How can a man have feelings for a woman but yet he isn't ready for a relationship?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because he is in no rush to be in a relationship , he probably had bad experiences in relationships prior to you , so he isn’t rushing anything until he feels he can fully trust you , and feels he really knows you well first , before even make that decision of being committed to you. I am actually the same way he is , , I had my heart shit on to many times to the point I am now the way he is , Most girls’ I have met and dated , pretty much told me they wanted a relationship and wanted a guy that treats them with love and respect , but sadly most females’ don’t tell the part that they will eventually get bored of you or trade you in for someone else , once the infatuation period runs it’s course. So honestly it’s stupid for people to jump right into a committed relationship with someone , before they actually really get to know each other. Most people just say what they think you want to hear , but deep down inside they most likely aren’t telling you the truth about something. Why I no longer jump into relationships with girls’ I prefer FWB’s first with a girl with some strings attached to give us both time to really get to know each other before making the big decision of being committed to each other for the long haul , and not the short haul.

AMS700CX4u2 · Accepted Answer

Relationship are like a funnel leading to marriage. Males are taught from the start to maintain their independence as long as they can. It is an easier life. The best way to avoid the complications of a marriage is to avoid the relationship because once you start the journey into the funnel it becomes more difficult to back out should things not work out. Many males are not willing to throw the dice and see what happens they want their financial future secured before they start in a relationship. It is the wise option. Nature and wisdom are not workng together here..

MairimBP · Accepted Answer

It can be many things. You can like the person and want to be with her but simply not feel ready because of different stuff you are not emotionally available, you can't be there for that person for example long distance. You feel like you'd let her down by even trying. So you kinda "run away" from the relationship thing even tho you like the person.

Sometimes you should also be careful there are many "players" in this world that don't have feelings for you just want to hang out without having a relationship in mind and stuff.

It can also cause frustration,... And it people can even distance themselves because of that. It is really a terrible situation.

Account · Accepted Answer

The one doesn't necessarily contradicting the other. It can happen.  But I am calling bullshit because most people who claim that shit lie.

thatshydork · Answer

I think it’s the same as how many women can have feelings for someone and not be ready for a relationship. Not being ready for a relationship (whether that be emotionally, mentally, etc) doesn’t stop those feelings from coming.

As you might get told by poets, emotions like love don’t have a timeline nor does it stop for things like how mentally stable you are or your emotional state.

MisterWack · Answer

Could be different factors in his/her life, you know?

Long distance, career, timing, not ready for commitment / taking that big step, etc.

He could also have doubts while falling in love, it could be a complexity of emotions that drive him crazy to not pursue further.

Everyone has a reason for their feelings and it goes differently by individual.

Goahead76 · Answer

Men thinking of long term relationships look at more than just the person, they also look at their job, their ability to provide, the housing market, worsening economic conditions, the state of the world, how hard it is just to afford basics.

A guy may see red flags everywhere, everything telling him now is not the time, but it doesn't mean you don't have feelings or emotions for someone.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes, for various reasons.  He could be just out of a relationship and the dust hasn't settled yet, or just ending one, or he might be doing a job change, buying a house, or in the middle of a remodel,

Yannae · Answer

That was me. The short answer is that I don't want to be fooled into a relationship because of my feelings for you. A relationship is a commitment and I want to be sure that I invest that time in the right person. So some feelings are not enough for me to immediately be ready. I want to learn about you first and perhaps even get a glimpse of the bad side. We all have that side.

Anonymous · Answer

As a man, freedom is what most of us / more of us strive to keep. Women are more likely to value security over pure freedom. Thus all women are competing with the benefits of 100% pure freedom. To give that up for a woman... she has to be worth it!

OfMiceandMen · Answer

A guy can like a girl, but that doesn't make him ready for a relationship. Most often that is the case. He may like her and wants something completely casual, but he's not willing to get into a relationship with her.

Lady_Heart · Answer

Mine still loved me but still broke up with me n tells me he still love me. Conclusion men can love many more than 1 woman at once but each has different levels of it so the highest gets more of him n rest scraps

Sonorous · Answer

Because sexual attraction does not entail commitment. Commitment is a social construct. Sexual attraction is a law even if none of us could communicate with one another.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

It sounds like he’s probably letting you down gently. He’s probably only interested in friendship.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

He probably has some personal life issue going on that he knows will prevent him from forming a healthy relationship with her.

Jennz6 · Answer

Feeling for sex and no commitment, I know guys like that

genericname85 · Answer

because obviously a relationship comes with a lot of obligations and takes away a lot of your individual autonomy.

Booklover_90 · Answer

He’s probably not interested enough to want a relationship. Also, men are human, too. Meaning, he might have some hesitation to actually begin a relationship. There are  many reasons.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Maybe he isen't ready for a relationship when it comes to finances or mentally or i don't know what esle!

woahhh152 · Answer

That's normal when a person has a lit going in his life. Or when he's been through a lot in his past relationship

LiamJHayden · Answer

One does not automatically lead to the other.

paledreams · Answer

Hmm. Maybe he's a player maybe he just wants to be maturing or maybe he just has no clue ♂️👞

Radiate143 · Answer

Because men do not enter committed relationships for love or feelings.

Pohjolan · Answer

Because we can't control our emotions nearly as much as we'd like to.

LiamS95 · Answer

He doesn't want to get serious and settle down, he still wants to play the field.

Twalli · Answer

He could have just gotten out of one.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

He wants to explore options

Gabriella2005 · Answer

Sounds like he’s making a plan b.

MasterKS · Answer

some shits are so complicated! LOL

Joshgag2000 · Answer

He just wants sex not worth it

jahaims · Answer

He is immature

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't like u. Are u dumb?

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆😆

waykee3 · Answer

I don’t know.

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