How do I stop thinking it’s too good to be true when attractive guys are interested in me? Do attractive men ever take a single woman seriously?

[Anonymous]

I am pretty attractive I know this because I’ve been told it my whole life and a the male attention I receive. I’m confident in my looks. All the guys I’ve dated have been average, at times I’ve gone out with guys that were seen as pretty unattractive. The guys who come up to me are often less attractive loners or overweight guys so when attractive men approach or show interest in me it’s really shocking.

I have an idea in my mind that attractive guys because they are attractive are jerks, players, or hedonists. I assume immediately he is just a pretty face who’s trying to add me to his roster of women. However I do want an attractive boyfriend if I can get one. It’s not the biggest thing by any means but It would be nice and it’s always a shame when I end up treating attractive guys more distantly out of fear then the opportunities gone. Are attractive men all players with tons of women? Are they capable of taking a woman seriously and how do stop assuming any attractive guy is too good to be true?

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get where you're coming from, girl. It is hard not to be a little skeptic when an attractive dude shows interest, since Hollywood tells us hot guys never want just one girl, you know?

But honestly, looks aren't everything. Attractive guys are still individuals - some may be players, but others are just normal dudes who want a real connection too. The key is looking beyond the surface level.

A few things that could help reframe your thinking:

- Think of your qualities other than looks that would attract a guy, like your confidence, humor, passion for things. Remind yourself you have a lot going for you too!

- Give someone a chance to show their character, don't write them off right away. See how they act and treat you over time.

- Be confident in your ability to read people - you'll pick up on any signs they just want to add you to a roster. Trust your instincts.

- Believe an attractive guy COULD genuinely like YOU for who you are inside. Don't limit your options over preconceived notions.

Keep your head up - you deserve to be with someone totally into YOU, inside and out. Have some faith there are good guys out there who will see your worth! Don't rule anyone out just based on looks alone.

[DarkLegacy]

You probably are not and you have no business judging guys looks

[KittyKatLady]

Tbh, players are gonna be players regardless of their looks, lol. I've had attractive men hurt me and play with my emotions, just like the ugly guys did.

I guess the key is to be careful not to fall for people who are only interested in fucking you - by the way, I'm not implying there's a problem with it, there's nothing wrong with just wanting sex, but I believe people should be upfront about their intentions at the very least.

[DishLady]

Sure they do. Why not? But there are so many ridiculous guys out there who are ready to string a girl along and waste her time, resources and energy that honestly it's very important to choose wisely.

[Anonymous]

No your just overthinking there the same as everyone else just have to get used of being with them

[Anonymous]

Maybe