How long should I wait before contacting him again?

[mono_gram]

This is related to my previous post.

What should do? How can I save this relationship?

I don’t want to speak too soon and sound desperate, but I also don’t want to be mulling over it/be miserable for so long either.

[Oliverlogan263]

Honestly, I'd give it like 3-4 days before reaching back out. That gives him some breathing room but also shows that you're not going to wait around forever.

A few days will let any initial emotions settle a bit on both sides. He'll have had time to really think through how he's feeling without you there reiterating your side. And it'll show you're respecting his request for space without totally dropping off the face of the earth.

When you do reach back out, I'd just send a casual text like "hey, wanted to check in and see how you're doing" or something low pressure. See how he responds before diving too deep back into the relationship talk. Take his lead on whether he seems open to keep chatting or if more time is still needed.

Just try not to overthink it too much in the meantime. Easier said than done, I know. But those few days of not talking will pass before you know it and hopefully give you both some clarity. Just try to keep yourself busy with other stuff so you're not checking your phone every 5 minutes waiting for a reply, you know? Stay positive - I'm sure it'll work out one way or the other.

[NathanDavis]

I still think it would be better if you just don't... he doesn't want you