Would you date someone who doesn’t have a job?

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EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

I mean... like with most things, it depends.

If they're just a slob who isn't working on bettering themselves in ANY way; just sleeping all day or just playing video games and/or watching TV and eating junk food 24/7, then a hard no.

I wouldn't wanna date someone who is doing absolutely nothing other than exist. Someone completely useless who never contributes to anything.

If it's because of depression or other mental health issues then it's more forgivable, even though I still wouldn't wanna date that person, as it can hurt to see the person I love so down in the dumps like that.

There's also no guarantee the person will get better, as some people just simply don't work hard enough to be able to beat their depression, and so stay depressed forever. Don't get me wrong, I feel bad for them but I also don't wanna be with them in a relationship.

I myself have been guilty of using depression as an excuse to do nothing, but I know it's a huge issue that has to be taken care of immediately and I wouldn't want a partner with those same issues.

On the other hand...if the person is actively working on bettering themselves, then most likely yes!

In general I always admire people who work on bettering themselves, regardless if they have a job or not. Making progress is admirable!

TL;DR If they're not working on bettering themselves in any way, NO, but if they are working on bettering themselves, YES!

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I've never cared for how financially secure a girl is. Where there's a will, there's a way. All I care about is if I'm physically attracted to her and if we are compatible personality-wise. If we're compatible and I'm attracted to her, I wouldn't care if she was living on the streets. I'd happily date her.

There's more to life than work. The majority of people in the past in times of kings and queens lived in poverty. They still made it work.

I'm just looking for my person to sail through life with.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

My partner lost his job months before we were to be married. We didn’t necessarily go through hardships since he had a little savings and I worked full time but it was taking a toll on his mental health for quite a while. Honestly, there aren’t many jobs out there currently and a lot of companies are quick to sack their employees.

XHopelessRomanticX · Accepted Answer

I did a few years ago. Let me tell you; there’s a big difference between the guy who doesn’t have a job because he’s not getting hired, and the guy who doesn’t have a job because he’s not applying.

ohsheeT · Answer

I have dated girls that didn't have jobs in that moment it wasn't a big deal to me  And if I was a girl I would not date any guy that did not have a job it's just not worth it

itsannalee · Answer

No, i wouldn’t date someone who can even take responsibility of himself. Never date a broke people. A person who has a job, mostly has too much free time to do some shit.

But if i am dating someone and in the middle of the relationship he lost his job, as long as he has intentions to wake up, I’ll support him. I’ll stay.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I did, that part was ok since I was working. She found work. I believe my wifes x was jobless and in worse shape, she had to work on his physical and mental health and gave him time to get education... he's where he is at, to some degree, because of her support.

No job and sits at home sulking and is miserable and hopeless... not for long.

rienna888 · Answer

I have it was frustrating because I liked him. Days I had to wake up early, he would purposely move around the bed a lot at night to not let me have any sleep. We were going 50/50 already but he expected more and always wanted me to “contribute”. He once told me “you can work and I’ll be a stay at home dad”

Anonymous · Answer

It would depend on the reasoning for it. It would also depend on her future plans. I was without a job for 3 years once. That was the low point of my life. But fortunately I'd saved for a rainy day so I was able to whether that storm and rise stronger than before.

You can't control what life throws at you. But how you meet life's challenges says more about you than anything.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I mean I guess it depends on their situation and why they don’t currently have a job.  but most likely, no. I wouldn’t be with a bum lol

Sour-rose · Answer

It's a date, not a marriage. Sooo let's go have fun. :D

molonski2 · Answer

NO.. Unless they had just left a big job and were in transition or the like.

Anonymous · Answer

I would since I'm unemployed at the moment. You might end up being unemployed for many reasons. The only thing I would want would be for him to be looking for a job. I'm doing the same.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes I have before, and I had a girl date me when I was not working but she was.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I personally don't care if the woman doesn't have a job but naturally I don't want someone who does nothing and expects someone to start their lives

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes but unless they were in school I would expect them to be looking for a job

Unit1 · Answer

Yes, provided they can pull their own weight. Jobs are perhaps among the worst 3 ways to support oneself in modern life.

elaphe · Answer

If she were in school, I would. I wouldn't want to date someone who sat around all day doing nothing or making TikTok videos. She would be a waste of my time.

SvenTree · Answer

Sure. No problem.

As long as the woman is actively trying to grow as a person and contribute to society (f. Ex. a student, a homemaker, someone who helps in her community, etc.), I would have no problem.

paledreams · Answer

Yes I could - more time for dates, leisure, banging 😄😉

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I have been unemployed a few times in my life. I get it

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah if it was because he wad rich enough to not have to.

A_Wild_Redhead · Answer

Yes because sometimes shit happens. But he needs to have the guts to crawl out of it.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Sure; why not? But she should be getting one within a couple of months.

art84 · Answer

If she was going to school probably and wasn't working.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, provided she was not just sitting around watching the idiot box all day.

cherrybloss00 · Answer

I dated a guy who didn't have a job, then did, then didn't, then did. It did not bother me but I did try supporting him into finding one

Angelina012 · Answer

I will took by him and make sure he’s oh okay

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl has not a job, no problem. I feel that she wouldn't if I hadn't

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, and have many times.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I would do so.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, if he was actively looking for one

DrPepper12 · Answer

No explanation needed.

Staximus · Answer

As long as I don't have to pay their bills

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Sure. It depends why, though.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, cause I don't have a job either.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

YEAH

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