How can I get a first boyfriend before age 30 if guys don’t like me back?

[Sugar100]

I’m 27 in 2 months & I cannot progress in life as no guy wants a girlfriend & meet family plan live together , have future. All guys I like since age 13 reject me & don’t love me back. I loved many guys but they don’t love me back. This is y I’m stuck living with parents age 27-40, I don’t have babies as no guy gets me pregnant , never been to family parties with a boyfriend, no pics with a guy, romantic vacay with guy nothing. It’s all just a fantasy in my head of having a boyfriend.
I tried give mylsef a chance with a new guy but. He lives far & doesn’t do anything serious just text & want sex if we will meet. I shud of been meeting family by now & nov move into his new house but no. I’m alone.

life is weird & hallow just working daily & can’t buy a house as I need a partner. I’m ready meet a guys family & be excited but no I’m alone just work eat sleep per day. I fell in love for one guy that felt like my soulmate but we didn’t exhange numbers Dec 2023 at work & now fired. I got rehired but I don't know if I’ll see him return to job again coming wks m/ Months.
I don’t like any guy. I don’t feel happy bliss in love. I see many guys daily & no one has my heart. Just the guy from job stole my heart & I no longer can find special connection with another guy. I don’t feel attracted to any other guy. I’m very lonley.

[Summeroflove]

You know life isn’t all about finding someone it’s amazing to share your life with another person and build a companionship. But you ask this question 1,000 times 1,000 different ways to get the answer you want to hear. Look, the truth is go on dates and be honest with what you want.

If you’re this desperate to marry then just find a dude who also is and be honest.

[ProbablyClueless]

Could be an expectations or social environment problem.

A lot of women have extremely specific ideas about what love should look like, and many times, reality just doesn't ever really line up with that expectation. In my observation, that expectation is usually a level of excitement that real men can't provide. If you expect or demand that your husband makes you feel a certain way and you meet an amazing guy who doesn't quite make you feel the way you were hoping; a lot of women will turn that guy down, but they don't realize they're turning him down for a fantasy.

A lot of women also live a lifestyle and surround themselves with people that keep them single. If you hang out with a group of 4 smokers, you'll be the 5th. If you surround yourself with 4 married women, you'll be the 5th.

You might find that your romantic prospects change by surrounding yourself with and emulating women who are already in marriages you would want for yourself.

[Crimsyjo]

You sound unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Yes it hurts to be missing that piece (love) and no sitting at home and just working isn't going to help. It might sound weird but you gotta work on being happy without a man first to then be happy with one. Try to find meaning in life outside of home and work. Then hopefully you will meet someone in your new hobby. But don't just do a hobby for this reason.

Right now you are so focused on believing that ALL your happiness abd ALL your dreams and goals depend on this ONE guy... that if u did get one u are going to suffocate him and drive him away with your codependency.

It's really hard. Really really hard. I know. But you are still young. It will happen. Just pull back a bit. Try it for like 3 months at least. Please. I'm sure it will work.

[Sugar100]

I been focusing on myslef 28 years. Day by day I never look for guys and this bullshit of u will meet the right guy soon is not true.

[Sugar100]

I focus 28 years on my life being alone and no guy cares to be my boyfriend no guy likes me back. I love guys but they don’t love me back. I don’t go looking for men everyday no. I do all errands alone I’m alone 24/7. And no guy ever appeared that likes me back.

[Sugar100]

I just met a guy I love Dec 2023 and it was a time wen I was happy working.

But we didn’t exhange numbers fast as after 3 blissful days we got separated. Since then I met 500 guys and none want be my boyfriend. All men only want sex. No girlfriend. Men refuse give girls label.

[Sugar100]

I never look for guys. And almost 30 years no magically dream guy ever appeared that wants be my boyfriend and that I like and crazy for that also likes me back. That never happened. No partner exists for me and this means Mariage babies and. No future is in my destiny. 😓

[Sugar100]

Daily I focus on myslef I NEVER look for guys. And still no guy ever became my first boyfriend 30 years 😓

[Crimsyjo]

I know I know. I spent 8 years single recently and was working on myself. Running, working, educating myself, thinking about career. Did a nice handsome stranger just come along out the blue and sweep me off my feet? Nope. Never. So yes there had to be some intention there.
I've been on dating apps like 10 months now. I had one boyfriend for 3 months. I go out. I am trying hard. It's not easy so I know. It gets frustrating to hear people say it will happen.
It's just more how you may be perceived that my advise was directed at. You still need to put yourself out there. But it's a balance between being active and appearing too needy!

[Sugar100]

I been putting mylsef out for for years. Still have no boyfriend. No guy cares see me alone in public. Other girls get a man 24/7 with her and no guy desires be next to me 24/7

[Sugar100]

I’ve been single 30 years

[Crimsyjo]

Never looking for guys is as bad as desperately looking. Middle ground @Sugar100! I'm sorry you are feeling that void. The one that says life is draining away all your hopes and dreams. It happens. Even in a relationship! Hormones mostly.
Also yeah there seems a horrible shift in recent years with men only after sex. It's so hard.

[Sugar100]

I don’t like any guy. I fell in love with that guy at job. I just got rehired back to that job maybe there’s hope he’ll return too and we reunite again. My job has 500 boys but I only liked my crush. He felt like my soulmate.

[Sugar100]

No guy in Public shows interest in me either. I only had mutual love with that guy at job. Only men at job show interst in me only there it’s normal get boyfriend gfs there. But I’m
Off work at moment til 1 more Wk and half as I got injured

[Crimsyjo]

Ohhh I feel your pain. I just recently maybe lost my soul mate crush too. I'm in pain as well over it and I'm trying to move on but it's hard to feel that connection again.

How long did you know this guy at work for? Did you feel a connection back? From him? It might help to talk about it ok.

[Sugar100]

I’ve been trying to move on for a year and met 500 guys but none want be my boyfriend and the only guy that wants marry me is a guy I don’t love like back. I’m depresed and no longer like any other men. I see boys daily wen I go out and I don’t like any boys anymore

[Sugar100]

I first fell in love June 2023 . He appeared wen I was breaking up with a fuckboy that used me for sex. He wasn’t a boyfriend. But we had different schedules so we neev met. He got fired August. Then he returns Dec 2023. And we met and talked and he showed the most interst for me than any other guys at the workplace.

He was a nerdy shy guy like me at job.

But we only had 3 blissful days together as he worked nite shift and I worked morning shift. So we didn’t act fast to exhange numbers and it was holiday break , then I no longer saw him as overtime was over. Then we got fired Feb 2024

[Sugar100]

Now since end August I got rehired back to job but only worked 4 days as I got injured. So I will return hopefully by one more wk and half to work and hope I can see him again coming wks months I don't know

[Sugar100]

I never felt real bliss real true happiness with a guy. I had a real genuine smile for him.

[Sugar100]

He is my soulmate.

[Sugar100]

He was the most maturest guy I ever met the nices guy I ever met in my life. He seemed like a genuine good guy it felt spirtual our connection.

[Crimsyjo]

Wow. U know, if it's spiritual you will meet again. My guy and I... we separated in March but in July found eachother again. Randomly! Unexpected. It felt like fate.
Do u have any clues that might help u find him online? Name? Facebook? Other colleges that might be friends with him? If you do see him again I think you need to be brave. It won't be easy. He might feel a connection (as my guy finally admitted he did) but not understand it the same way you do.

[Sugar100]

But u said u lost him? So u guys r together now?

Wen we talked he randomly looked into my eyes 3 seconds with a look of love and I felt it deep in my heart

[Sugar100]

We’ll in June I thought only I had a crush on him but wen he returned dec he was pursuing me and I knew that moment he also liked me
Back.

[Sugar100]

No like I said he had no friends at job he didn’t talk to anyone like mylsef. We were twins. He would hide in corner to avoid the cowoekrs during break lunch.

[Sugar100]

He don’t look like social media guy.

[Sugar100]

Yes we met again but like I said I don't know if we’ll meet for third time again this year. But I got rehired back to job so I’m praying god returns him back to job too so we reunite.

[Crimsyjo]

"But u said u lost him? So u guys r together now?"
I don't even know anymore. We had physical not just spiritual bonding. So when we reconnected it was like I could feel him. All the time. Soul mate like. But not all soul mates are for life. I've had one before and after two years we parted ways. Sometimes special people we resonate with on a level deeper than anything come along because you have something to teach eachother. To grow.
Mines to complicated to get into and probably bore you but I feel like that connection has broken. I think maybe I hurt him emotionally last week and he's decided to cut off. Today is 6th day he's not spoken to me when usually he texts me from morning to bedtime.

Anyways back to you... your situation sounds sweeter and better than mine. He came back to you and he showed interest. But both of you being shy... that was hard twist of fate. Hopefully it will resolve when you are working more. And he knows where you are too. Keep a look out. He might hang around the area in hopes of bumping into you.
But be prepared also that maybe you won't see him again. Give it upto Christmas maybe and if nothing you will have to forget him. For your own sake. And sake of having a chance of liking someone else.

[Taniisokay]

Move places. Don't stick in one city. You can't expect to find someone staying in one place. Move towns.

[Sugar100]

I found a guy I like long distance but he don’t progress bond like to ask to be his girlfriend, meet family move to his new house , nothing. We met before and I was serious for him. So it made me lose interest for men and I’m very lonley in life , I never get rewarded by liking a new guy. 😞

[Sugar100]

I fell in love for the guy at my job , as I’m rehired I hope we can reunite again. He’s only guy I loved deeply. And I miss him. 😞there’s no one like him.

[Taniisokay]

Your problem is that you like the guy at your job. Wait till your grave or move on. I don't think you will move on. Hope the best for you.

[Sugar100]

I been meeting 500 Guys to get over the guy I love at job but none r serious and want be my boyfriend. So I gave up. I lost interest for men. I have the thee boy a chance and no he don’t ask to be his girlfriend 6 month passed. Say per day I see men and I don’t like any guy.

What point meet guys if guys don’t like me back? It’ll be same thing forver more n more men reject me forever n ever

[Nirmroth]

As bad as dating apps tend to be maybe theyre a good solution for you to use in your backhand.

About not feeling anything about some other guy rn give it time or force yourself to get to know some other guys. Dated a Girl recently for a month I really started to like but it ended and now every other girl seems dry in comparsion.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I'll be honest here.

It's because of your negative self-talk.

[Fireguy17]

quit trying so hard.
It will happen when the time is right.

[Sugar100]

I’m not trying hard. I’ve been living my life alone since I was 18 never looked for a guy and no guy ever showed up that wants be my boyfriend that likes me back. I loved many guys but they don’t love me back.

[Fireguy17]

you need to get out and actively participate in finding someone.
If you just sit there and wait life will pass you by.
Finding the right person is a lot of work, pretty much like a job.
The more time and effort you put into it, the more you will get out of it.

[Sugar100]

I met 500 guys since January 2024 no guy wants a girlfriend all 500 guys denied me only want sex no girlfriend

[Sugar100]

I gave up. I already actively talked to 500 men all year.

[Sugar100]

I open my heart to one new guy I met March and there’s no progress March to Sep. No meeting family no asking to be his girlfriend , no dates , no plan live together. What point meet guys if all guys refuse be my boyfriend and don’t progress life with me? My life will be stagent forverr as guys don’t progres with me all guys r the same

[Fireguy17]

500 guys since January is trying too hard.

[Hannajenky]

You are trying to get married before you have met the person. Meet the person first and see if you are even compatible

[Bklynbadboy12]

You have to just relax and let it happen. You'll never get him the way you are now you to anxious as soon as a guy says hello you'll lose it. Your a pretty girl just chill and it will happen. Ok!

[thearchjoker]

men can sense desperation if your desperate it will be unattractive for them

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a serious problem you should get help with.

[Anonymous]

Story of my life!!! I realized I’m asexual so it doesn’t hurt

[Walksbehindtherows]

Aren't you thinking about getting married?

[Sugar100]

Yes but no guy has ever been my first boyfriend this means no guy likes me back no guy wants marry me

[Walksbehindtherows]

Nevermind