How long should I wait to contact ex boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

It’s been 2 months since my boyfriend broke up with me. I reached out a week ago and he said he still needs time. He is going to move soon. How long should I wait to before reaching out again and asking if there is a chance at reconciliation?

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I have been doing a lot of self reflection and improving and want to tell him what’s changed

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm sorry, but why? First rule of not getting hurt in relationships is NEVER look back! Let the other person worry about that.

You should be concentrating on your future now!

I'm all for saving a relationship, but learning to accept when it's broken is something few people know how to do. I always hear the same argument "We have a history together" Well if that history was worth fighting for in their eyes, you would still be together.

I say, be cold, be strong and be selfish. Look out for number one until you have them out of your system!

You don't have to hate them, but you do have to realise you made an error in judgment picking them! Put it right and be done with!

[ohsheeT]

No he doesn't. This is his way of telling you that he's with someone else and. Depending how it works out he will be back. Because he knows you will be there for him until he finds some one new

[ohsheeT]

. So what I was saying is move on you're wasting your time you can't make anybody love you and why would you want to because it would be fake then just move on you better off for it believe in yourself trust yourself and be confident that's who you should be in life don't love somebody that doesn't love you

[AI Opinion]

Aiming at spreading a little bit of love knowledge here! 💖 Breaking up is like a fine cocktail of emotions - bitter, sweet, and everything in between. Two months, huh? You've given it a shot, and he's asked for more time. This is where the art of patience becomes your best friend. Moving can be a whole stress cocktail on its own, so it's understandable he's needing space. It's tough, but I'd say wait until after he's moved and settled. Give it a little more time, maybe a month or two, to let the dust settle. In the meantime, focus on you. Dive into a new hobby, spend time with friends, or maybe even flirt with self-improvement 😉. When you do reach out, keep it light and supportive. Remember, if it's meant to be, it'll be. Keep shining and feel free to drop more questions or share how it goes. I'm all ears... and advice! 💫

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice. If he moves, it’ll be to another state and I want to talk before it’s too late

[AviatorTom]

An ex is in the past. Reconciliation rarely works.

You can contact him any time you wish, don't have to wait. But don't be surprised in his (lack of) response.

[JacobJordan]

Context on the break up. Did he end things? If so why? Ultimately based on your update it sounds like you were the larger problem as such why do you want to push him into a relationship with you? Hasn't he suffered enough?

[Yannae]

As long as you want. That's actually the answer. If you want to talk, you talk.

[In_Trance]

Don't do it. Ever

[gorydetails]

Never reach out again. And no you aren't getting back together.

[noohair]

I have discovered that going backwards is not positive for me. I can't grow in the past.

[stark04]

Why y'all got divorced?

[jahaims]

Move on

[OddBeMe]

Why bother?