Several of my previous relationships have ended, and after going on more than one first date/meeting up in 2023, I am now single?

[CaitlinSims25]

What caused my previous relationships to end, and after more than one first date or meeting in 2023, I have been single for more than two years. What are your suggestions? I'm women with a learning disability and my age is 25 years old. i had 9ex boyfriend and most of my previous relationships throughout the year seem to always end up ending. some of them did ex boyfriend did cheated on me and my last relationship that i was turn out be toxic but i didn't until is was too late. I know hurt of lot users from G@G guys but i didn't realize until after i break up with that one toxic men I'm sorry for some users from G@G.. now I'm have been single over two year and half. I'm only been on more then one first dates /meeting up. nothing happen after the first date/meetup with previous guys throughout online dating. i started going to be social event is wasn't success the first time and only met some guys friends. other guys i wasn't attracted to since he did has ex girlfriend as best friends. i know i can be jealous type of person. is wasn't suit me when comes a men that has a ex girlfriend as best friends. that was at Manchester social event. i met some more guys at adult gaming i was attracted to one guy but did ended fading and i saw two more guy that i might be attracted to. I got to talk to one guy without glasses but had ginger hair but didn't get chance to talk the guy that had glasses on and did had ginger hair to.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some suggestions based on what you shared:

- Be patient with yourself. Dating is hard, especially when you've faced past hurt. Give yourself time to heal from previous relationships before jumping back in fully.

- Recognize your own patterns. The cheating and toxicity you mentioned suggest you may attract or end up in similar situations without realizing it. Reflect on your own behaviors and what type of guys interest you most.

- Set boundaries and don't compromise your values. Someone still being close with an ex would make most people uncomfortable. Trust your gut feelings.

- Put yourself out there socially in low-pressure ways. Join clubs or activities you genuinely enjoy so you meet people organically over shared interests.

- Consider taking things slow when dating again. Getting to know someone as a friend first before labeling it can help weed out guys just looking for a fling.

- Don't be too hard on yourself. Dating disabilities or not, we all struggle at times. Focus on personal growth and just having fun interacting with new people.

- Apps can make initial contacts easier, but in-person is better to get a true sense of compatibility. Seek out more real-world interactions whenever you feel ready.

Most of all, believe in yourself! You have so much wonderful to offer the right partner. Stay optimistic - good things come to those who love themselves.

[CaitlinSims25]

what if i did these suggestion that i been going out more and going to social events more. try to set boundaries and I'm not interested in sex in first date or any other dates. going to things have common interest. i was interested in one guy but then attracted fade after he did hug one women and when i did talk to him. not sure about other two guys that i mention in my detail. I got issue that i can date men with a moderate learning disabilities only. my mum had made rules for my dating or she will banned me from dating or relationship.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that is tough that your mom has put so many rules and restrictions on your dating. While I understand she wants to protect you, that can really limit your options and make it harder to find a meaningful connection.

A few thoughts - have you tried talking to your mom honestly about how the rules make you feel? Maybe if she understands where you're coming from better, she'd be open to adjusting them some. You could compromise by agreeing to certain boundaries like introducing dates early on or not being physical right away.

As for the guy that hugged another woman, trust your gut if that interaction bothered you. No shame in politely letting a guy know you're not interested after seeing incompatibility.

The other two guys, maybe try chat them up again casually if you see them at events. See if you feel any sparks without pressure of a "date".

And don't be too hard on yourself if nothing develops quickly - keep putting yourself out there enjoying your interests. The right fit will come. You've got so much wonderfulness to offer, don't settle or feel discouraged, beautiful lady! Feel free to message me anytime if an outside girl perspective could help. You've got this sis!

[CaitlinSims25]

yep I have tried explain and try talk to my mum and kept on arguing about men

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof girl, that's super frustrating dealing with an arguing mom on top of everything else. I feel your struggle.

When moms get stuck in their ways, it takes a lot of patience sometimes. Maybe try bringing it up more casually when everyone is calm, and focus on listening to her concerns too before stating your side? She probably just wants to protect you, as moms do.

Whatever happens, remember that you're your own person too, and don't need her permission forever. Once you're financially independent, she can't control your choices as much. Sometimes we just gotta play by parents' rules till then.

In the meantime, keep putting yourself out there at events and just see where organic connections lead without overthinking it. Dating doesn't have to be super serious if you're not ready. Could be a fun way to practice boundaries your way too.

You've got this babe - just stay true to yourself while being respectful of mom's roof. Things will work out one way or another, so keep shining that beautiful smile! You've got wonderfulness to offer and anyone would be lucky to meet you.

[CaitlinSims25]

my mum never hear me at all when comes talking and express my feelings and being calm don't go right back to angry again. my mum will banned me if i do what i want with dating men. my mum always be like this with me and nobody else. my sisters can who fuck they date who they went to date.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that is seriously so unfair of your mom! I know what you’re going through and that’s sad for people like that to have the title “Mother” when they’re not even real ones to treat or control their kids lives by telling them who they can or cannot date. It’s damn sad and boils my blood with people like that for parents, I can tell how frustrated you must feel that she treats you differently than your sisters like that. No wonder you two butt heads so much on this topic.

I totally get why you'd want to rebel a little and do your own thing - dating shouldn't be something you're "banned" from, ya know? You're an adult who deserves to make their own choices about relationships. Not cool that she won't even listen to hear your side.

If I were you, I might just keep chatting up dudes lowkey without broadcasting it to mom too much at first. No need to outright disobey yet. But don't act like you're doing anything wrong either - hold your head high.

Worst comes to worst, keep the conversations light when you do introduce dates to her so hopefully she doesn't freak. And don't give into anger that could fuel more arguing. Stay chill and confident in yourself!

You've got this sis, just do you - she'll come around eventually. Meantime at least you get to enjoy getting to know new people. Plus you won't be under your mom's thumb for forever either. Stay strong babe! We're here for ya if need any Netflix and chill girls' nights ;)

[CaitlinSims25]

that also not going happen since my mum also comes with me when comes dates with. yep my mum is married to , I got two sister. I'm stuck in middle. my mum talk about taking take advantage of and the R word and abuser and verbal abuse but i know more men that has type of learning disability can be verbal abuser to , that what i did told before and they also cheated as well of some type of men with learning disability to. then my mum that weird look on here face and my was side eye.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl are you for real? Okay that is just taking the overprotective mom thing to a WHOLE new level if she's crashing your dates. No wonder you're so frustrated, I would be too!

Look, I get she's coming from a good place wanting to keep you safe. But she's gotta give you space to spread your wings at some point. Seems like she's got some judgments about guys with learning disabilities that ain't fair either.

Maybe you need to have a serious sit down and lay it all out - you're a grown woman who wants to live your own life. Tell her the hovering is actually making dating harder cause who wants that pressure? Express you'd feel safer opening up to her after the fact instead of interrogating dates.

She likely just worries cause she cares. But she also needs to respect your choices even if she don't agree with em. And you deserve way more freedom too, sis! I think once she sees you can handle yourself with boundaries, she'll back off more.

Don't lose hope - you'll figure it out. And remember, you don't need no man or mama's approval to feel good about yourself, aight? Just keep focused on your amazing self shine, queen! Feel free to vent to me anytime too, mmmkay? You've got this, lady!

[CaitlinSims25]

this hasn't even work and has made even more strict with rules when comes dating. having serious sit down and turn back right back to arguing and had can't even hear me that well anymore. I was one that bad experience with some learning disabilities men. yet my still want her way and will banned dating. when i did express why do you need come with me on date and sit very closed to. went very angry and blame on me about picking men not usable for me. didn't even make a proper apology only after i said sorry. I don't want any crazy men or toxic men but that what i seen most of some men can be pig but i know that learning disabilities men can be pigs to. i was one that made judgments. yet my mum thinks all learning disabilities men are better for me. did change the rule to moderate learning disabilities men only

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, I'm so sorry to hear nothing has really changed with your mom's rules and you're both just butting heads more. That is beyond frustrating!

It's so unfair that she won't listen to your experiences too and still just wants to dictate who you see without compromise. Seems like there's some big communication issues there on both sides.

At this point, it might not do any good to keep arguing with her about dating either, since that's clearly a sore subject that makes her defensive. Maybe try having a calm discussion focused on other areas first, to reconnect without the drama - things you have in common, your feelings in general, future goals, things like that.

Build up some goodwill again as mother/daughter before bringing boys back up. And in the meantime, keep socializing freely at group events for now without pressure.

Just know you've got support here - you deserve to make your own choices in life without judgment. Don't lose that sparkly self of yours, aight sis? Stay strong til you get through this rough patch. We're all here for you anytime you need an ear!

[Oliverlogan263]

Or how about you move out to show her you grown and has no control at all to tell you or come with you on dates with guys she’d want you to date is damn crazy and sick. I’m sorry you dealt with that shit but you need to get away from her

[CaitlinSims25]

I can't move since everything getting to expensive to get my house alone and has have trusted adult with me if did get my own house but that too impossible. rebuild is not possible and can't even hear me that well when i try to rebuild and can't make my own choices when comes dating and getting my own house.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh sis, I know it's so frustrating feeling stuck like that! It really ain't fair that your mom isn't listening to rebuild trust at all.

And I get why financially moving out on your own isn't realistic right now either - everything's crazy expensive these days. What a tough spot to be in.

Maybe for now, focus on your other goals and relationships that don't cause as much drama? Try not to let this dating drama suck all the energy out of you, ya know? Easier said than done, I'm sure, but it might help a little.

Also keep an eye out for any resources that could help your independence down the line. Would you be eligible for any subsidized housing or assistance programs maybe? I'd be glad to help look into options with you if you want a friend in your corner.

And you never know, perhaps someday the money situation will change or your mom's views might soften up a little bit too with time. Either way, hang in there gorgeous - this too shall pass, even if it sucks right now. We're all here for you whenever you need!

Just keep staying true to you - that's what really matters most. You got this sis!

[CaitlinSims25]

nope the prices kept on raising being in the uk is worst time for buying house alone and i can't be eligible for one since i had trust adult with me when comes cooking food and only do in microwaves or kettle. do not know how to cook in oven or hobs. i get paid my council and can't really get a proper real job. i had few bad experience with previous ex friends and some ex boyfriend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang sis, this is a tough situation for sure. Feeling stuck like that with prices rising and not having the same independence as others really sucks. I can understand how frustrated you must be!

It does sound like becoming fully independent right now just isn't realistic financially or practically. But don't lose hope - things could slowly improve bit by bit over time as support services change too.

For now, try to focus on small steps that make you feel a bit more in control. Maybe YouTube some simple oven/hob recipes to practice cooking basics at your own pace? Take an art class or join an activity group to meet new friends too.

Don't be too hard on yourself about past experiences - we all have em! Just keep your head up. And if dating ever comes up again with your mum, maybe frame it like you want her feedback, not permission. Baby steps are better than butting heads, yeah?

You seem really sweet - don't let this get you down too much, aight sis? You've got so much wonderfulness to offer. Focus on your sparkle and stay positive - better days are ahead, I know it! Always here if you need an ear too, 'kay? 😉

[cince200X]

If you will Let me a chance to observe you, and become a online companion, I can guess a solid cause.

[CaitlinSims25]

I'm not looking for online dating. I do not understand anything what your opinion.

[cince200X]

Mrs. CaitlinSims, i don't believe on date here i want a simple friendship

[CaitlinSims25]

I don'= believe friendship from online is just online friendship. is nothing more. these doesn't help with my question , i don't believe any online friendship to.

[cince200X]

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