Do nice guys finish last?

Question

It seems to me that nice guys. Good men have trouble getting women. But the toxic men or bad boys get them more frequently.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends by what you mean when you say "finish last".

Most women are not relationship material anymore. That's just reality! But that doesn't mean there aren't good women out there. So the reality is most nice guys are going to finish last just by statistics. That doesn't mean a guy shouldn't continue to be a nice guy.

Never let a woman define who YOU are.

spartan55 · Accepted Answer

Too many women love assholes. The evidence is everywhere. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Good men aren’t getting left behind, the good men are dating who they want to date, the bad men are pretending to be good men and manipulating women for as long as they can. If you can’t get a date, you’re not a good man. You may not be a bad man, but that doesn’t automatically make you good.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

My late boyfriend was very nice and he didn't finish last. In fact there were women always wanting to be with him, but he only wanted me because he not only loved me, but he was in love with me 💕 and there's a big difference.

RIP Patrick 💔🍪✝️😎 my love 😘

Finchie40 · Answer

Depends on if he is dating a toxic selfish bitch or not , is she is toxic , then yes he more than likely will finish last , Mpst women do not want a nice guy per say , Most women want a man she can look up to that she feels safe and protected by that can pretty much tolerate her shit. She doesn’t want to be with a guy that constantly kisses her ass that says sorry constantly, Most females like to be out on their place, she wants a challenge not some guy that always pampers her , Girls’ are more attractive to a guy that she knows other girls’ wants , she wants to be the chaser not the other way around. When a guy constantly chases after a girl , she is turned off by that shit because he looks weak and desperate to her eyes , if he isn’t a chaser , she will more than likely chase him , you should never allow a girl to walk over you , when you allow a girl to walk over you , she is going to lose attraction you , why most girls’ love the bad boy type because he is a challenge to her , so it’s best for a guy to be Good and Bad when it comes to getting into a relationship n with a girl , to keep her ass on her toes. Most females’ are selfish people that only really think about what is best for herself , thinking grass is greener on the other side , when a girl starts disrespecting you , you are best to disrespect her back , instead of saying I’m sorry baby , I will make it all better , she doesn’t want that constantly, because he becomes weak to her. Girls’ will not cheat on a man that she feels can easily get another girl she knows if she cheats the relationship is over , when a girl starts disrespecting me and starts treating me like shit , I give it right back to her and then I show her the door , if she chooses to walk out that door , let her go , she is not the girl for you period , if she decides to come back to you make her apologize for her selfish immature behavior, do not give into her ass , , make her apologize by getting on her knees and sucking your cock or take her ass on the bedroom and fuck her brains out , Most girls’ want to be submissive to her man , that’s how she is attracted to him , if a girl isn’t non submissive to you , kick her ass to the curb where she belongs , she is meant for the streets not under your sheets

meepmeeperton · Answer

Women generally want a man to be polite, gentlemanly, and mature, but not a pushover. They will often actively test men they date or are interested in dating to see if he will cave to their demands, and if he does it's a turn off for them.

A lot of guys will think they are being "nice" by doing whatever the girl wants. Most of the time she doesn't want to hear "we can eat wherever YOU want!" she wants you to just pick a place. If she changes her mind last minute and wants to eat somewhere else when you're already in the parking lot, she doesn't actually want you to cave and say "SURE sweetie I'll take you anywhere!" she wants you to have a backbone and tell her no.

At the same time, she doesn't want a guy who just says "fuck you we're going to mcdonald's and then you can suck my dick and walk home."

Most young men struggle to find the balance.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

To be clear, a pattern I've noticed in my life is that a person (male or female) who goes around talking about how nice they are all the time turn out to be some of the shittiest most unlikable people I've ever seen.

So if someone often refers to their own selves as "nice," I'm immediately wary. For the truly nice people I've met it was OTHER people who said they were nice, not they themselves.

But either way, lots of shitty people exist, and those same shitty people get into relationships that turn toxic.

I've also seen a lot of self-proclaimed nice guys who use this stuff as excuse to why they can't get into a relationship. Like instead of taking initiative to improve their life they just cope by saying that only toxic guys get the girls and that "good guys" like themselves never get anything.

jshm2 · Answer

No. Most "nice guys" aren't nice. In fact, head over to r/niceguys to read up on some.

As for "good men" it's a different matter as they may be good men but that does not mean they will make good fathers, or good relationships.

So it not a simple matter of guys getting girls. It's about relationships as those "toxic men" will be blowing through different relationships every month with equally broken women. As for "bad boys" they seldom get any quality relationships and are far more depressed than you would know. It's why they ARE bad boys lashing out and unable to cope with an honest life.

Anonymous · Answer

I do not think nice guys finish last. I think it takes women a long time to realize that the bad guy will only break our heart in the long run and we need to appreciate what the nice guy has to offer. They are considerate, kind, smart and very patient and we love them for it. That being said, nice guys will find "the one" later in life because girls take a while to reach this conclusion. But they will win in the end and have a happy life with the girl of their dreams.

Just like guys go for girls who aren't exactly wife material but then come to realize that he wants a woman who can be trusted and build a life with and not have to watch her flirt with his best friend and do other questionable behaviors while in a relationship with him

Anonymous · Answer

Don't listen to these low life guys and used up women try and gaslight about how somehow "nice guys aren't really nice". Truth is there are tons of nice guys that are told they shouldn't have standards and settle for whatever. Fuck that. Nice guys, good men, should tell both the lousy women and low life wannabe players to fuck off. Good women don't really exist anymore. They pretend to be good women all right around the same time, around 30 or so, they say they "matured" but that usually means they slutted around and got old and realized they're going to be alone unless they pretend to be decent. Never fall for it.

smashleyy · Answer

Self proclaimed nice guys always have hidden motives behind their actions so yeah they do finish last cause it’s not genuine, just manipulation to get what they want. No one who is authentically a good person sulks about not getting their way. It is the bare minimum to be a decent person no man (or women) should be awarded for it

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Men try to win women with their bodies by upgrading their fitness levels when women are interested in your intelligence and social skills, at least the attractive ones that are a combination of both physical, intellectual and emotional virtues. Physical fitness matters, but women don't care what you look like unless they are attracted to your personality too.

HawkPerception · Answer

What's annoying to me is women that say that anyone that calls themselves a nice guy is likely not a nice guy.

It's extremely ignorant to say that someone who has a trait cannot say they have that trait.

And to answer your question, yes... I have found that nice guys tend to finish last. The asshole guys tend to be arrogant (which comes across as confidence) and attract girls attention, especially so at younger ages.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends only on how pretty girls are you talking about?

From 0-10, in the atraction bar, 10 being the perfection, the nice guys Finish last comes flor guys that are 5-6, going for 8-10 level girls.

Guys who are not shallow and accept fat/ugly looking ones, will be rewarded with real loyalty. Real love! They will accept you for just being the nice guy and will even raise a family with you.

Those who di not have tve face/body of a victorias secret underwear model, do shine far brighter in all other areas where looks dont count!

The hotter the girl, the colder the hearth!

Miristheiss · Answer

Sometimes. When I say "nice" I mean those that do not stand up for themselves, who don't live by standards and have boundaries for what they will and won't accept in their lives, those who people please and put women on a pedestal and just go alone with whatever the woman wants in order to no make her mad, those that don't take risks and go for what they want, those that by to back door their way into women's lives by the friend when they really wish for something more.

nevooo · Answer

in the short term yeah, but down the line, when the woman who chose the bag guy are all single mothers no one wants, the nice guy usually had enough time to find a gem, and he’ll be happy, and the sad little woman gets to spend the rest of her days either single, or in an abusive relationship.

genericname85 · Answer

yeah they finish last. not because "good men" aren't appreciated but cause usually they aren't "good men". they fail to understand that "being nice" is base line. not a special thing that makes you entitled to having a girlfriend. once they get it, they finish as well but it typically takes time.

666dangerouswoman · Answer

Not to me I prefer nice guys. The toxic guys are just trying to make up for what they lack (a big D)

Ladsin2 · Answer

They'll likely end up having dated fewer women, making less money, end up with a lower caliber of woman and being pushed around. So 'finishing last' is probably a fair assessment. Women use, "nice" as a derogatory term anyway. "Hey Beth, how was your date with Tim last night? "He was nice." Everybody knows Tim ain't getting it.

NathanDavis · Answer

preferably... I like when the girls finish at least twice... before I do, that's really nice

IslaTheWitch · Answer

everything depends on the definitions of those words :D

Anonymous · Answer

I truly feel that life comes full circle and what I mean by that is the people who are fools, put up this tough facade, women or girls who say we want a nice guy or man, it’s all talk, and the good people will get hurt while the bad person wins but eventually the good person wins while the bad person feels the pain. Arooj Jafri from Toronto, Ontario is a narcissistic POS, a fake girl who is a complete imbecile and I have zero sympathy for.

Belgie · Answer

If that's all they have going for them, to the point that that is how they identify themselves, then yes.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Yes, they do. Nice guys prioritize satisfying a girl and don’t let themselves finish a=until they are sure she has.

clampfan101 · Answer

Here’s myTake on it.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. The ones that finish last, are the "nice guys", who aren't actually nice guys.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Genuine nice guys who are not boring do not. Fake "nice guys" do because most women can tell.

HellGeist · Answer

Not true. Nice guys don't finish at all. They get the same treatment as the male praying mantis.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Work on yourself. Stop choosing women that don't want anything to do with you.

WhyohWhy69 · Answer

No. Most people who say they are a “nice guy” are either not nice or way too easy going.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Most bad boys get girls that you would not take home to meet your momma.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Good job on throwing a title disconnected from the description lol

AviatorTom · Answer

Sometimes nice guys finish last... at least they finish.

Anonymous · Answer

The problem isn't "nice" guys. The problem is WEAK guys. Nice guys do just fine. Weak guys get nothing.

Chthou95 · Answer

a lot of say nice guys are fake and they can detect their bullshit. It's strange though that somehow a lot of still end up dating a man who treats them like shit and was just using them

worldscolide · Answer

No. Real nice guys do not finish last. The nice guys that finish last aren't nice guys.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I do not think so. Sure it may happen at times but it is not the norm

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, in business being a tactical bastard has made me bank, being nice doesn't make moneyre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

shades777 · Answer

Finish what you start or don't, who caresre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Anonymous · Answer

They don’t “finish last” but they rot in mediocre.

BruceJender · Answer

Define what you believe a 'nice guy' is, then I'll answer.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Did you just find that out, It's been happening for years.

noohair · Answer

Correct. It is looks over content of character and the good looking guys play with them.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

Most girls like a bad boy... Subconsciously!

dudeinohio · Answer

*good* guys generally finish last.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Not if they're smart

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Slim57 · Answer

Yeah cuz we last longer than the bad boys in bed

PointOfNoReturn · Answer

Unbalanced men finish last.

Deserter2 · Answer

CupcakeDestroyer is full of crap

Anonymous · Answer

Be ass to get some ass. Simple 😎

paledreams · Answer

Not always wink 😜😔

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