Could you date someone who is broke?

Question

I mean they don't have much money, can you date them? Honestly?

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Not only could I,  I have ,  I did , and  I said yes  when he  asked me to marry him ! He is incredibly intelligent, caring, compassionate man, and he has the absolute best sense of humor of anyone I’ve ever met! He has made me laugh every single day of my life since the day I met him, and I cannot remember him ever telling me a joke! He just sees the funny side of everything, and he literally made people laugh at his grandmother’s funeral, telling a truly beautiful story about her! Lee makes me laugh with just a look and a word! He comes from a  very  poor family, and his goal is to become a civil servant working for the BAU (Behavioral Analysis Unit) with the FBI. If that does not work out, he wants to go into private practice, as a clinical psychologist. I am the one with all the money! I certainly don’t need, or even  want  a "man's resources” when I almost certainly receive more every month than “he” earns in a year (if he is an average American earner!). There is  so much more  to life than just money! Wealth comes in many forms, the wealth of love you receive from a partner who loves you with all of their heart. The wealth of friendship you receive from having many friends, all of whom would answer the phone at 3am and drive out to help you wherever you were, if you truly needed it… and so many other’s, including the wealth of laughter, of happiness, and of contentment! That is worth  so  much more  than anything mere money could ever buy! I hope this helps. Laura 🤗 🥰

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

I could but I also don't see a point to bringing a guy into my life that brings nothing to the table.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There two kinds of “broke” people:

Temporarily broke people who are just fell on tough times in their life but they have ambition and drive to get out of their predicaments. These people rarely ask for financial hand outs and when they do it’s only in an emergency.
Mentally and habitually broke people. These people usually had the wrong upbringing and are usually looking for someone to “save them”. They are often entitled and/or feel like they are victims with zero agency to improve themselves.

How can you tell the difference between the two? Look at their track record and history. Was there a time when they were independent and fully self reliable but they recently fell on hard times? What’s their attitude about their situation? Are they looking to do the hard work necessary? Are they ashamed or do they just accept it?

I’ve been in predicament number one a few times. It was a combination of bad luck and admittedly bad personal decisions. But I was taught growing up that if I make a mess it’s my job to clean it up. And I’ve made some huge messes (I‘m a recovering compulsive gambler). But I took 100% accountability for it, joined a recovery group and have been paying off all my debts through hard work. I asked nobody to bail me out.

It comes down to someone’s attitude.

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

That depends- why is she broke? Just a bad phase in her life financially? Or is it due to poor money management that portends long-term problems and financial dependence on me? If she manages her money well despite being broke and doesn't expect me to support her, sure.

AviatorTom · Answer

If she had other redeeming qualities, and I found her attractive, I would date her. Being broke can be corrected.

Interesting story: Guy goes to the doctor. "Doc, this is the weirdest thing, there's a voice in my thigh. Put your ear next to my thigh and you'll hear it." The doc puts his ear next to the guy's thigh and hears "Lend me 20 dollars, please." The doctor is confused. "Listen to my thigh too." Doc does and hears "Please lend me ten dollars." "And my ankle too..." Doc listens to the ankle and hears "I need five dollars, please." Doctor goes and checks all his medical textbooks, and then comes back. "This is the weirdest thing. There's never been anything like this ever reported in the medical community. The only thing I can think of is that," he pauses, "Your leg is broke in three places."

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, as long as they have ambition to achieve , meaning they just aren’t sitting around doing nothing , they are actively seeking employment or trying to start their own business etc.. but if they were just looking for someone to take care of them , then No

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

Not if they weren't driven to do and achive more in their life. I grew up in a family that was in dept and i had to eat a spoon of sugar when i wanted chocolate that is why i am a very hard working person and have achived a lot by now and want to achive even more in the future so i would give a chance to someone who is broke but if they don't show me in the first few months that they are not willing to do nothing about it i will definetly break that off.

But i think it also depends on age and where mentally you are. I think that the older i get the more less time and chances i give to people.

HawkPerception · Answer

I personally have never cared for how much money someone has. They could quite literally be a bum on the streets and if I have good compatibility with them and I find them attractive, then I'd have no issue in dating them.

Obviously no one WANTS to live on the streets and people always tend to desire a better standard of living, but my point is I would make it work no matter the circumstances.

delsworld · Answer

No. I find it very important for my partners to be able to financially take care of themselves and I believe that if you're not financially stable, you are in no space to date at that moment in time. Focus on getting your life to a more stable position before trying to bring someone else in it.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes I would and have, I have also had a girl date me when I was broke.
University life is a number of years being skint and often living meal to meal, you do not have a huge amount of free cash, it’s for rent, food, and a small bit left over for socialising.
I was in a relationship for some of uni with a girl who was working in a good job, plenty cash, I was broke lol.

I left university, got a job and have dated, relationship with those who are at university and broke or in low paid jobs.

A lot does depend on the context of them being broke, then at what level a person is classed as being broke. They may own a house but be paying nearly all their wage into their mortgage and have very little spare cash,

Anonymous · Answer

I make $70k/ yr part time in a state where the average income is $37k... I don't expect my partners to make what I make but if he's going to get into my panties he better be able to afford dinner, if he wants to be exclusive he better be above average in multiple ways, and if he wants to marry me, which means I would submit to him and obey him as my husband, he better make more than me.

electromagnetic · Answer

I met my husband while he was in debt but still an amazing man. Now, he has assets. I think it’s all about working towards something better.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Yes. A bum and someone who’s broke are different. I won’t date a bum, but I also don’t require a man to make six figures, either.

RingOfFire · Answer

I don't care what women say. I think it is obvious that millions of years of natural evolution physiologically designed men to be protectors and providers and women to be attracted to men who had the ability to fulfill this role.

So the vast majority of women are not attracted to men who cannot fulfill these roles.

Nature always wins. Women want a provider and protector and broke ain't it.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't care, as long as he lives independently and pays his bills...

sage2021 · Answer

Yes, and I have. But then his Social Security retirement started and he had a retirement from a company he worked for for 15 years. Then he wasn't broke anymore.

Nerdvana · Answer

Provided she is trying to better herself. Then yes. I would even try and help her as much as I could. If she is broke, from just being a lazy person or entitled. Then no. I have no respect for people like that. I would be more interested in her character and personality more that anything else.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men will date a girl who is broke as long as she’s cute, has a good personality and isn’t a pain in the ass. I can’t say that it would work the other way around. Yes women will date a broke man, but will they put up w it forever? Probably not. Men will work, let her stay home, take care of the house, have kids, etc. The only time I may not really date a broke girl is if she’s in debt. Even if she isn’t broke I most likely won’t date a girl who has a lot of debt.

msc545 · Answer

Women will not date broke or poor men unless they are VERY good looking and tall. Men date broke women all the time.

dustybiker2 · Answer

I wouldn't date someone if I was broke. At very least you should be stable yourself before entering a relationship.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I'm broke therefore I would. But even if I was rich as seven kingdoms I would.  Thinking a person is less based on money is funny and dumb.  Judge a person for whom they are not what they have.

sawno · Answer

Broke, sure. Lots of debt can be a problem because then your forced to work that off, I can't carry a mortgage and your debt. And that will be an issue if we have children because I don't want daycare.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Men will far far more than women even though more women actually make money now these days it leaves more men lonely now. Even when women are making good money they want to be spoiled with money or gifts it's crazy 🤣

4ngelic · Answer

if they're around my age or younger yea. if they're older no

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Depends why they’re broke. If theyre broke because they lack ambition, care, and responsibility, no.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I couldn't care less, I just hope she has no foolish debt and reasonable conscious spending habits. I intend to have a one income household one day so I'll take care of that

kwsmith2 · Answer

She doesn't need to bring anything to the table financially.

Billlewis · Answer

I'm not concerned with her economic class, if she can thoroughly and convincingly dominate that ass.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, when we got married we both were broke.

NathanDavis · Answer

if there was only ONE deciding factor... it would not be this one

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Before dating I can't remember EVER asking how much money she had.. so that would suggest it's a yes from me.

MisterWack · Answer

Yes! If she is big character & big personality then yeah.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Why would a woman at my age be incapable of being an adult? Serious questions here

KelsoAlexander · Answer

Depends if she was broke from bad spending habits and buys a lot of useless shit then hell nah, but if she just doesn't have money or is struggling to pay bills thats not a big deal, we could fix that together.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

If she gives good sex, I have no problems with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I just need her to have a job because but what else would she be doing all day? Smoking pot and watching tv? I wouldn't see a penny of her money anyway. She could work at a McDonald's for all I care.

Alex-Snow · Answer

If they were broke because of being lazy or not trying to find work then probably so

Yannae · Answer

Yes I can, but we're not going to my parents yet because they are judgy as fuck.

clampfan101 · Answer

If she had enough of the much more important aspects. Money is F tier in ranking aspects in importance. Nothing but bonus points.

Dongie · Answer

That's a question better posed to women don't you think? I never considered the amount of money a woman had. I don't think very many guys do.

2_Old_To_Care · Answer

Answering as a guy.. yep makes no difference as I'll be paying for dinner regardless 😂 Thinking as a girl... Do I really wanna buy this guy dinner and drinks? NOPE

Anonymous · Answer

No, I'm just about keeping my head above water, I can't afford to add to my debt column, thankfully I'm asexual and aromantic so don't need to get involved in such disgraceful matters

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

I think that if you wave your arms from side to side and say "i believe in hoe hendry" that money shouldn't matter

SkatPak392 · Answer

as long as she's not an addict, and has a job, then yes.  But I'm butt ugly so nobody's really interested in me though...

LiamJHayden · Answer

If she is broke because she is a spend-a-holic, no. Otherwise, yes.

Lokiion · Answer

Yeah if they are striving for something and trying to get out of that situation

Pohjolan · Answer

Sure. Its not like I'm dating their bank account.

Heydrich · Answer

Why not? Money can't buy love and happiness.

HH1488 · Answer

I got a bunch of bitcoin. The fuck she need money for? I can't date a useless bitch with no hobbies, goals, dreams.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

If she is stable and is working but doesn't bring in much I'm ok with it because I know that she is trying

katiesmuff · Answer

I did date a few like that!

Anonymous · Answer

No real man honestly cares how much the girl he's dating is worth.

Alicoooooo777 · Answer

May the euro sink deep into the ground

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Friendship yes dating no

legalboxers · Answer

I did.. its doable

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah, long as they can pay their own bills

DrPepper12 · Answer

How much is not much?

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

no, never again.

llorando · Answer

Can say that I could.

jahaims · Answer

Depends on why they are broke

the29thhuman · Answer

What are they broke from?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I couldn’t

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Nope

paledreams · Answer

Probably no

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