How quickly do you fall out of love?

[Gent207-2]

In a serious monogamous relationship that's healthy and has matured with time is hard to walk away. Sex and memories create an emotional gravity and in a matter of speaking, a life of it's own.

You can't walk away without great difficulty or an even greater force propelling you. Abuse, infidelity, financial ruin, in-laws etc. can in concert compel you to leave. But even then do you ever lose the love?

[StarWarGirl]

Love is the soft corner in our hearts we keep for someone because of any reason, any kind of attraction etc. We choose to keep it for that person. So it differs person to person. If a person choose to not keep that soft corner any more in their heart for that person then they are out of love automatically.

Love is a choice we do make and maintain. It doesn't happen atomatically. Either we make that choice consciously or unconsciously but it's definitely our choice always.

[Gent207-2]

You just contradicted yourself
You can't consciously control something unconsciously

[StarWarGirl]

No there is no contradiction. In my answer the "unconscious" part is only upto when we don't realise that we are having any kind of attraction with that person. But after we realise, and it definitely happens that at some point we do realise that "oh I'm attracted to this person oh I am in love" etc. So after we realise that after that the person choose to keep the soft corner for that person in their hearts or they don't want to.

Sometimes because of their weakness they act differently than how they wish to act. In my opinion I don't consider it as "love" but it's "need" or "weakness" or "cowardice".

Similar when a person decide that they don't want to keep that soft corner for that person anymore then they are out of love.

[jahaims]

Been in love with my first love for 12 years

[Sweetdreams1950]

I give up when I love someone new.