Am I the nice guy who finished last?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has lost interest in sex. Every time I see her she automatically has an excuse to not have sex. Yet all her past boyfriends and fwb’s only wanted her for sex, and she would do anything to please them.

She told me about how her last boyfriend before me was mean to her and always sexually seduce her. When I try to get sexual she rejects 80% of the time. She tells “me I’m too respectful” and likes me for more than just sex why she barely gives it up.

Now I feel like the idiot nice guy finishing last.

I recently broke up with her and she went into a deep depression. Couldn’t sleep, eat, and took personal days off work. So I stupidly took her back because I felt bad.

https://youtu.be/n4qZ1dicRWk?si=7-oLisBOG7sSkWDE

Dump Her

Keep Her

[lightbulb27]

Therapy. she's carrying her wounds into your relationship, which is screwing you over... she's unable to be vulnerable and intimate. See if that can be fixed.

not easy things to fix, but that's what it is.

there's a reason you pair bonded with her... what is that reason. Pray to God for guidance and decide if you can handle the journey, or let her go so she can get better on own.

[Caroline91]

"So I stupidly took her back because I felt bad"? She needs go deal with her stuff. You need to deal with yours. The chaos of that video was a pretty good representation of not being a nice guy... lol. If you truly are a nice guy, seek a girl you can have a loving, peaceful, giving-receiving mutual relationship with. If she loves you and is ok psychologically, none of what you are dealing with will be an issue. Be kind, but firm and dodge the bullet!

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

So you're telling me you found a girl who admitted she feels safe with you because she's been used by past relationships, she has genuine feelings about you and wants to be a better person with you and your first reaction is to dump her because you couldn't use her too? I say dump her because she isn't better off with you.

[Anonymous]

No. You are the less thrilling guy. A woman like her can’t be satisfied with you. She needs the thrill. If she tells you you are too respectful, she doesn’t respect you that much. Maybe she wants to have a normal relationship with someone normal like you, but she can’t, because she doesn’t feel like having sex.

[RespectfulGuy]

You're nice, but you're definitely not innocent.

Be kind. Dump her, because you don't love her enough. It's better she cry today, than enter severe depression tomorrow.

[DishLady]

So are you only with her bc of the sex? If so, let her go bc she needs more than that from you — and she’s TELLING you that. Wtf is wrong with you selfish sex-crazed guy?

[CrabCakes11]

She’s better off without you. She’s wrong, you are using her for sex.

[Iron_Man]

Nice guys always finish last on everything they do

[Nikki1989]

She should dump YOU!