Should people even try to date if they are broke?

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guy222 · Accepted Answer

I would say yes! I'm a broke college student and so is my boyfriend, but there are plenty of things to do for little to no cost for dates. It is actually kind of fun sometimes the things we come up with. Some of the easier things though:

- go to a local park and walk around or swim in the river
- get free samples at Costco (I'm not broke enough that I can't have a Costco membership, just the basic $55 one)
- hit up the discounted or free summer movies at a movie theater
- use coupons (for example, at my local Fred Meyer, I can buy a 20 oz. bottle of soda for $1.79, and on the back of the receipt they always have Dairy Queen BOGO blizzard coupon and a coupon for a $4.99 chicken strip basket; depending on what you get at Fred Meyer too, the receipt is usually long enough for at least two each of those coupons)

The possibilities are endless. It's just a matter of getting the imagination juices flowing!

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Yes, you can still have fun on cheap dates. Every city has free stuff going on every weekend or you can throw a frisbee around in the park and have a picnic.

Leimarie · Accepted Answer

Yes, because it is a great way to tell who actually wants to be with you for you, and not for what you can offer them! Plus, even dates that are on a budget can be so much fun if they are with the right person! I’ve been on coffee dates, walks in the park or mall, local festivals, movie nights in, ice cream or boba dates... you name it. If the company is good, it doesn’t matter what we end up doing.

StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

That depends on the type of connection there is. When I was really worried about finances and getting myself through college, I wasn't dating. That wasn't the whole reason but that was a part of it.
If the man that was interested in dating me was ok with that, it may not have been a problem. I can't see having brought that up though.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

In all my relationships - we spent money on each other - but I would have been content even if no money was exchanged. I had a best friend in grade school that I had known for 16 years and in 16 years of being best friends we only spent a total of $50 on each other. We did free activities like playing monopoly over the phone, biking to our favourite park, swimming in the local pool, reading books at the library, talking on the phone, playing computer games at each others houses, playing Nintendo at each other's houses. If your creative - there are very cheap or free ways to entertain yourself without spending cash. I had another friend and we didn't spend money on each other either - we played pool which was free for those who lived in the apartment complex, we went swimming which was also free for those who lived in the apartment, we listened to music and talked about the guys we liked and we played cards with each other and talked about our lives.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I've thought about that a lot, and I've come to the conclusion that you should still search for your spouse even if you're not ready to get married right now. But that's probably because I believe in the concept of the soulmate. Others may disagree with me if they ascribe to the philosophy of perfect timing in that you could be right for someone but you're not ready to get married at the same time and therefore you never unite. And I wouldn't say they're completely wrong; I just think that maybe somebody could meet someone who isn't actually ready yet, or maybe they both aren't ready yet, but they see the potential in each other and they believe in the magic of love enough to give it a chance and see where things go, even if that means waiting for a period of time before their paths in life fully align. In other words, you could meet the person before the perfect time when everything fits together perfectly, and you just wait and prepare for the time that it does, all the while getting to know that person and building a relationship.

AynonOMouse · Answer

They need to be able to support themselves and have a little spending money left each month in order to date otherwise a relationship (not a hook up) isn't realistic.
And the woman needs the same. She needs to pay his way sometimes too. Her paying her half isn't good enough. The ones that think them paying for themselves sometimes and the guy pays for both sometimes, but she never pays for both, those ones are just sexist and deserve nobody. Be fair to each other and realize that both people need to bring something to the relationship.

5yrup · Answer

um yeah? plenty of ways to have fun without spending a penny... parks. museums, window shopping, exploring, free gigs? i feel sorry for anyone who isn't equipped to live life on the cheap side because it's always more fun than standard dinner and a movie.

Alice2398 · Answer

Depends I've been on way to many dates with guys who were broke and it was always really bad and they acted really shifty and as if they didn't know how to take good care or responsibility for themselves. When you're on the first couple dates I see it as basically selling yourself to someone and trying to impress them so they invest there time in you and guys who full out just say "i'm broke" on a date aren't really selling themselves, no ones going to invest in a failings business so logically why would you invest on a failing person maybe if they had a backup plan and the debt would soon be paid off but It just always baffles me how people can get themselves in that bad of a state but they can't even afford basic things yet he can pay to go out and get pissed up with his friends.

I want a man who's got his shit together or it just causes toxic problems in a relationship, if you can even handle your money how can you handle your own life.

PinkMichae · Answer

No. Dates don't always have to cost a lot of money. You can make sandwiches and go to the beach, park, have a dinner date at either ones house, go for a cup of coffee. Just because some women or maybe even men are high maintenance doesn't mean everyone is.

iiyookii · Answer

Yeah, there's plenty of places you can go without spending a single penny, and if your girl is understanding enough, she might actually pay the bill, dating someone doesn't really mean fully commiting, right? But if it's something like marriage, you have to make sure that you're both financially stable.

AndrewMG · Answer

If poor people were encouraged not to date we'd have no boxers, we'd lose most of our sporting stars, pretty much every influential musical artist, we'd have no Charles Dickens, lose thousands of influential writers/poets etc and so on and so on. Because as a rule these people have come from working class families. The working classes have had a far more positive influence on creative/influential culture than people with money. On the other hand rich people have created greed, poverty, the fact 1% of the wealthiest people have more than 50 % of wealth of the population, so I'd suggest before we stop broke people dating we should stop greedy f*cks dating.

morimeme1 · Answer

Well, you can sure try but the success rate will be small, sure I love cheap dates with my boyfriend but when you are just getting to know someone it is a bit different. But honestly, if you can't figure out how to pay your bills, then you should sort your life out before trying to bring someone else into it.

MrConceptkitten · Answer

I think the more people worry about that the more you have to spend.
In my 20s girls would obsess over me and buy me drinks, dinner, give me sex and blow jobs.
Then I started to worry. I thought, “Oh no. I’m older now. I have to be a gentleman.” Now where are all the women? They left because I decided to worry too much. I mean, we should have consciences as human beings but we can’t worry too much or we don’t get the ladies.
We have to earn each other. Women shouldn’t be the only ones raised on the pedestal.
If she goes up there then you climb up there too and make sure that there is enough room. If there is no room then don’t put her up there to begin with.

Lilypad1223 · Answer

I never went on dates with my husband. Things don’t need to be a big show, I wanted to spend time with him and get to know him better. Most the time that just meant hanging out at his house. It isn’t about the amount of money spent on the date it’s about the time you spend together.

Birdy5 · Answer

Go for it. Girls date when they're broke lol. Its not what's in your wallet, but whats in your heart.

Nik1hil · Answer

Honestly logically for a men..
If a Girl dates him.. Even when he is broke!..
Is the girl who he should marry..
Because she true is not after his money!..

And for a women..
If a guy can enjoy a date with her.. With no make up or beauty modification done to her..
And she is not wearing designer clothes and is in her casuals.
Then she should marry that guy..
Because that will truly make her happy

lumos · Answer

If anything, dating while you're broke gives you a massive advantage because then you'd be able to tell who's in it for the money and who isn't.
Also, there are plenty of things you can do on dates that don't involve spending money, or only involve spending very little money. As long as you make enough to get by, I don't see how your financial status would affect your ability to date.

VaIiant · Answer

Hmm. I would say possibly. A large part of romance is in special dates that typically include a nice dinner, going somewhere (gas), etc. I'm also someone who likes to give very nice presents that I know the person will love. I wouldn't be upset if I didn't get an expensive present, but I personally don't think I would date someone who couldn't spend any money.

Megatrizzle · Answer

It depends in my opinion. If you're like me, still in school, most people you find aren't gonna have a lot of money. I don't go on "dates." I find ways to spend time with someone I like. But if you're older and looking for something serious and long term, you might want financial stability first.

Kitty46 · Answer

Yes they can date, you can go to their house to watch a movie on Netflix, you can cook them dinner, make a picnic basket (maybe put wine & cheese in it with crackers) You can have a picnic in the park or the beach or in your house. If you have a family member or a friend that owns a restaurant, you can take them there.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

not realky a good idea cuz what are you going to do say bring your own foid to the park an I will cook it

Noodle_fan · Answer

it is possible for some people , i never do that though , my confidence with women almost fully depend on my wallet tbh , lol

apple24 · Answer

If if you were just horny. But then again you should make that clear. Personally, I don’t know how I feel about that. I mean I am kinda of aging so I kinda wish I had a bad. Just someone so I can raise a family with but then the other side of me wants to be a bird lady. Lol 😂 ying-yang. Hypergamy and stuff. I mean if I was super hot I would have been married by now having my fourth child n living in a mansion raising my babies

Peachbae · Answer

They can date, their people too. Dating someone their own class🤭

WhereAmI · Answer

Sure. You can both relate, eating ramen noodles and going thrift shopping 😂

MarketData · Answer

I'm going to say yes. I mean what else is there to do if you don't have money? What do you think, coach?

BCRanger10 · Answer

It would be difficult, but not impossible. Home cooking, home workouts, movie nights, and other such things are always viable options.

FatherJack · Answer

Broke men will struggle , unless he truly has a plan of action to increase wealth and is taking action , broke women will still have a large number of options , as men do not care about financial staus in a woman , unless she intends to leech of him , then she should be binned !!

BirdFan360 · Answer

I am wired to be a provider. If I can't provide, I need to be denied. It's both for my own good, and her own good.

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

You can have a nice evening with someone without necessarily spending money.

1828avaava1828 · Answer

depends. if the person you're hot for is broke too then sure

LuWe22 · Answer

No. Both need money for activities, food and vacations. Sure you can have fun without money but I would not want to be with someone that is bad with money. Sort yourself out, be frugal and smart with money and then you can date

Anonymous · Answer

I don't date because I'm saving money. I see no point in spending money on drinks or food with someone I don't really know.
I can make myself good coffee at home and cook a nice dinner.
I don't see why I should spend money to talk to a guy.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I feel like you can become broke in a relationship at anytime if something happens. I wouldn’t judge but you need to be trying to fix your situation

Jaffacakemucher · Answer

It completely depends on the other person. The problem is when is are broke you only know whether you should go on a date with them if you get to know them face to face. And you'd only do that by going on a date.
I wouldn't go on a date with someone if you are broke.
Wait till you have more money.
If will become incredibly awkward if you go to try to pay for something for you both but you can't afford it.

Don't do it. Save the humiliation!

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Sure broke is temporary unless you've got money control problems.

purplepoppy · Answer

If I was dating a guy and one week money was tight then it wouldn't be a problem. But if he's living on the breadline then it's best he sorts that out before he looks for a girlfriend

Anonymous · Answer

my mom's first boyfriend was a complete gold digger so I'd rather not date a broke person.

I think its kinda weird that somebody else has to pay for your dinners and shopping (I mean if you're date is in good finances, he'll probably insist on taking care of your bills if he's not a dickhead like my mom's boyfriend xd) and you become...

Dependent.

AkshiJanjua · Answer

i mean if dates only mean going to an expensive restaurants for overpriced shit then i dont see the point of dating anyone.

i dont see how money matters when you are trying to know the person and liking them for their personality and not for the gifts they can buy you

Exterminatore · Answer

No. Get your life together first. Then look for love.

markscott · Answer

When I was younger, I often didn't have any money. We could still do something that didn't cost money. Being together and having fun was what mattered.

goodlongman · Answer

Yes - When I was young I never though I had enough money, was not attractive enough, not smart enough and a multitude of other false self-perceptions…. never let these be reasons for not pursuing love and marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

Try to let her know beforehand that you're in a bit of a situation financially so it doesn't just seem like you're super cheap. Or you can just come up with creative and free/cheap dates.

devilman666 · Answer

In my opinion this applies mostly to females since they tend to feel like they can get away with having a man who makes more money than the woman does.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, I’m very nice and don’t care as long as I’m able to spend time with you.
I actually hate dating and dates and blah blah blah.

It’s nice when you’re a teenager but we’re adults and this isn’t a fairytale.

Horror_lover · Answer

I voted for Yes. When I met my ex boyfriend he didn't have a job or money, and we still had fun hanging out with each other.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Yes and no but mainly no because well if your not in a job yet then it's too risky.

SongBird3 · Answer

You can try. College kids are broke af and they can make it work.

Tylord92 · Answer

If they are legitimately broke, they’ve got more problems to worry about than dating. That’s the kind of problem that needs to take priority.

htownmama · Answer

It's a set up for a negative relationship that doesn't bring much to the table gor you or your partner.

Sholmes80 · Answer

You dont need money to love someone; however, you should try to get yourself together during the relationship or even before

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on your age. Men especially have this headwind against them more so the older they are the more they’re expected to earn and spend.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

No, if you don't have enough to fund yourself, how will you fund your relationship? Relationships are pretty expensive, if you're actually serious about one, you shouldn't try to date if you're broke.
Otherwise you'd be looking for a fling

MisterAnon69 · Answer

Why the fuck not. I wasn't forced to treat my girlfriend. She even gets kinda mad at me when I do. I just love to give her things she wants. And you don't need a fat wallet to do that if you both love eachother.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Well, I can't answer for the girls, but my ideal kind of date would be a secluded walk in nature, or some physical activity to break the tension. That need not cost much at all, if anything. And make it into a picnic.

AuroraRoseat · Answer

You don't have to spend money to enjoy someone's time and company.

andres2m · Answer

I think, money shouldn't stop us for dating. I think someone Could do cool and or romantic plans without waisting to much or even not spending at all.

DDpsy · Answer

I wouldn't. Being broke is conducive to no confidence and terrible results with most quality women. Plenty of broke deadbeats that don't give a shit can do just fine though.

Jersey2 · Answer

Yes, go to a park and enjoy the sunshine. If you have a little money, bring some burgers or hot dogs and have a cookout. Bring something for the ducks and you will be a big hit.

emmily2396 · Answer

I am a student so witbout my parents i am broke. Should I expect anything else from a guy my age?

SlimeC0RE · Answer

Yes, but they must get creative with how they entertain their date.

Lance1965 · Answer

If you are really young and don't have much money anyway then it is fine. For older people they should get their life in order before ever thinking about dating.

TripleAce · Answer

women can but men can’t... that goes strictly for dates where you don’t know the person...

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