How can I get my first boyfriend before she 30?

[Anonymous]

I never had a first boyfriend , no one wants to meet family, go on a fun romantic vacation with me, take pics with me, call me his girlfriend.

guys just talk to me but don’t give me label. Since I was 13 I approach the guys I like & been rejected. Now at 26 guys show interest but still no one asks me do you want be my girlfriend? No guy even wants to make me pregnant by accident.

im told I’m nice but no guy desires me no matter how loving I am, I make all the guys laugh, no one wants me.
I fell in love with a crush & he liked me back but we got fired & lost contact as we were Both shy & didn’t exhange numebrs quick.

a new guy I like texts me but he don’t ask to be his girlfriend.
My dream is meet a guys family 😞 I don’t drink. No drugs I’m the perfect wife & girlfriend I have a lot of love in my heart I wish I can show & give ❤️😓

Updates

+1 y

My dream is have 3 baby boys 😍

I plan save money for my house this year ! 🏡 & would love have a guy live with me ❤️

I like to shop, travel, workout & learning to cook 👩‍🍳

[Saggitariusdiva]

I'm sorry you haven't yet had a boyfriend I hope this tips will help you.

Get out into the world! Visit cafés, bars, concerts, or even classes. ...
Introduce yourself to any guy who seems remotely your type. Even if it doesn't work out, dating is a numbers game!
Be your true self, and also be open-minded. Guys react well to authenticity. Go to free events. ...
Strike up a conversation while you wait in line. ...
Go to sporting events, whether at bars or venues. ...
Give a stranger a compliment. ...
Volunteer. ...
Take a class. ...
Visit an art gallery... Set realistic expectations. ...
Know your priorities. ...
Be confident. ...
Go out and keep an eye. ...
Be the best version of yourself. ...
Make a good conversation. ...
Be a good listener. ...
Time management. Take it slow. Don't rush your new friend, but remember: if he doesn't like you for who you are, don't spend time on him. Don't hope he'll be your boyfriend right away; give him time to get to know you too. Hang out every once in a while to begin with, then start hanging out more often if it's going well.

I hope these tips help you

[Asker]

How many times you need meet for him to be considered your boyfriend? Or a guy has to ask do u want be my girlfriend? I hav issues where guys text me daily and meet me and never give me label.

I’ve met 500 guys already in one year. I only fell in love for one guy my crush but like I said we messed up and didn’t exhange numebrs and we got fired. So he’s gone unless I’m rehired back & see him.

I only like this new guy I’m talking to rn but it looks like he’ll never ask to be his girlfriend. Only good thing he does is send me hearts.

I’ve tried force myslef be with a guy I don’t like but it’s very hard. I don’t have interest in anyone else. But I do meet and talk to other guys but only thsoe 2 guys seemed to check all my boxes

[Saggitariusdiva]

Umm... maybe like 3 dates

[Saggitariusdiva]

And maybe after you can subtly ask him if he's your boyfriend and remember to be subtly something like “Do you want to make this official? Do you want to become my boyfriend?” If you're uncertain about the status of your relationship, you can ask, “Where do you see this relationship going?”

[Asker]

I’m scared ask as I neevr get postive response. that’s y I don’t understand y guys meet me and text me but reject giving me a label as girlfriend.

[Asker]

Girls get many boys since age 15 to meet her mom and no boy wants to meet my mom they all run away fast no guy has ever entered my house

[Asker]

I feel like im a monster that’s so ugly. No boy likes me , is there something wrong with my face?

[Saggitariusdiva]

Try...😔
I hope you get a really nice guy you're really pretty you have to be bold to ask so it'll work out

[Asker]

I know but even wen I ask I get rejected by men. Men r girl to not give me a label as girlfriend

[Asker]

Firm

[Saggitariusdiva]

Sorry hon... you'll find someone

[Asker]

The one really nice guy I ever met was my crush at job. I truly feel in my heart he would agree be my boyfriend but we got fired and didn’t exhange numebrs quick. I cannot love another guy. I tried meet 500 guys but there’s no spark, no better nice good guy like him.

He was a nerdy shy guy like me was alone at job & I came up to talk to him as he showed signs he liked me back.

I’m trying hope I get rehired back & see him one day July I hope.

But I cannot meet someone better. The only guy that has my rn he’s also nice like my crush nerdy but it’s long distance but I don’t think he’ll give me label. I’m feeling he will also reject be my offical boyfriend even tho we text & flirt

[Asker]

I’m trying force mylsef make an ugly guy I hate or an ugly old man my boyfriend. I’m trying my hardest be with a guy I don’t desire and don’t love so maybe that’s into way I can get a boyfriend. 😞

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@Saggitariusdiva You are spot on. I've got nothing to add. Well done!

[Saggitariusdiva]

@TheRealPepperPotts Thank you

[Asker]

The only guy that dated me inmy entire life he used me for sex , I asked for label and he refuse give me label. And don’t want Marriage kids , no girlfriend he would hide me & many years deny meet family

[Asker]

Like I said only way get a boyfriend is comit to a guy I don’t like , force mylsef be with someone I don’t want.

[Lalalove11]

You're pretty and still young, you will find a man guaranteed he is out there somewhere. I'm 24 and never had a boyfriend!! I still live at home it's hard. Dating apps are exhausting.

Keep being yourself I know it's cliché. But your vibe attracts your tribe so try joining any kind of class to meet people. I genuinely think dating apps a re a scam! It doesn't matter how gorgeous you are a lot of the people on there aren't seriously looking for a relationship. I've matched with hundreds of guys and it's rare to find ones looking for anything long term. They always give vague answers, don't waste your time on them honey x

Try some feminine energy meditation so you can be in your natural receptive mode. I firmly believe men need to do the chasing , but you can show interest of course to get them chasing more. Anytime I've chased a guy it backfires.

[Fireguy17]

It is quite possible it how you present your to others.
A person's body language can say a lot and you do not even realize what you are doing.
Also it is possible that because of you know what you want and are anxious for it to happen you might be scaring people away.
If you have any true friends that will tell you the truth, ask them what they think.
Possibly try to relax around others, just be part of the group, not the leader, and not the one hiding in the back.
Listen to others, ask follow up questions and the listen.
Quite simply you might be trying too hard, and be looking in the wrong places.
If you are ser6about finding your solemate, think about one of the better on line dating sites, where you pay to join. ike it's just lunch, eharmony.
The cost helps keep a lot of the players away, but they are still out there.
You can get to know someone better before you meet them.

[Asker]

I’ve met 400 guys already on dating apps. Only found one that clicked all my boxes. It’s long distance & we might meet for the second time July I hope.
But even by seeing this guy it’ll be same never be proposed and guy will never say do u want be my girlfriend?

Then if I ask what r we I’m rejected.

Men just talk to me and meet me various times but never want give me label.

Being nice & loving and making them laugh isn’t enough to be a girlfriend. I don’t understand

[Asker]

Even ugly guys I don’t like don’t want be my boyfriend only any sex.

[Fireguy17]

like I said, if you are serious about finding someone, don't use a dating app.
You need to join one of the better sites where people are there to find a relationship, not a 1 and done.
Many of them are highly successful.
But you are an adult so you can make your own decisions.
Best of luck finding what you want.

[Asker]

We’ll i would need force mylsef comit to a guy I don’t like in order to get a boyfriend.

I’m sad becuz alll girls get a guy they like as a boyfriend and I hav to comit to someone I don’t like at all and force mylsef hav sex with someone I hate

[Fireguy17]

you have to keep looking and not settle.
It is like a job, the more work you put into it, the better the results will be.

[Asker]

I have to comit to a guy I hate , the guys I like won’t love me back and agree meet family. Only an ugly guy will agree meet family so my first boyfriend will be an ugly guy.

[Asker]

I’ll need settle for a guy that I don’t desire. A guy I don’t feel butterflies for a guy I don’t want kiss

[strateguy632]

the order is wrong. at 13 wait for classmate to approach you. now 27, don't expect "meet family, go on a fun romantic vacation with me," if you want that they will say not ready.

start meeting coworkers many in just frendzone.

from those you will meet others or among them for more than friends, take walks then picnic and activities later meet parents.

[Asker]

I never said at 13 wait for classmates approach me.
Since I was 13 I always apprached the guys I liked but they rejected me. Boys age 13-24 didn’t like me back.

So a guy I dated 23-25 we dated those years but he deny meet family deny pics with me deny trips with me deny anything serious.

I thought by dating many years that was a serious relationship but how at 26 and after dumping him at 25 I learned what a boyfriend , a serious relationship is.
He was a bad guy, with tatoos, fuckboy , not religous , don’t want marriage ever in his life

At my job I met many boys every day, last year June to Dec 2023. But since I didn’t like them back romantically they began get upset and stop showing interest.

The one guy that got my attention was a guy that appeared decmeber 2023 . We were like romantic friends. We both liked each other. He was the most maturest nicest guy I’ve ever met in my life.

But we didn’t exchange numbers fast as we both r shy & only had 3 days to be together happy. After that it was holiday vacation, he works nite & me morning, etc so I no longer was able see him. As work began finish ealry for my shift.

Then we got fired same month. So we missed chance be boyfriend girlfriend.

[Asker]

After that I’ve meet 100 guys on a dating app , all wanted sex only or friends with benefits, no girlfriend.

Some I didn’t click with, some too far ,

Then I clicked with own guy on the app

[Asker]

We met but weren’t able meet more as he lives in another state. But we will meet July I hope. But only way for it workout is it live together but I don't know what the future holds.

[4ngelic]

i think to fix your situation you need to ask yourself why guys dont seem to like you or take you seriously enough for you to their girlfriend (didn't really get if what you ment is that you're always rejected or that part of the time they just never seem to want to take it further than flirting/situationships?)

once you figure that out, use dating apps or websites for serious dating not stuff like tinder or bumble

[Asker]

It’s just a curse from god.

I’m not doing anything wrong I’m nice loving romantic , caring supportive , I make the guys laugh, patient , I’m not doing anything wrong.

I might need just comitt accept any guy that likes me but I won’t like him back. Maybe a guy I don’t like will be my first boyfriend but I thought the love of your life is a guy that u like back & attracted to?

[Asker]

I tried a church dating app but I don’t find anyone I feel connection with I only feel it with that one guy I’m talking to that’s ldr. I don't know yet if he’ll be my offical boyfriend.

One disabled nerdy guy on the church dating app only talked of sex before marriage & I blocked him.

One guy did want marriage and meet family he was shy like me but I wasn’t into him. He looked like he was 15 & even my mom laughed wen I showed her a pic of him. Suppsivly he was 22 tho.

But I was sitting on my bed thinking I need force mylsef make this guy my boyfriend husband even tho I don’t like him? I feel nothing in my heart no spark no happiness.

[Asker]

The only guys I felt real spiritual connection with was the guy at my job. I call him crush. But we didn’t exchange numbers and after 3 blissful days together we got seperated & then fired and not able begin our relationship as boyfriend girlfriend.

I can’t find better guy than him. 5 months have passed. I’ve meet 400 guys. And no one better than him.

I truly felt he cud of been my first boyfriend

[Asker]

He was a nerdy guy also shy like me , that no one talked to, not hot , average nerdy guy.

[avery58]

You're very pretty. You look like Bollywood actress Norah Fatehi. Like I told you before, I think the problem is your insecurity. And you have take it slow with messages, just go with the flow.

[Asker]

I did that with one guy wen I was younger but he ended up never giving me label , deny meet family and it was just dates for years. No pics , everyone has a boyfriend show up all year to family functions minus me ,

I can’t find guy that wants be my first boyfriend. We don’t need marriage. It just be a first boyfriend that meets family July to Dec and we break up. I’m not asking for much.

[Asker]

I can’t even get a date as men only want sex, if not then no date. No one wants call me his girlfriend. They say I’m pretty cute nice beautiful but no one wants be my first boyfriend

[Asker]

If I go with flow, it’s just nonstop meetings and never ask me to be his girlfriend.

Or I don’t even get a date as they want sex so then nothing happens.

[avery58]

Did you ever find your crush from work? Did you reapply to your old job?

[Asker]

I got an email for the job April for the hiring event but I was told I need apply til may 20 as my 90 days would be over by then and suppsivly I am seen by thier computer my profile says I am eligible return back.

So I applied may 20 but I need wait to see if I get another email again for the next hiring event.

So I’m not sure if my crush is rehired back too or not yet like me.

I’m just talking to one guy rn but it’s ldr & hope we meet July. I don't know if he’ll be my boyfriend tho.

[hahahmm]

You have asked this question multiple times. Did you follow the advice you were given before?

[JonCobretti]

"No guy even wants to make me pregnant by accident"

Is that like a kink if I may ask?

[Asker]

I see all girls having babies and they say it’s accident and no guy even wants give me a baby. No guy likes me

[JonCobretti]

But.. don't you think you should be pregnant only with the child of a man who you love and trust more than anything or anyone?

[Asker]

The guys I love won’t love me back tho.

[Asker]

No guy I love loves me back. It don’t exist

[Asker]

That’s y I never had a boyfriend , no guy wants to be my boyfriend, that means no guy likes me.

[Asker]

I’ve never met a guy that loves me back

[JesseP1nk]

I think you look beautiful and you want family (3 boys) and like to shop, travel, workout & learning to cook. I dont know... If all that is true you seem perfect wife.

[Asker]

Thank u

[Staximus]

Maybe you need to be more assertive. Just don't fall for the first guy that makes googly eyes at you

[Asker]

That don’t make any guy my boyfriend. No guy wants to say do u want be my boyfriend. Nothing I do works.

[Asker]

I’ve even tried make ugly guys I don’t like my boyfriend and they don’t want a girlfriend only sex

[Asker]

No guy is drooling over me begging to be his girlfriend I think I’m just very ugly 😓

[Staximus]

You're definitely not ugly

[Staximus]

What do your friends say about your personality?

[Saggitariusdiva]

@Sugar100 you aren't ugly you are very pretty don't feel like that you have to have self esteem

[Asker]

@Saggitariusdiva if I was pretty I would have a boyfriend but no guy wants call me his girlfriend. No guy wants to meet family.

No guy wants meet my stupid mom & just call me his girlfriend. No one is proud say that as if I’m fucking ugly & hideous 😞

[Asker]

Why girls since age 15 get any guy to meet her mom & no guy wants come to my house and say hi to my mom?

Maybe only an ugly guy I don’t like will meet my mom but it’s very dificult force mylsef date a guy I don’t like.

I thought a boyfriend had to be a guy u like or the love of ur life a guy u fancy? I feel no guy I like will ever love me back and want be my first boyfriend

[Staximus]

No guy wants to meet your psycho mom haha

[Asker]

That I’m nice & cute & im introverted but again the two guys that clicked my boxes are shy like me my twin. One I fell in love with and I didn’t give him my number & felt him as my soulmate

I’ve met 500 guys & can’t find a good guy like him.

The new guy doesn’t ask to be his girlfriend & he’s nerdy like my crush.

I want him be my boyfriend & having hard time try make a guy I don’t like my boyfriend. More guys I talk to only want sex so again I narrow it down to thsoe two guys and only one has my number

[Asker]

@Saggitariusdiva again I have other issues guys don’t want date me as they only want sex. So I can’t even get a date as they want sex badly.

[Staximus]

Maybe you need to move out of your mom's house and get your own place

[Asker]

No guy wants sex til marriage. No guy will ever marry me as no guy wants to meet my mom. They all run away super fast

[Saggitariusdiva]

Girl... you aren't ugly I'm serious you aren't just put yourself out there

[Saggitariusdiva]

Then you have to be clear about what you want at early stages of the relationship

[Asker]

@Saggitariusdiva that still don’t make them my boyfriend

[Asker]

Most get block me or blocked by me. Or say they don’t want a girlfriend, they already had a serious relationship, or they want friends with benefits only.
Again I only clicked with my crush and who knows maybe he was my first boyfriend. But he’s gone. He was the most maturest nicest guy that I’ve ever met.

The new guy acts nice too very polite but I don’t think he’ll give me label he won’t meet my family. No guy will meet my family

[Asker]

The one good guy I met ironically is gone. My soulmate is gone & I loved him with all my heart.

Truly no guy is becoming my boyfriend.

[Asker]

No other guy.

[Asker]

I blocked a guy yesterday on a church saying all he was nerdy disabled on wheelchair and he kept talking of sex.

I kept saying I want a first boyfriend no sex til marriage and I want meet family and he seemed only interested in talking of sex. He said I’m too beautiful some can’t resist wait til marriage.

[Asker]

So he got blocked.

[Staximus]

Go back to your old job and give bitch boy your phone number (the guy who wouldn't ask for your number). If he doesn't use it, then the hell with him

[Asker]

My moms very nice she’s had many bfs but not me I’ve had 0 bfs

[Asker]

I applied I’m waiting for the email for the next hiring event. No luck yet. Haven’t gotten email yet for that job. Hope I get it soon July 🙏🏻

[Asker]

@Saggitariusdiva the only guy that wanted be my boyfriend was an Irish guy in Ireland. He planed future with me, marriage babies we saw online apartments together, he wanted visit me Christmas and meet my family.

He was nerdy, not ugly nor hot, white guy blue eyes, he was oldest of siblings & only he loved me. But he was too far it didn’t work out. If he was closer we could of met.

[Staximus]

You're not ugly, just crazy. Work on your social skills and your craziness.

[Saggitariusdiva]

@Sugar100 Oh sorry to hear about that

[Staximus]

If a guy disappears because you didn't give him sex, then that's a good thing for you. The trash took itself out.

[Asker]

LOL they don’t disapear we just end up blocking each other or I block them and I run.

[es20490446e]

Go to places of your interest, talk to guys you like there, and keep the ball rolling.

[KrakenAttackin]

Stop chasing Chad.

[Asker]

Even ugly guys I don’t like don’t want be my boyfriend , they only want sex

[Asker]

Can’t even get a date as guys want sex or sex after date and not give me label so I can’t get a boyfriend

[Asker]

Denying sex only makes them cancel the date and that’s it blocked.

[Asker]

The only good guy I met was a guy at job that liked me back. He was the most maturest nicest guy on the planet. That I’ve ever met. It felt as if I already knew him for many years wen we first talked , but we both were shy didn’t exchange numbers quick & we got fired same month so cudnt become boyfriend and girlfriend.

Now I cannot find a better guy like him. And I’m stuck.

[Asker]

I found one guy that’s his lookalike & nice like him but I don't know if he’ll be my boyfriend it’s ldr

[Asker]

I’m not feeling butterflies for him anymore as I have no proposal , i don’t hear do u want be my girlfriend, and even if we do meet for second time, I still won’t hear do u want be my girlfriend.

That fantasy of guy proposing to be his girlfriend will never come true, I never held hand gotten roses or teddy bear from guy, nothing. It’s all a fantasy in my head. 😞

[Asker]

Having babies is also a fantasy for me that won’t come true

[Anonymous]

I'd date you

[Asker]

Date me to be my offical boyfriend?

[Asker]

Date me to be your girlfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I would

[Opinion Owner]

You're absolutely drop dead gorgeous, don't sell yourself short

[Asker]

If I’m gorgeous why no guy is proud face my family say hi to my mom? Come to my house , proud tell his parents I’m his girlfriend?

[Asker]

I must be ugly if no guy wants meet family & stand next to me

[Opinion Owner]

Probably because they're scared of your family, or you're surrounded by stupid guys who wouldn't know a pretty girl if she was standing right in front of him

[Asker]

My family r very nice, I just have a brother that’s married & a mom and dad. That’s it

[Asker]

I’m too ugly to meet a guys family? No one is proud say she’s my girlfriend and show up to family parties with me. It got to point my entire family all attend family party with their boyfriend husband and babies and I’m the only person alone no man.

[Asker]

No guy likes me. A guy that likes u wants meet family and attend family parties with u

[Opinion Owner]

"Ugly" HA! I'd be proud as I've ever been in my life to hold your hand as I walk you into our feast room during Thanksgiving and introduce you to my family!

Any guy who thinks differently has to have something wrong with his brain

[Asker]

I’ve never had a guy hold my hand

[Opinion Owner]

Well, then. I'd be honored to be the first one to do it😃

[Asker]

But you live in another state prob

[Opinion Owner]

I live in Texas

[vj0090]

Count me in.. haha

[mayurr]

U get what u invite.

[Anonymous]

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