What do women think of sigma men, or introverted guys with very few friends? Do most sigmas get married or are they overwhelmingly single for life?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I feel like the video describes me quite well personally.

Particularly the parts about not being desperate for attention or acceptance from others, not trying to please or impress anyone, only wanting a small circle of close friends.

And also just preferring to mostly enjoy time to myself and float in the background of conversations instead of being the spotlight of attention.

And the whole “being rare and often misunderstood” part as well. Perhaps it is a uniqueness of character some people can appreciate, but to others I guess maybe I’m just “weird” or “antisocial” or complicated or something.

And yes, I know my asking this question does imply that I care what others think.

But my motivation for asking is because I’m going to be moving out of my parents house in the near future, not only because I feel like I need more personal space, but also so I can make more serious attempts at dating and building the future for myself that I desire.

Ideally I would like to have a family/marriage/children in the future.

Given human history and development, I hardly think this is a “strange” thing to desire.

But I just wanted to know whether or not these types of guys ever get in relationships, or if basically 95+% of them are just completely single for life.

I know there’s a lot of women nowadays that think guys without a lot of friends are weird or incels or misogynists, but the truth is I don’t really feel hatred towards anyone except those that are hostile towards me (feminists).

But I just didn’t know whether or not there does exist a community of women that appreciate sigmas, or if my statistical odds are so small I might as well not bother pursuing anyone and subjecting myself to dissapointment in the future.

I just don’t know whether or not I have a realistic chance at marriage, or whether or not I’m most likely just going to be subject to a lifetime of dissapointment/depression if I choose to try and pursue this.

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Forgot the video! https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=aQrsDSaRo3c

[wiltingrosepetal]

Just so you know, it is a pretty big turn off to women when a man calls himself alpha or sigma 😅 Not because you guys are comparing yourselves to wolves exactly, but because it's a community that claims it wants women, but only seems to care about men. Dominating men, impressing men, judging men's appearance, etc. Women don't want to date macho, muscular sluts who spend more time comparing themselves to others, than being with her. The whole "alphas" shtick is just severely lame.

Which is why... yeah, they're right about "sigmas" looking the most appealing to women. We don't want insecure men who can't stand up for themselves, or the self-obsessed types that just want to look better than others. A guy who is calm, assertive, and wants to commit? Sexy as fuck.

But, I repeat, we do not like these labels. So... maybe don't tell a girl that you're a sigma. Like, ever 😃

[WhiteBoyChill]

Fair enough. I was only really using it as a descriptor for the different categories of men. Obviously yeah. I would say “Hello I’m (my name)” not “Hello, I’m sigma”

[WhiteBoyChill]

Also what you say makes some sense but my observations don’t lie. In college the introverted guys were overwhelmingly single, whereas the extroverted guys were still getting sex/relationships/attention.

So the fact of the matter is, there are many women that want the “alpha” guy, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to try becoming one, because as I said before I feel most comfortable being myself and I’m not in the business of trying to impress anyone

[wiltingrosepetal]

Extroverted guys make relationships and introverted guys keep relationships. You have to be brave enough to make the first move, of course, but men who know commitment will receive good results. And "alphas" will not.

From my personal experience, I've known two guys growing up. One whose 6'3, extroverted, buff, sleeps around, loves cars, and smokes. The other one is 5'11, introverted, loves anime, math, and admits he doesn't know how to talk to women.

First one has had over ten relationships 😀 Second one is my boyfriend of two years 😀 So "alphas" are attractive when it comes to hooking up or short lived relationships but if what you are looking for is genuine love, you've got the right personality

[WhiteBoyChill]

I see what you mean. That is definitely true. But as I was saying, for whatever the hell the reason there are a lot of women that do feel initially attracted to the guys that aren’t “keepers” for whatever the hell the reason may be

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Yeah, I don't really believe in the alpha, sigma, beta description of males honestly. That being said, I have no problem with introverted guys as I'm mostly introverted myself and also keep a small group of friends.

As long as he has a good personality and can make me laugh, he's golden.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I feel like humor differs from person to person though. I’m more of a dry humor/sarcastic kind of guy

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

It does and for me I like bad puns and dad jokes personally. My grandfather was like you though.

[WhiteBoyChill]

It’s kinda strange with me because I’m never actually trying to be funny when I get people to laugh

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Just means you have good comedic timing with the humor you do have

[Anonymous]

Women don’t think about alpha, beta, sigma. They just feel it. Depends on the woman. Some think introverted guys are cool and extroverted guys are desperate. Some think extroverted guys are fun and introverted guys are weird.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’ve never heard of the “extroverted guys are desperate” thing before.

But yeah, to me it does seem that way

[Opinion Owner]

You never heard women say that some guy is pushy or annoying or too available?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well yeah, but Alpha guys don’t fall in that category tho I don’t think. They dominate the game by definition

[Nirmroth]

I think throwing around the terms of sigma, chad etc is super cringe. wouldn't be suprised if women think the same, thats incel vocabulary

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ffs I’m just asking a question on the internet

[Nirmroth]

And I gave you my opinion to it

[WhiteBoyChill]

You didn’t even answer the actual question though

[WhiteBoyChill]

How the f*ck else was I suppossed to refer to myself when asking the question? As just a “quiet guy”? That’s far less specific

[Nirmroth]

Im an introverted guy with a small friend circle and I was in a relationship for 8 years.

[Nirmroth]

Guess girls dont mind as I been approached aswell even if rarely. Tho extrovert and confident guys have it easier