How important is purity for men?

[Anonymous]

[Lynx122]

It doesn't have to be complete but it's definitely important. But I think it comes down to behavior just as much as the body count. Does this woman constantly have to have something distracting her from her depression and other mental issues? Can she stay away from alcohol drugs parties sex and be fine? Has she been through so much that her whole outlook on life is just bleak and depressing?

Can she be positive and kind and content with you or is there always some itch that needs to be scratched that will screw up the relationship?

Usually promiscuity is not just one isolated issue it's connected to many other things that are also negative. And it brings with it a whole vibe. A person like that you can still hang out with them and be friends but no guy with self worth will chose a person like this to be their partner for life. It's just not a good idea.

You don't have to be a virgin. But there's a clear line. It shows in how you approach dating & what you want from it, how you present yourself, your lifestyle etc. A lot of it is also honesty and good intentions. if you live a life you're ashamed of then you're just gonna lie a lot. I know a former prostitute and she's constantly lying and manipulating people, it's just who she is now, maybe always was. There's not a single interaction with another person where she's not trying to play them in some way. She's 24 her body count is over 500 and if you only count the people she wanted to sleep with it's still like 40.

But she doesn't just lack self control with men. Also with alcohol and drugs and staying up late, breaking rules that will come back to bite her trying to play the system and get away with things. Playing the victim when she rightfully gets called out for bad behavior. Trying to escape her reality in any way possible, trying not to think about who she is, pulling other people into bad situations and decisions.

She has been through a lot and she is traumatized but it doesn't change that this is who she has become as a person.

Now imagine the opposite. Someone who is genuine and honest, who is not ashamed of the life they have lived so far. Someone who actually cares about you and is not just trying to get something they want right in this moment from you. Someone who has a positive outlook because they haven't destroyed themselves. Someone who is fine on their own but even better with you.

It used to be called class, but now there's not enough people who live up to that word so people just stopped using it. Which partner would you chose? Like I said it's not black and white but if you're honest with yourself you probably know which side you're closer to. Are you capable of genuinely loving someone or not, that's what it comes down to.

My girlfriend has had boyfriends before me but she loves me and that's what matters.

[Anonymous]

Depends what you mean by purity. If you mean virginity, it's not important to me as long as she has not been promiscuous. If she has only had sex in committed relationships with guys she cared about, that's fine. If she has had sex in MANY committed relationships, then that's a red flag because she has a record of failed relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry, just realized I misread. I'll let the ladies answer, but in my personal experience women seem more interested in a man who knows what he's doing than a virgin.

[DishLady]

Look, at your age (or at mine), virginity per se has probably flown the coop, but PURITY is still important — purity and resilience of spirit are important to a guy… it shows you to be confident enough to lift him up as well in the relationship. Purity and openness of the heart is crucial… because the heart is everything. ;)

[Nikki1989]

It is only important for religious nut jobs.

[exitseven]

It is pretty important that a guy be pure.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_r6v-D-MflQ

[Anonymous]

it's as important as women looking for a relationship deem it to be, which apparently isn't very important but then wanting to project those some preferences back onto men which doesn't work that way

[JacobJordan]

Quite important. The fewer partners a woman has had the better

[SotiCoto]

"Purity" is an asinine idealist concept that has no place in reality.

[stvigor]

Good question i think it something that defines how careful a person is with themselves but being to careful would be a slothful towards life

[In_Trance]

Not as important as Religion wants you to think it is

[serious]

It is extremely important

[ChicoFromThe305]

I can't speak for others but for me it's important

[DrPepper12]

Not at all. Purity? WTF does that even mean?

[Anonymous]

Its more important for women.

[Anonymous]

It’s very important

[jahaims]

Depends on the guy