I’m confused , what’s happening?

[Kamir3]

Lately, I’ve been meeting girls , and the interest will be there at 1st and then they ignore me when I reach out, example I met this girl in the club , exchanged instagrams , reached out , I get ignored, another girl went on a date with , the vibes was great, she couldn’t stop kissing me , then later ghost me a few days after , even had another girl ask a mutual party to talk to me , exchange information , and then proceeds to ignore me when I reach out, lol I’m so lost on what is going on why I keep catching Ls?

[jennifer_bloom]

It might be you are choosing attractive girls and then pivoting the option of exclusivity from them very early on, before they have had a chance to assess your personality, intelligence and work ethic. It's just like if a stranger tells you they will sell you a painting but you only have 1 day to decide if you want to buy it and you can't look at it before you decide, your rejection rate will be high cause an unproven opportunity is a high risk investment and they don't want to deal with that.

[Kamir3]

What does that mean exactly? I’m not asking them to be my girlfriend , but simply just tryna start a conversation to get to know them better

[jennifer_bloom]

People don’t care what you want until you show them you have what they want. You should highlight your good qualities to them or you will be just another perceived time drainer and priority drainer.

[Kamir3]

Okay , I’m catching on , how do I do that? Especially if they not paying attention?

[jennifer_bloom]

Focus on building your personality and you will eventually have dozens of ways to impress people in any conversation.

[Anonymous]

Exchanging Instagrams is not reaching out.

[Kamir3]

No but sending them a message is