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"If the man... was ok with that.". So how would you explain that to them? If a guy asked you out, I assume you would turn them down automatically, right? Because you didn't have time to date. So how would they know? If it was me, I would just think she didn't like me. Also, what would it look like practically speaking to date someone but not date them?
I would just say, thank you but I'm not in a financial position to date/have a relationship right now. It would be a bit shameful but I wouldn't want him to just assume that I didn't like him. If he's into outdoorsy type of dates-- hiking, parks, sports-- then it would work out better. Those are cheap/free and we could pack a picnic. I'm not sure I quite understand your last question.
Ohh. So you would still date the person; you just wouldn't go out to eat at restaurants pretty much. And I understanding that correctly?
I mean "am"
At that time in my life, there were other factors that kept me from doing so. But yes!
Okay. But yeah, you did say time (or the lack thereof) was an obstacle as well.
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You played Monopoly over the phone? ... but how? Lol
@Jamie05rhs Neither of us lied so we played it over the phone.
I have so much respect for that! You guys are awesome!
i have no idea why so many people view dating as a sort of performance, and judging performance based on how much each other can spend. i don't have to spent shit on you, besides my own travel to visit you. i want someone to value the actual time spent with me.
Why do people comment then comment on their comment? Any particular reason? Just curious! I am seeing more and more of this.
because i thought of more stuff to say.
Oh okay cool!
^Exactly. It's when you have a main point and then you have amendments. ... And I think a lot of people also do it intentionally because they don't want their main post to be TLDR.
@Jamie05rhs Amendments usually come later right?
@coachTanthony Not always! Lol. See the Bill of Rights.
@Jamie05rhs My point is that her comments were less than a minute apart.
Okay, but see my other explanation.
@Jamie05rhs I understand that bunching up words is not pleasing to the eyes. But as I have done here.You can make your own paragraphs.
sorry but why do you care so muchi already explained that i thought of more stuff to say, so added it...
They were less then a minute apart so not sure that makes sense but whatever. More and more keep doing this so just trying to figure it out!
i just typed really fast? o___O
Just keep in mind I personally get a ton of notifications. If everyone did what you did... my notifications would be in the thousands ! So I’m trying to figure out if it’s done on purpose to stand out more or not. Not saying you did that but in general.
no like i've already said two times it's because i wanted to say more
i only get 1 notification every 5 minutes lol
Pardon the ignorance, but what does "pissed up" mean?
@Jamie05rhs getting drunk
Ohhh. ... Well, everything you said up until that point I wasn't sure about. But after reading that, I agree with you one hundred percent. That shows a lack of priorities. Also, alcohol is really expensive, so that's probably why they're broke.
Well you are describing one date... question is date in general? I get we can all come up with cost effective dates but you ain't making sammys for every date are ya?
I'm saying not all people will refuse to date you if you are to broke to take them on dates. Some people are fine with just hanging out together. In the beginning of my relationship we went out on 1 date. After that we were both broke and just hung out and fell in love. And that one date didn't cost to much. Tbh I would have been just as happy with him taking the time to make us a picnic. Now if you're so broke that you're homeless. Maybe you should wait till you get back on your feet some. I think dating would be the last thing on your mind.
True fair enough!
Clever way of looking at it.
What does that have to do with dating, though?
@Jamie05rhs Because if people don't date then they don't procreate. Love/relationships are not begun with a dollar/pound sign! If Charles Dickens, Malcolm X, John Lennon, Bob Marley, Muhammed Ali etc parents had been told not to date because they were broke, then we would not of had the product of their offsprings. There is literally no connection between wealth/class and ability to love. If history has taught us anything it's that the upper classes have been more corrupt/more incestuous and the bigger detriment to the welfare of the world. And I talk as someone who has worked his whole life and has money he's earnt, but I'm team Underdog every day of the week.
Ahhh. I get it now. Babies.
does this apply only to men?
It is easier for women to date while broke as many men prefer to pay, but the part about getting your life together first really should apply to women as well.
half of men prefer to pay the other half would have played half
That is already about a half more than women willing to pay.
But do you go on dates now? At least sometimes?
Yeah when we have the extra money we go and see a movie or have dinner somewhere.
Well you got to have something in the wallet otherwise you are in a bad situation.
For the guys downvoting, I doubt you would date a girl with no money either? It would mean you paying for every gift, every date, every trip.
Gifts? What gifts? Gifts are for kids. Grown adults buy their own stuff.
@Jamie05rhs birthdays, Christmas?
LOL I can take them there? Me?
Cheese is expensive, though. Lol
That can be fun. I really don’t understand all the hatred that parks and picnics are getting. Those are my favorite dates.
@Lilypad1223 Parks are great but you going to go to a park on every date?
That’s fine with me.
I'm always horny. That's not the point, though. I'm dating for the purpose of finding my wife.
@Jamie05rhs well i am not talkong about you.
I am sure that is true for many!
I think if you are broke but have your bills paid then YES. You can always find creative ways to have fun without it costing a bunch of money. Just be up front and honest about your financial situation. This will weed out people who just care about money and not you. It's a fun little exercise to see what people think on the subject.
Their own class? OUCH!
In other words, not at all
Okay, but if I'm being honest, she's right. And I'm okay with dating a girl who is poor like me.
@Jamie05rhs I'm glad u understand what I mean..
@Peachbae Of course! :)
@Jamie05rhs You won't be poor forever will you? Your class will rise as hers stays the same. Then what you find someone else in another class? Classes are not what we should base dating and love on.
@coachTanthony I'm not following you. If we're together,... and my status improves... then hers will as well -- because she's with me.
@Jamie05rhs I agree. If you weren't poor and you were doing good in life would you date someone that was poor? The poster is saying..."stay in your lane, date who you are" Understand?
Of course I would. If she was hot.
@Jamie05rhs LOL ok!
Well yeah if you both are broke then it's a match made in heaven.
@purplepoppySame for women as men. If she is living on the breadline, she needs to sort out that before looking for a boyfriend.Say it both ways, sexist woman.
Dirt_PILLS you didn't need to attack her.
So hope so because I'm broke man broken in body too
Thanks, brother. Good to know.
@Jamie05rhs - you are most welcome
But if this person is someone you really, really like, I wouldn't let money be a hindrance. She may actually be able to help you plan your way out of your jam.
You're a nice person. I like how you are practical and solutions-oriented instead of being judgmental.
@Jamie05rhs thanks, I know what it's like to be in a tight place financially. It can happen to anyone.
I'm pretty good with money, but sometimes I think I'd like to marry a nurse because she could help with healthcare issues. I hope I'm not out of line by assuming that.
@Jamie05rhs Not out of line at all, it's smart
I'm gonna ask my state rep. to pursue this law
Plus my parents and I were homeless for 3 years so growing up I learned a lot when it comes to having fun without having money.
Well, yeah, if you have no job at all... But then again, some people can still form a relationship before going into their careers. But that mostly applies to college kids and rich young people who still live with their parents.
@Jamie05rhs Something most people aren't while you could in high school we all know how high school romantics end up. He goes across the world so does she it becomes long distance etc etc they try to make it work it doesn't work because of life and on and on we all know this it's why I avoided a relationship in high school college and university because they're pointless.
Some people go on to the same college, though.
@Jamie05rhs Yes very true lol you remind me of me. I had these thoughts in my life I had a girl I asked out she said no but ironically we ended up in the same college yet lovers don't.
I would have gone to the same college with a very famous person, and I may have even ended up having a chance to be with her. We would have been in the same class in the same program of study. But I never showed up on the first day of school. Because I never applied. So I never met her.
@Jamie05rhs Did you ever tell her that? And you liked her may actually change her mind.
Oh, no; I could never tell her that. She's married already. Some things will just remain a secret forever, and that's just the way it is.
@Jamie05rhs Well the problem is if you two are meant to be then even marriage won't stop that. You get married couples and the girl and guy miraculously meet after years of not seeing each other no matter what you do you two will always meet "coincidentally" you two will always see each other and will always think about each other for days. But that's if it's the case. It's the red thread of fate and unfortunately I can't stop it or stop her from magically appearing out of nowhere.
Nah, dude. I disagree 100%. Marriage is final and permanent. You don't fuck with somebody's marriage.
@Jamie05rhs Fate does trust me i've seen from afar you know who's really meant to be together. Love is unavoidable she will show up even if you don't want them too.
That's a really dangerous worldview you have there.
@Jamie05rhs It is but love is a dangerous thing it's killed people before.
Exactly my point.
@Jamie05rhs But at the same time what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Yes, and criminal drug dealers also become stronger when they don't get arrested.
@Jamie05rhs They do that's how drug lords are born.
the ones that make it work have their daddies pay for them