Am I doing something wrong and is there’s something wrong with me?

[s_lynn22]

I’m 22 and I never had a boyfriend before and I never been asked out on a date. I just feel like I only attract guys that want to get something out of me, and not a good way. I’m quite and softspoken, and I get use to you when I get to know you more. Others have said I’m very sweet, and nurturing. I’ve had people tell me that I look like I can be someone’s mom lol. It’s just if I am all these things why guys don’t approach me or take interest in me? I’m tired of hearing people say, “it’ll come when you least expect it.” And also you’ll find love when you stop looking for love. Which I guess it’s true because I’ve seen people talk about it. But I haven’t been searching for love like I’m desperate. But it’s just feels like no one wants me as a girlfriend or a wife. It’s like I’m only good enough to be someone’s friend. I really do think that I’m going to be alone my whole life and never get married. And I need to learn to accept it, because I don’t know how many tips and advice I can take to find the one, and I’m to point where nothing is working and don’t want to try anymore.

[Chazmatazz269]

You might be doing something, but not necessarily. The culture has changed, and not for the better.
Women have been demanding that men stop harassing them for generations. Unless you wave some sort of banner to indicate to men that you want to be approached, we can’t possibly know when we’re just trying to connect is “harassment”. The good guys have listened. We’re NOT approaching women anymore unless those women make it perfectly clear that that’s what they want. The narcissistic assholes never stopped. Now leaving women who can’t or won’t make the first move or at least make themselves obviously approachable, left with the feeling that “all men are harassers”. Because there’s no good, self-respecting man on the planet who’s willing to lose his education, job, or freedom over what turns out to be rejection over ninety percent of the time anyway.
We’re a long way from solving this issue in a way that makes everyone happy all the time. But there IS an easy solution available right now: women make the first move. 100% of problems solved. Guys no longer have to risk life and livelihood to determine when and where is right to approach, and once you give the green light, most men will shift into gear! You only need to do the ONE thing.
If you can’t or won’t, you’re going to struggle to find a really good guy.

[college-student2021]

Maybe you have to approach man , go to events where young people go with similar viewpoints as yours. Maybe your church has some volunteer programs that you could join to meet man who have the same viewpoint.


It’s going to be hard not going to lie to you, to find a good husband but it’s possible.


Hope it goes well!

[college-student2021]

In case you want to practice or just have someone to talk to you , am here. You can always DM me

[DishLady]

You look like you can be someone’s mom is not a good thing at your age. And neither is this wallflower bs you are VOLUNTARILY doing.


Grow a spine, get a few nice bras and some f-ing lipgloss and get tf out there instead of staring at this screen. My god….

[Morgan_L]

I don’t agree with everything you said but she really needs to get out and meet men. Don’t be afraid to talk to guys start a conversation. And men are visual. Wear something sexy show a little boob. Not too much not sluty.

[Morgan_L]

Guys can be such idiots. I’m dating my older brothers friend. Be more aggressive with guys. I asked him out. He still talks about it. Hang in there.

[s_lynn22]

I just need some advice on how to date

[Morgan_L]

Go where the boys are. A beach a. Bar even Church. Wear something nice that flatters you but in a sexy way. Show off some leg. Wear a skirt or dress. Guys are nuts about a glimpse of a boob. So don’t be afraid to show a little. But not to much. If you see a cute guy be brave and say hello. Remember they are just as scared as you. Best of luck. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince

[dolemite58]

Maybe you’re trying to shoot out of ur league too much in terms of the men ur going after I don't know 🤷‍♂️

[s_lynn22]

I just need some advice on how to date

[war_daddy]

you have a mannish face

[Anonymous]

You're emotionally unavailable.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure it'll happen by at least your mid-20s