How long should I wait till I contact my ex?

[Anonymous]

Do I do the 30 days rule or wait to contact her on her birthday which is on March 8th?

I want to try and get her back. She is currently in a new relationship.

1 month

On her birthday

Other (leave an opinion)

Updates

+1 y

I need to make myself more clear because people seem to misunderstand. Right now she is in a rebound relationship, she wants us to stay as friends but I left and gave us some time and space, the no-contact period and now all I am asking is how long should I wait to contact her and continue our friendship because our relationship is no more.

Updates

+1 y

We accidentally bumped into each other and we talked. No hard feelings between us, both of us are healing and turning our life around. We might be friends, we don't know yet. We will give each other time and space to heal and to work on ourselves first.

[hahahmm]

Let me translate what you said based on my life experience & observations:

"Right now she is in a rebound relationship"

Translation: "She is being disloyal & disrespectful to me." The only thing of real value that a woman can give you is loyalty, respect. I won't count kids because she could give that to any guy. But yes, being a loyal mother of your kids is something.

"she wants us to stay as friends"

Translation: "She wanted all of the traditional benefits a man gives a woman he is in a serious relationship with like being a shoulder to cry on, helping with car problems, money, birthday gifts, to be her bodyguard." Men and women aren't the same. Women tend to need more than guys but in a relationship the woman is giving the guy something. The higher quality the relationship is the more is expected of her. Which is exactly why dudes don't give a woman a ring JUST because she's dateable or looks nice. Let's do the math on what I just said: the higher quality the relationship is the more is expected of her. How much do you think is required/expected of her when there's no relationship? Just a label called "friends"? Zero. This is very convenient for her but a really bad deal for you. But it's even worse than that because women don't respect guys who act thirsty/needy. The fact you even agree to being friends proves you are needy and she's always going to put you last on her list of priorities compared to guys who aren't needy. I mean, after all, if she wanted somebody needy she could date a woman. Do you get what I'm saying? It has to do with fundamental differences between genders. This is also why women can enjoy watching Romantic Comedy movies and simultaneously think that the love sick guy in the movie is a SUCKER, FOOL, IDIOT, PATHETIC.

"all I am asking is how long should I wait to contact her and continue our friendship because our relationship is no more."

Translation: "I am desperate to chase her." If you want to be the best man you can be it means you don't make a woman that primary point/focus of your life. You have life goals that will help you build your life. And once you have started down that road you will eventually realize that you do not need a woman but a woman is a luxury. You will be able to pick a woman based on how she will compliment your life goals. You will not be needy, or chasing women. You will realize your own value and women who have value will also see it. There are different kinds of confidence. A lot of guys don't understand that the most valuable kind of confidence is the kind you earned. Not the kind you learned how to fake or that is all about chasing women. You earn confidence by building your life.

"We accidentally bumped into each other and we talked. No hard feelings between us, both of us are healing and turning our life around. We might be friends, we don't know yet. We will give each other time and space to heal and to work on ourselves first."

Dude, what she's saying is she wants to have 5-20 different men inside her and look for some guy who turns her on more than you. That's her first project. The second project is when she starts looking for a guy who built up his life more than you have. Meanwhile she will keep you on the back burner for when she needs a shoulder to cry on or needs her ego stroked. If you have self-respect you won't settle for this. If you want to be a traditional guy, check out my mytakes.

[Asker]

I am trying to focus on my life, work on myself and build myself. I am also trying to find a good psychologist because I really need one.

[hahahmm]

For almost all of human history we didn't need psychologists and society had fewer mentally ill people running around. If you follow the example of your male ancestors who built civilizations you'll be fine. If you try to live your life the way the average guy does today you'll have problems.

[kappasan]

Exactly. The average guy these days has a constant job burnout... mild, or major.

[lightbulb27]

that's a mess and maybe wasn't handled well at breakup. If people followed better behaviors and worked on themselves, it be less messy. A slow train wreck is better than a fast one...

why do you want her back may be better question and do you really want her back or just going to "punt" again? if it's just because you feel pain and loss... that's not a reason. If its because you plan to make the changes and step up, then maybe. you don't have to tell me, but yourself... and have it make sense. There's a reason you broke up...

longer you wait the worse it is.

but then again, she's in another relationship, even if it's a rebound. who knows where her heart is?

I'd say immediately. but then again, I suspect the other answer is... you shouldn't.

this why therapists make the big bucks... untangling emotional spaghetti with two imperfect hormonally and emotionally bonded people.

I wish you the best in your decision. Either way, make a decision and make it right.

[Asker]

Yup, the breakup was a real mess mostly, I take full responsibility for it because I had a mental breakdown. I will work on myself first and then contact her maybe it will take months but I will just have to wait and work on myself first. I want her back because we were good together, and had the best times of our life but both of us were depressed and it made it fail.

I do plan on going to a psychologist.

[lightbulb27]

good decision. Something, maybe more than one thing, is not right and good time as any to repair. Relationships will test the deepest emotions... which is childhood stuff usually. They can be stressful as two come together... which takes energy... all the "Big" decisions that need made, changes, taking on anothers emotions and personality. It can be real work.
good luck!

[Asker]

Both of us had really bad childhoods, so we just fed each other negative energy when were down, that is why I wanted us to have a group therapy session which she was down for it but we never got to it. I hope she is happy now at least because I care about her, if she doesn't want to be friends then I don't have right to beg her.

[lightbulb27]

I learned to make sense and gain value out of these things. you just noted a source of issue and opportunity. relationships stir up the old junk so it can be dealt with and healed.
hard to say... generally speaking a rebound is worse. I'd focus on yourself, which is what you control. do a lot of journaling and growth and healing. healing occurs in layers over time with discovery.
Best thing would have been to work through stuff, or relationship post mortem so both can heal. But often people don't want to do that and just run to the next "drug" to feel good. most people don't want to change, that's the challenge... finding sufficient value to deal with the past so it's put into perspective.

[Asker]

With the "next drug to feel good" you described her precisely which is why I wanted to help and in doing that we connected but it was going nowhere because she didn't want to change and just went for the next "drug" as you said.

I will focus on myself first even though I always put others first, for some reason I am like a dad but I will try to work on myself first and when I am healed I can contact her and see how things are maybe I can help her heal too, nobody knows where life will get you.

She is going through depression, sadness, anger, confusion, self-doubt, being lost, and university at the same time, so it's not easy for her.

[lightbulb27]

so you are both young.
It all makes sense and shouldn't be "that hard" to sort out for a professional that knows their stuff. That's not easy to find, so fire therapist/pschologist fast if they don't "get it". I'd say no drugs, you got all the drugs you need in your brain and glands... the secret is to unlock them by releasing the oppression within and doing what creates the joy you seek.
What does..."I am like a dad" mean? To her?
All of this is damage of upbringing that is under opportunity to be repaired now. Sooner you find the broken stuff and repair it, sooner you can move forward in a good way. Attraction being sub conscious... you or her, will continue to draw "pain" from the deck of cards... so to speak... until the underlying issues are resolved.
If you get stuck or lost or start falling off track, reach out again if you wish. I should be out here.

The challenge is most people don't want to change... they are functioning out of the emotional programming they received in developing years... which is screwed up, all the while the mating hormones kick in. Makes for more messes. Some people find these things in 50's and 60's... some never do. Mating and reproducing... is the priority now in her being, not "fixing" herself. That is likely decades later.
I learned slowly... in the school of "hard knocks"...
Peace!

[Asker]

Thanks for the help, I appreciate it.

[Asker]

I sent you a follow request, so you know who I am and thanks if I ever feel stuck or lost again, I will message you.

[EmyyWolf]

Mental breakdown? Damn that’s a turn off.

[Asker]

@EmyyWolf I had a really really bad year and June alone was something else but I am healing and I am better now.

[lightbulb27]

as you turn the pain into learning... e. g. face the stress with courage to overcome, do things that bring you healing and health, you'll get a "rocket fuel" boost. I did my most ever pullups well into my 50's... after a breakup. Amazing how it works...

[Asker]

I am planning on going to the gym or start swimming from Monday.

[lightbulb27]

set some goals and see the results!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU&t=2s

[EmyyWolf]

What is a mental breakdown?

[Asker]

@EmmyWolf "A nervous breakdown (also called a mental breakdown) is a term that describes a period of extreme mental or emotional stress. The stress is so greatĵ that the person is unable to perform normal day-to-day activities. It can sometimes indicate an underlying problem such as depression or anxiety."

This year and this month, I lost too many people I love and care about, so you can imagine what I went through. Which is why I am also looking for a psychologist.

[EmyyWolf]

You mean they passed away?

[Asker]

@EmyyWolf Yes.

[lightbulb27]

Sorry for your loss.

[Asker]

@lightbulb27 Thank you.

[meetkitty123]

This doesn't make sense it sounds really immature actually you break up with her then you want her back and you actually believe there is this magical number in which you're supposed to wait before contacting there's no such thing!

It seems to me that this magical number you're looking for is however long it takes you to get your stuff straightened out! The girl has moved on you think it's a rebound however in her mind she has moved on there's not much details here as to what happened but simply based on how you wrote the question shows that you have much growing to do.

First figure out why y'all broke up the second tried to fix whatever the reasons were in yourself that led to the breakup third be respectful you sent her away and she's now making her life better for herself however she sees fit it isn't fair to jump into and out of another person's Life whenever you see fit and when it's most convenient to you.

You want the girl back well it's not going to be an easy task you hurt her by leaving and you're not guaranteed a second chance.

Even if you wanted to attempt to be friends with her you're still not guaranteed a second chance you have to earn it.

Fix whatever it is that you're dealing with make the changes in your life that puts you on a better path then contact her but don't expect her to drop everything and come running back she's going to have her guard up you're going to have to prove that you can be a trustworthy friend. And there is no magical number this is just something that will take time and and you have to keep in mind that we don't always get what we want and we don't get to choose what we want for someone else.

[Asker]

I didn't hurt her, she hurt me by finding someone else behind my back. That is why I left.

I still have feelings for her, so that is why I am only thinking about us getting back together.

Right now I am going through depression, anxiety, and panic attacks thanks to what she did but I still love her and care about her because she is just going through a lot and something bad happened to her in the past, so she is doing things that she doesn't mean to.

Currently, I am trying to work on myself. On Monday a psychologist will call me, so we can make an appointment and I will be hitting the gym.

I don't know what the future will hold for me or if it will bring us back together or if I will find someone better.

[catiecatie]

So no contact can help a person. Shit if we are basing ourselves on that then technically I’m still on a break with an ex from late 2019 and a time thing since early 2021. I’m just done. I grew from the time guy and I’m currently crushing hard on this new guy. I just need to get the nerve to ask him out. It’s been almost 2 months since I seen him last and 3 weeks since we texted each other. I need to interview him so I can start getting my hours in so we will see if he is the one I go with or not though. I do need to ask him out for drinks though!

[AviatorTom]

Forever. An ex is in the past, it's over. Move on.

[David_Kek]

Unless you have something to actually apologize for in the relationship, or you have like kids with them or something, or you were the dumper, then why on earth would you contact them and put yourself in the friendzone?

They're your ex, they left you. And if she left you for someone else; you're not doing her or yourself any favors by not letting her go. I get it, it's hard, we've all been there, yet you need to face reality. She's gone, she's not your girlfriend anymore, yet she's wanting to stay friends with you to keep her options open, and if you let her treat you like that, then you can guarantee she definitely won't be coming back. Move on, and do not contact her. If she's the one who dumped you, then the ball is in her court, and right now her choice is to bang some other guy.
I'm not saying this to be cruel, i'm saying it because you clearly need to hear it. Hell, she's probably blowing him right now as you're reading this comment, and yet rather than accepting that, you're just thinking about how to make her change her mind. The ball is in her court, not yours, and this was her choice. Accept it, accept her choice and give her the breakup. And that means making her live with the consequences of her actions, which means not waiting for her in the friendzone as a good plan B. Do not contact, and do not accept her friendship as a consolation prize, no matter how much it hurts. Demanding the ball back will not only push her away even more, it'll also only hurt you more. Have some self-respect and let her go. If there is any chance of her coming back, that's the only way it'll happen.

If at some point in the future she changes her mind after seeing what life is like without you and decides she made a mistake, she will contact you. If she still likes you, she may contact just to check up and to see how you're going occasionally, and my advice wouldn't be to give her the cold shoulder, but rather be polite but let her go. Take your share of responsibility for how you may have hurt her in the relationship, work on those issues and give her a sincere apology if warranted, yet if you have nothing else to apologize for, then let her go on her own path. If she actually does want you back one day, she will contact you and she'll directly ask if you'll take her back. Until that day happens, which very well may never happen (she may actually end up marrying mr rebound that she's blowing at this very moment), let her go and let go of your control of the situation. Learn to live without her, and stop trying to control what you can't. I know you don't want to hear it right now, but it is genuinely true what they say, that anything could happen. Two years from now she might come crawling back, and you might genuinely not want her back anymore. No one knows what the future may bring. Stop being afraid to let her go, and just do it. If she really is the one for you, then you should be able to let her go, and fate will still bring you back together one day. Fate, not you. Think about it.

[Asker]

I am working on it. This year and this month have been hell, so it will take a lot of time for me to heal but I am healing and I am working on myself.

[David_Kek]

Try to focus on bettering yourself for your own sake. Imagine she died or something, or you was the last person on the face of the earth, ask yourself how you could be happy living a life alone for the rest of your life. Whether dealing with your personal issues, or working towards the career you want to have, find something to do with your time that gives your life meaning in isolation of relationships with others. Generally if you have that work to keep you busy and you focus on it long enough, it slowly gets easier with time.

[Asker]

I think I will just go see a psychologist because I really need one.

[David_Kek]

Might be a good idea. Taking care of your mental health is no less important than taking care of your physical health.

[safricanluke]

If she's happily in a relationship, then you don't try to win her back. Maybe down the road, if she's no longer in a relationship, you could try to make amends, but only talking to her in order to get her back will blow up in your face.

However, if you are interested in being friends with your ex (it is possible), you should send her a happy birthday text without any extra motivations (no "I love you" or "I miss you", etc.). And then you can continue to talk to her like a normal person and allow her to be happy.

[ZackBan]

Having kept in touch with my Ex I can tell you that getting them back is not simple.

What you can hope for is to "get them forward"

That means you move on and evolve yourself.
Your looks, mindset, finances, relationships etc... and if after that transition you still want that same ex she'll be more likely to give you another shot.

But as of now she's seeing someone else and you're the failed experiment she has no reason to leave him for you

[Asker]

I respect their relationship, first I want to become friends with her, I don't want to make them break up or anything like that.

[Sasha0426]

@Asker My dude, that’s exactly what your plan is.

[ZackBan]

You explicitly said "get her back" you see what the problem is.

You're not honest with yourself

You're not supposed to respect the dude boning your ex especially if you still have feelings.

Learn to manifest authenticity, dare to say "I don't like this" and maybe you'll have a chance

[Asker]

I didn't make myself clear, I guess I could have phrased it better. I updated the question.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... "I respect their relationship"? Shit like this is why she left you.

[Rei13]

Generally I’d say 6 months to a year + depending on how long you dated to stay out of each others lives otherwise the feelings will still be there and that wouldn’t be friendship. As for dating again an ex should stay an ex. I am still friends with a few of my exes but it is more of if we’re in the same place we’re good and might chat but don’t actually go out of our way to talk or hang out as they should be unless you have kids together

[devilish-cutie]

If she is in new relationship i wouldn't try to get her back. Unless you think she is with someone just to be with someone and you think you guys are soulmates or something. But be honest with ysf. If she seems happier with the other person, leave her be.

[Anonymous]

she is currently in a new relationship... just stop dude...

what are the reasons you need to contact her?

personally, if i moved on and in a new relationship, the last thing i'd want is an ex trying to squeeze their way back in. that's annoying and desperate. it won't go well and you'll make a fool out of yourself.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you understand the answers, it's pointless trying to continue being her friend at this point in time. Because you have obviously not moved on. And if we can see that she'll see it and her rebound boyfriend will see it too.

Move on.

[Staximus]

You left her, you fucked up. She's in another relationship now. You are yesterday's news. Leave her alone. By contacting her, you are going to create problems and drama between her and her current boyfriend, which is not fair to her. You should not be trying to get her back when she's in another relationship. That shows that you are a disrespectful and inconsiderate person. Leave her alone.

[DermalPunch]

Based in whatbI have read in the threads leave her alone. You want her back as a friend. You are a typical selfish guy who doesn't want to lose a girl on your roster. Grow up and stop playing with people's hearts.

[Asker]

Ummmm okay, nice of you to assume that I am a bad person and that I played with her heart.

[DermalPunch]

No, I think you need to wake up to the reality of what you are doing. You are a regular guy who is acting selfishly.

[DermalPunch]

Re update: my apologies. She is. playing you. Don't contact her.

[Asker]

That is what I was thinking but I also think she found someone because she needed someone happy. Both of us were depressed, and we helped each other as much as we could but it didn't end well, she wants to stay as friends but I left to give us space and time and now I want to continue that friendship and if I meet her I will see with my own eyes what kind of person she is. I also plan to go see a psychologist to get help, and make myself better.

[DermalPunch]

I've been where you are. Leave her in the past. Some relationships are for certain times and places. We may feel used but when you connect as two broken people, you often don't gel when you begin healing. Or one is healing and the other is still dependent. She suggested friendship to keep you on the back burner. I Haye when en do it and I Haye when women do it. Invest in yourself.

[Asker]

I will invest in myself first, that is my plan, to focus on myself, learn to love myself, start exercising, and then maybe contact her and if she wants to be friends okay if not then fine.
I care about her a lot because I hate seeing people in pain.

[DermalPunch]

Who left whom and why?

[Asker]

We were in a relationship, I guess you can say that but we couldn't make it work and she found someone else which was way too quick to replace someone or the other guy is just a rebound guy, I felt betrayed and I left but now I am thinking after I finish working on myself to contact her again and to continue our friendship and if it doesn't work out then that's that. Maybe all I need is to see her face to face to see for myself what kind of a person she is.

Right now I am going through a lot of emotions, so I am very confused, angry, sad, lost, and even have panic attacks. That is why I am asking how long I should wait till I make eye contact.

[DermalPunch]

Who. Ended. It. I am asking soemthing specific and you didn't answer the question.

Also, how are you SO sure he is a rebound?

[Asker]

I ended it. I am not sure that she is with a rebound guy, I think that she is because she got into another relationship way too quick.

[DermalPunch]

Oh you ended it. Well, my first assertion was correct. Wanting friendship is selfish on your part. Either cimitt to making it work primarily through communication, consistency and faithfulness or let her go so she can find someone who will invest into her. Now, she may be awful too and you are both better apart. Reach out to her sooner than later but only if you are ready to actually do the relationship. Anything else is just immature and selfish.

[midnightmoon05]

You sound like one of us at one point of our life time.
Wait 30 days…then another 30 days then another 30 days…at the same time…continue to do what you are doing then you will be so well equipped to be a good man to next girl…she will be the past…time is your best friend.

[Asker]

Well, I can't reach out now, it's way too soon and she is in a relationship and I don't want to ruin it. I ended it a week ago. My wounds are still very fresh.

[DermalPunch]

Hmmm... she's got a dude a week later? I think you should forget this relationship

[Asker]

I am trying to but it has only been a week, so it will take time. That is why I want to continue our friendship because we were good friends just not good at relationships.

[Anonymous]

WTH. Move on. Don’t contact her. She made the decision to leave you, then she moved on to a new relationship and a new dick.

And you want to beg for her to come back?

Good god man, have some self-respect! Believe it or not, there ARE other women out there.

[Rania05]

She has another relationship, don't go below the moral bottom line by taking action in getting her back when she isn't single. In fact, forget about her all together, life isn't all about love, romance is just a spice.

[Spongebobssocks]

I am 99% sure this is the guy who contacted me. He is talking about an online relationship that lasted for one month.. they never met or evan talked on the phone and he went insane when it "ended"... I tried to help him for like 3 days but couldn't. He needs proffesional help..

.. I have reported both his accounts so his accounts are frozen because he spammed me and wouldn't leave me alone.. he might not be able to answer you people commenting for a while... if it's him.

[Asker]

Good luck with your heaven points thing.

[DizzyDesii]

If the goal is to get her back, waiting is the dumbest thing you can do unless she asked for space. There usually are no rules to getting exes back because they’re often an ex for a good reason

[Flower7]

Don’t contact her at all. Especially since she’s already in another relationship.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Don't contact her at all. Do you really want to be that back-burner guy or her emotional tampon?

[Ali4Sy]

I think you don't have to call at all... are you sure that she was in love with you? Even in last days?

[Ali4Sy]

I think there's nothing called Friends after lovers... You'll always remember a lot of stuff, it'll be harmful...
Truly opinion... Deal with her normal But don't hang around with her even like friends..
Eventually I wish you good luck..

[molonski2]

I wouldn't be contacting her , what will be will be , let it go , she's moved on , so should you.

[molonski2]

Do not continue any friendship , cut clean the dead wood , and move on.

[sheikalana]

They're an ex for a reason. I don't understand why exes feel the need to get in touch with their exes. Move on.

[Quigly]

Rebound relationship? If she is in another relationship that fast, she didn't have much to get over from her past relationship.

It sounds more like you have a toxic unhealthy obsession and should break away.

[erandal]

Move on. Staying in contact with ex’s is never a good idea.

[exitseven]

I would never contact her again. It is like cutting the dog's tail off an inch at a time so it does not hurt as much.

[OlderAndWiser]

You should wait 147 years.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

On her birthday should be fine

[Asker]

The only one who answered the question. Thank you.

[midnightmoon05]

Would you like other guys or exes contacting your girlfriend when she is holding your hand…she goes to answer a question… then says… omg!! Long time…of course I’ll see you Jake… yiu standing next to her like an idiot!! Oh what fun!!
Move on…best regards…

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@Asker You're welcome bud 👍

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@midnightmoon05 No, but I set that boundary with girls from the beginning. It's up to her whether or not she wants to respect it. But we can't blame our friend here for trying 🤷‍♂️

[midnightmoon05]

Up to you..
I just want to give you my prospective …
I hate drama…my ex called when I was dating someone new…I hated it… I just wanted him to move on and leave me alone.
It’s really pathetic to have an ex calling/contacting on a regular bases…i eventually blocked him.

Then a woman who was mentally I’ll kept texting my bf…till he blocked her…

To us who have moved on…we look down on the ex and it’s a sign of desperation… red flag!!

The girl saying … let’s be friends … it’s an easy way out for her to be “nice” in reality it’s meant to do to anyone who have broken up…
Sorry for being so blunt…but you have to live your life.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't disagree with you. Trying once or twice is one thing, but when they can't take a hint or it turns to harrassment, that's another story

[Asker]

@midnightmoon05 I won't do that to her, I will see if we can continue the friendship if not then that's that.

[midnightmoon05]

Friendship? What do you mean? I am serious!! Can you explain to me the following step by step.
1. You call her. She is alone. “Hi Sarah”.
Her “Hi”
“Well…you mentioned you want to be friends”
Her “of course! I love that!”
Cool
Next?

2. Hi Sarah.
Her “hil
How are you?
Her “pretty good…just hanging with jake…”giggling.:…

Next?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sarah was girl's name 😔

[midnightmoon05]

Cool…friendship established…. yippy!! What’s next?
You wait? Back to square one…?

[Asker]

@midnightmoin05 You are just projecting. It's normal for women to have male friends and it is normal for men to have female friends. She already has male friends, I don't know what the issue is here, if her guy doesn't trust her then that is on him.

[rienna888]

Don’t have to wait just contact her. If you messed up wait 3 days. If she still loves you she will come back no matter what

[Emmy87]

Since she has a new relationship then she moved on so don’t contact her forever and move on , i know that talking isn’t as easy as telling but u have to move on so u don’t keep hurting

[Anonymous]

It is no more if she now has found someone else she wants to try out as a newbie rebound. Don't wait for her. She cannot be now trusted.

[RyanK9b]

Dude she left you and is another relationship. You are mentally dead for her.
Its not worth it.

[RyanK9b]

So to your update.
Lets asume u have no Ulterior motives.
She wants you as back up plan if the relationship doesn't work.

Don't do it.
It also will probably hurt seeing her with someone else

[Asker]

That is why I will work on myself first then maybe contact her. I don't want to meet her right now while I still have feelings and going through a lot of emotions.

I guess I will just work on myself and when I am sure that I am ready I will contact her or just wish her happy birthday on the 8th of March. Maybe I will find someone else by then, who knows.

[Asker]

I also plan to go see a psychologist to work on myself.

[RyanK9b]

If you really want her back you must achieve the following, a mix or one of those on a exceptional lvl :

- status
- money
- game

Nothing else interests women biological more.

[Asker]

I already know what I need to work on, to become independent, stable, start exercising and start loving myself. The hard part is taking the first step, so I need a psychologist or someone to give me a start.

[RyanK9b]

Why tf do u need a psychologist for? You already know what to do.
Stop being a bum, look in the mirror and kick your own butt.
Focus on your target and start freaking now.
U have no time to waste time.

[Asker]

Because I am dealing with depression.

[RyanK9b]

Then insert vitamin D and do your shit as planned. That works. Don't stay in the freaking drain, no psychokogist will help u with that. Bc the strategy is that you help yourself by acknowledging the problems and come to the conclusion how to solve them.
That's all
I had several classes in psychology. Its no allround Problem solver or joker to get u up immediately.
This sessions can take years!

[midnightmoon05]

@ Ryan Exactly!! And lots of money!!

[Asker]

It's better to start somewhere than nowhere.

[genericname85]

you don't. keep your dignity and move on instead of running after her like a desparate loser.

[JesseP1nk]

You want to be her friend and then you say you want her back - so which one is it? Just move on.

[Anonymous]

Get in touch with her in a month. It’s worth a shot.

[Anonymous]

She has moved on. You should man up and do the same.

[Anonymous]

Why ruin her new relationship for your selfish desires? She’s your ex for a reason, so leave her be.

[dudeinohio]

Never. She is ancient history. Move on and find someone new

[DextroShade]

How about never and you just move on with your life?

[KrakenAttackin]

She is your EX, don't contact her ever again. Delete her from your mind and life.

[kappasan]

Ok. Now I read your updates. Send a happy birthday message on her birthday.

[OddBeMe]

Bad idea. But make it a reason like bday. And do it nice with flowers.

[noohair]

You are fooling yourself. You can't grow if you live in the past.

[msc545]

You don't contact her at all. You wait and let her contact you if she's even going to.

[normandi]

She is in a new relationship
Move on man... she doesn't want you

[Pinay_ako]

No contact forever …

[Sweetsurprize]

Don't bother. She's an ex for a reason!

[Anjoomkabir]

Did you end the relationship or did she?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That bird has flown.

[NotInterestedSorry]

March 18 was over 3 months ago.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Seven to ten business days.

[Dargil]

Never look back. You broke up for a reason

[Reem12345reem]

leave her alone

[SolitarySolace]

Don’t. They’re an ex for a reason

[DiegoO]

You don't contact her.

[peedy]

When hell freezes over

[james_d0007]

Leave her alone and move on!

[strateguy632]

1st.

[gothbxtch]

don’t do it

[mommymommymommy]

You don't

[shades777]

50 years