Help How can I get a boyfriend at age 26?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never had a boyfriend.
when I was 13 my crush didn’t like me. Wen I was 17 my other crush didn’t like me& preferred a blonde girl.
I never went to prom with a guy, I never had a guy meet my family, I never hav celebrated Thanksgiving, Christmas with a boyfriend at each others house nor couple pics with a boyfriend.

only when I was 18 I met a guy at work but we dated til I was 23-25 but we broke as he never do anything serious nor meet family.

at age 19 a guy friend I had went on a date with me but then we parted ways as he met a girl with blonde red blue hair first before me& she became his girlfriend.
since June I can’t get a boyfriend, I had a crush at my current job & he quit August, so we never talked, then end September a new guy that liked me appeared & I began like him back.
but we both are shy & haven’t talked to each other yet even tho he was pursuing me last month for some time.
June to now I was talking to guy I met online & suppsivly he wants be my girlfriend & meet my family Christmas but he lives 15 hours away so it’s just unrealistic us he together as he’ll need a visa& marriage.
I also don’t fancy him.
I go out in public no guy shows interest in me, every guy is with a girl or baby & I’m alone.

Updates

5 mo

I’ve tried many dating apps and no guys want a girlfriend either only hookup.

[Screenwriter]

It's not your age, it's your choice to find men. I hope you have friends. They know you well enough, don't they? Get them to intro you to a few men. Use meetups where you join groups where people have mutual interests. It's not just dating. Getting out and being with groups of people: to go sailing, play volleyball, baseball, potlucks.

Take an exercise class and meet women in your age group and make friends with them. Go out for coffee and get to know them. You. need to expand the groups of people you interact with. Online dating is an incredible crapshoot.

Don't fall for the marry me so I can become a citizen, crap. That's one of the worst scams. I know someone whose life has nearly been ruined because she's done this. And I believe you've realized that 15-hour away men are no men at all. Forget that.

You have to do more work than type a profile and pix into your computer and hope for the best. Do REAL legwork. Get out and MEET people nearby. In-person dating will be much more successful but in the meantime, just MEET PEOPLE doing healthy things.

Friendships are the bulwarks of life and will support you when boyfriends don't exist and when they drop OUT of existence. Do this due diligence and you'll be on the path to meeting someone genuine eventually.

[Middleman]

"end September a new guy that liked me appeared & I began like him back.
but we both are shy & haven’t talked to each other yet even tho he was pursuing me last month for some time."

I think this guy could be your potential boyfriend! However I'm wondering why you haven't responded to him even though he was pursuing you the whole of the last month? Is it because you are scared or are simply inexperienced with dating norms?

If you are inexperienced, you are going to have to work on your dating skills. First and foremost is - don't keep thinking anyone you meet is boyfriend material right away. Try to treat them as a friend first and see if and how you get on with them. Only when you've gotten to a certain level of confidence and they reciprocate your gestures then perhaps you could consider asking if they would like to go out with you.

In my experience with dating, sometimes you just have to put it out there (even if you feel rather scared). You just have to try and test the waters. I once went out with a lovely girl through a random street encounter I had. She was new to the city, asked me for directions as I was walking by, I took her around and next thing I know I became her tour guide and friend. While we didn't end up together we still keep in touch.

[Asker]

I was scared to talk to him of how much I liked him and he also had a hard time talk to me himself he is also shy. He would just give hints but never talk or be near me. So this is all new to me. The only guy that pursued me was many years ago but he made first move and talked. So now this wk I showed that guy hints and hope soon when I return to work he can be near me again so I can talk I feel confident now. I haven’t been able to work past days for perosnal issues.

[Asker]

I hope he can be my boyfriend. I’ve been depressed.

[Asker]

So yes both scared & inexperienced

[Middleman]

I see. Well there's always a first time I guess!

With finding love or a partner, you sometimes have to put aside your shyness and just go for it and think for your own future's sake - yes even fantasize what it would be like with this person to have them in your future (as it would help overcome your sense of nerviousness).

I remember years ago when I had my very first girlfriend I was a little nervous too (she was a friend of a friend). After our first encounter we just hit it up, went out to dinner together, to the point we even ended up French kissing at the top of a carousel! I'd bought her some gifts and still remember the warm embrace of having her beside me when we went to town. Love has a tendency to do these things.

[Asker]

The first that liked me back was wen I was 18. But we dated til I was 23-25. I break up with hi. Cuz he don’t do nothing serious or want meet family. It was just dating.

I neevr had couple pics with a guy, experience meeting family and spending holdiays at a bfs families house. Holding hands. I want all of that. However maybe a new guy will finally do all those things. It jsut worried me that I’ll never be able to get a new guy so none of those things will still ever come true. U see Thanksgiving already passed and I have no boyfriend celebrate with me it’s over.

[Middleman]

I see. Well the way that I look at it is, don't fret - the night is still young. You 're only 26, still great looking and have plenty of time left in your life to find someone. I'm not sure about how dress normally but if the pic you posted is any guide, I'd say that you dress rather conservatively (which I think at this moment is not gonna help with your chances of finding a guy). Do you know any female friends who could help you with your clothes? I think it'd be a good idea to spruce up your wardrobe and wear something a little more 'loose' as to what ladies of similar age to you would wear - like plaid or loose white shirts plus jeans & jacket, white top with denim hotpants & sneakers or black top with black or grey sports skirts etc.

[BigAssB1tch]

Hey sista, listen up. You wanna know how to get a boyfriend? You got to show off that ass. I ain't never been afraid to show off my big ass at Walmart, and that's what makes all the boys come to da frozen food aisle.

You gotta find what makes you special and rock it, boo. That's what gets the attention of the right kind of guy. And you just gotta be you, boo. Don't try to be somebody else, girl. The right guy is gonna love every inch of you, with your slutty pic and OnlyFans page and everything, just the way you are.

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... yes, ma'am...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Where do these guys have eyes? You look very cute.

[AmeerX]

I have a good idea who she is. I told her she is wasting time. She goes for guys she can't have unfortunately. Got made at me for speaking the truth. Those time wasters keep using her and she is always letting them

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you tried using Bumble?

[Holsen]

Yeah tough world we live in;I’m kinda same here with diffrence that I haven’t had that much dates and obly ine girlfriend once when 18 and that was it even though I am not bad looking, would say handsome as well but anyway it’s kinda a surprise as you look just sunning and fabulous, I would give you my full attention if I was around you and any angle you see it you are just so gorgeous and sexy!! Also I think it’s not that much important to chase after a boyfriend rather just let things flow and while I get that time is in our disadvantage, I think that if you let yourself loose or being relaxed then the chances will come ;It would be up to you how you use them but at least yob arr guaranteed to at least have some chances and don’t bother with online dating sites;Totally a waste of time and brains and sometimes even emotional 🥲!!

[FunkyMonkee]

Have you tried flirting?
Sounds to me like you're having WAY better luck than me!! I didn't get my first girlfriend `til 3 weeks before I turned 25! girlfriend 2 came along a year after we broke up. girlfriend 3 didn't show up `til 8 years later, then started cheating on me after another 8 years together. Haven't had anything since the late `90's!!
From what little I can see, you're pretty hot! You shouldn't have ANY trouble getting guys!

[Asker]

No guy wants to meet family I neevr had a boyfriend I never had a guy call me his girlfriend and tell his family I’m his girlfriend.

[Asker]

That’s y I can’t get a boyfriend no guys want to be my boyfriend and meet family or spend Thanksgiving Christmas with me.

[FunkyMonkee]

I can't imagine why, unless you stink or are a raging bitch.
So far, you look pretty nice. Have you been asking straight guys or gays?

[Asker]

Straight guys

[Asker]

Guys don’t want a girlfriend they only want sex and be single

[FunkyMonkee]

Wrong kinda guys, then. I would MUCH rather have someone that'd stay with me for the rest of our lives!

[Asker]

No guy wants to meet my family the only guy that supposivly wanted meet my family is that online guy that lives 15 hrs away. I can’t be with him as u need marriage and visa

[Asker]

I don’t fancy him either way, I’m in love rn with that guy at my job.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, you're still young.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Seems odd. Must be a location thing. Where are you going to meet the men you want to meet? If you want men into wine, hang out at vineyards; art, go to museums/exhibits; physical fitness, go to charity runs. You seem to be an attractive woman who takes care of herself I don't see any reason you shouldn't get attention.

[Massageman]

- Stroll through hardware departments looking for picture hangers, or any other nominal excuse.

- Be ready to help guys who are lost looking for celery that isn't over the hill in the produce aisles. (I resisted the temptation to say melons.)

- Volunteer at Food Pantries and look for a nice strong guy help you lift this heavy boxes of cereal.

- Be creative.

[syncheart]

Based on your looks, I would think that most men would want you physically. However there must be a couple things going on here. 1) Your not around the right kind of guys. Or 2) Somehow your personality isn't attractive to the kind of guy you want.

[DextroShade]

You are definitely attractive enough to get male attention but you are rejecting the majority of men because they aren't Chad. This is you:

[Saiesh30]

Well you're 26 so it's not too late. Neither it's the end of the world so keep your hopes high. You're quite hot honestly so it's just about time you find the one 😇

[Asker]

I don’t have a boyfriend cuz guys don’t want a girlfriend and don’t want meet to meet family or call me his girlfriend. I can’t find a guy that wants a girlfriend and meet family. Everyone want be single fuckboys and hav no girlfriend

[Saiesh30]

Yeah I can understand. That's unfortunate. However, there are good guys out there. Don't lose hope.

[Asker]

I’m talking to a. Guy about Thanksgiving and by avoiding not spending Thanksgiving with me and meet family he is saying he don’t celebrate n will do nothing just work but then I caught him lying n he’s going to his aunts house to celebrate

[slatyb]

Ask a man out? What are you doing to meet men? Here are some suggestions: outdoor activity groups; co-rec sports; gaming groups; social dancing (swing and salsa are popular); cultural meetups (film, art, etc.)

[strateguy632]

first, you mean a good boyfriend finding a bad one is easy. the guy from September, speak on phone. ask about his interests and trips.

[Joshydavid25]

You broke up with your boyfriend a year ago.. Calm down a little bit.. Maybe go for the nice guy that has a decent job and shows actual interest in you..

[RedInnocent68]

With a bod like that? I don’t believe it for a moment! What @DextroShade said.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Just not the proper moments, I don't believe you should stress It, it will happen at the right time

[KonkeyDong]

Gosh, I'm in your shoes.

25, career, whole bunch of Certificates, Lives alone,

No Girlfriend.

[Tomisworthless]

Doubt thats you attractive women have plenty of options to choose to date. I think you're either catfishing or your personality is awful

[Chthou95]

You're a 26 woman and have never had any boyfriend? Something is definitely wrong with you considering how easy it is for women to get a man. This probably isn't even you though

[scooogy]

What about mr. purse in that pic? Like, why do you appear like you already had a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

If that's you then I'm really shocked because cases like this are a lot more shocking than for the male counterparts

[Anonymous]

why do you think you are still single? its shocking for a woman