when one spouse sacrifices their hopes and dreams to live out the future of the other one

The true long lasting ones are usually 2 people full pulling in the same direction

Master_Debator · Accepted Answer

No falt divorce is finally removing the commitment part from women. Along with divorce courts making everything favorable to women getting a divorce... I mean "family courts."

If you're a man... what do you stand to gain? We already know what women stand to gain out of a marriage... it's why they want it so bad.

If I told you "Hey man jump out of this plane and there is a 75% chance your parachute will not work or you can sit this out." That's marriage right now. She's probably going to cheat, take your money, disturb your peace... and marriage isn't going to do anything about any of that for you as a dude... in fact... it might make it worse.

Is marriage losing its value in today’s world, and why or why not?

Meanwhile this is how the women end up... I don't blame them for not being all up for marriage either. The ones that are not are probably the better women that I'm not talking shit about here.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Men are losing respect for women because they can see sex online or through paid escorts and women are distrusting men because so many men who chase women are fakes, or have lied to them when they were younger and had pure intentions.

Like when my dad was trying to rent out his apartment to others, at least 40% of the people who wanted to rent the place were fakes, or fraudsters, and we have a friend who ended up renting their place to two fakes and fraudsters in a row.

My dad's friend gets so many scammers calling his house, he stopped answering the phone unless you leave a voice message he can call you back at and he recognizes the voice and person and number in the message.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I would like you to explain what kind of value marriage had in society?

Was it that little piece of paper that stated that you have to pay alimony when you separate from your spouse? Is it that lie that people make when they state that they will remain faithful till death? With so many marriages failing because of cheating, what value does that paper have?

I have never been in favor of a marriage. It is an antique concept of the religion that wanted to bind them to the church but that has absolutely no longer a meaning in today's society.

HawkPerception · Answer

The 50-60% divorce rate is an overestimated myth. Divorce rates have actually been steadily declining in Canada and America for decades now. It's still high though, sitting at around a 38-40% divorce rate. So going into a marriage apparently has more than a third chance of failing, which is still a high risk.

The thing is, people don't take their vows seriously. The till death do us part is just words to them. Being "a man of your word" used to have a lot more meaning, but nowadays, everyone just says whatever the heck they want to get their foot through the door.

Approximately 70% of women initiate divorce, and when that happens, men do tend to lose a lot. And because of pattern recognition, men are opting out of it. They don't want to repeat the mistakes of other men.

Would I say marriage is losing value? No. You can't lose what you've already lost.

Are there still hopeless romantics who genuinely want to be married. Yes. I'm one of them.

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage itself has not lost any value. The problem is the perception today's men have of marriage. Half of marriages end in divorce, women initiate 80% of them, and men still get screwed in divorce court and child custody.

That will never change until society begins holding women accountable for their actions. But unfortunately I don't see that happening any time soon. Society (and women) blame men and assume divorces are cause by men's bad behavior. While that is true in some cases, it's not in most. Cheating is NOT the primary cause of divorce; studies consistently show a lack of commitment is the #1 reason.

Look up the worldwide statistics on divorce rates among straight, gay and lesbian couples. The lowest rate is among gay couples, the highest rate by far is among lesbian couples, and the rate for straight couples in somewhere in the middle. In other words, the more women there are in a marriage, the higher the likelihood it will end in divorce. Thank about that.

It's worth noting that according to CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS), rates of domestic violence are higher among lesbian couples than straight couples.

It's clear women are the primary cause of these things, but society will never acknowledge that, so marriage rates will continue to decline.

msc545 · Answer

I think that marriage has lost its value completely, at least for men. Women have weaponized not just marriage but also divorce in the sense that when a divorce occurs, women get the absolute majority of the property, the money, the children, and everything else that can be divided in a rational way. Sometimes, even in an irrational way.

As a result of this, men see marriage now as a terrible financial risk for themselves as well as an emotional risk. They just won't do it. That includes me.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I can't define what "Today's world" is, because it means 100+ countries I have no idea about. I hardly have an idea about what's going on in my city, so the world is completely out of my league.

I can't define what marriage's value universally is, because I don't see a clear consensus about that. I can only assume it means commitment overall, but I see commitment's going on, in and out of marriage, around me.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Marriage has not lost its value. In many cases the people getting married have lost any sense of values or sacrifice but they have discovered a huge helping of entitlement. It's not the institution that has changed, it's the people. Thanks internet.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it has
There are multiple reasons, emotional baggage from past relationships, financial independence, adultery.
All these issues have created a doubt in everyone's mind that the other one cheats on them.
There there are scams just marrying for the money.
Due to social media everyone wants an ideal partner to begin with in place of settling down with what they got.
So easiest way to have everything with a commitment is staying in a relationship.
Both parties are just mostly emotional hurt.

Dargil · Answer

These might be some factors. The divorce rate on the United States is approximately 50%. Of that 50%, 80% of those divorces are filed by women. That means marriages end 40% of the time because women file divorces. They always blame the husband for the divorce even though they file it. And are not satisfied with separation. They want to eviscerate him as punishment for their bad decision making. It is definitely a sad state of affairs. And women brought this on themselves.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think so yes. The reason? I think many are choosing to get married for the wrong reasons: social pressure, doing what is the done thing vs what they want to do or more broadly choosing to get married to fill a void.

findacure4wokeness · Answer

a lot of people have lost respect for marriage vowels.

Find someone from a church who really believes in till death do you part and believe it yourself too. That way you can both build a life together. Marriage should always be honoured.

Anonymous · Answer

yes and it's due to secularism

secular marriage makes no sense and is more delusional than religious marriage

even if religion is "delusional" at least they try to buy into it

secularists are "supposed" to be logical and critical free thinkers, follows the facts and not be swayed by "faith" but insist you must have "faith" in your partner even if the facts say otherwise

RavVid · Answer

It is not losing it's value at all. It has just become entirely negative value instead of positive value as it once was. Negative value is still technically value though.

jshm2 · Answer

No. People are losing their value, and not worth marrying. In fact there has been a jump is people marrying anime characters and sex dolls instead.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Marriage will never lose its value. People lose their value and make lousy partners.

Unycorn · Answer

Still beings positive effects for your taxes *lol Being princess for one day will never lose its magic.

exitseven · Answer

no, it is not. Anything that has the word marriage or wedding in it is twice as expensive. Flowers, a cake , . A average wedding easily will top $10,000.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Marriage in many places lost its value when "no fault" divorce was introducted. Now the cheater gets half and even spousal support if he or she is the lower earner. Why take that risk?

Anonymous · Answer

marriage never loses value. There are benefits from marriage that you can't get from being single. its just that people don't know how to do marriage anymore.

heruncommonsense · Answer

Marriage never held any value, because males are incapable of pair-bonding.

dragoblack · Answer

Yeah. Personally, marriage should always be the ritual and never get government involved aside from name change. The moment you get government marraige, then it fucks everyone over.

loveyouoak · Answer

Yes, it’s losing its value, which is good for women, as it gives them more freedom.

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately, yes. And to make matters worse people are using that as their crutch. "Well, so many other people get divorced, so that gives me and excuse to give up and not try".

Massageman · Answer

Younger generations don't understand a simple concept - commitment.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose there's just too many (explicit) answer here - too many skanks and hoes ✌️😦😰😋 and who can afford it anymore 😄👀

jahaims · Answer

Yeah, poor cultural and societal values led to this

Anonymous · Answer

It's because one gender treats it like it's something that you wipe your ass with and flush down the toilet.

In_Trance · Answer

Not to those who believe in the Church and/or the State

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think so, but there are lots of divorces, maybe there is something to it.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Depends on how the value is assigned

Drumlin2001 · Answer

It lost value 30 years ago

Skyros · Answer

In some ways.

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