@Jamie05rhs You won't be poor forever will you? Your class will rise as hers stays the same. Then what you find someone else in another class? Classes are not what we should base dating and love on.
@Jamie05rhs I agree. If you weren't poor and you were doing good in life would you date someone that was poor? The poster is saying..."stay in your lane, date who you are" Understand?
I think if you are broke but have your bills paid then YES. You can always find creative ways to have fun without it costing a bunch of money. Just be up front and honest about your financial situation. This will weed out people who just care about money and not you.
It's a fun little exercise to see what people think on the subject.
Broke men will struggle , unless he truly has a plan of action to increase wealth and is taking action , broke women will still have a large number of options , as men do not care about financial staus in a woman , unless she intends to leech of him , then she should be binned !!
No. Both need money for activities, food and vacations. Sure you can have fun without money but I would not want to be with someone that is bad with money. Sort yourself out, be frugal and smart with money and then you can date
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I don't date because I'm saving money. I see no point in spending money on drinks or food with someone I don't really know. I can make myself good coffee at home and cook a nice dinner. I don't see why I should spend money to talk to a guy.
It completely depends on the other person. The problem is when is are broke you only know whether you should go on a date with them if you get to know them face to face. And you'd only do that by going on a date. I wouldn't go on a date with someone if you are broke. Wait till you have more money. If will become incredibly awkward if you go to try to pay for something for you both but you can't afford it.
If I was dating a guy and one week money was tight then it wouldn't be a problem. But if he's living on the breadline then it's best he sorts that out before he looks for a girlfriend
my mom's first boyfriend was a complete gold digger so I'd rather not date a broke person.
I think its kinda weird that somebody else has to pay for your dinners and shopping (I mean if you're date is in good finances, he'll probably insist on taking care of your bills if he's not a dickhead like my mom's boyfriend xd) and you become...
When I was younger, I often didn't have any money. We could still do something that didn't cost money. Being together and having fun was what mattered.
Yes - When I was young I never though I had enough money, was not attractive enough, not smart enough and a multitude of other false self-perceptions…. never let these be reasons for not pursuing love and marriage.
Try to let her know beforehand that you're in a bit of a situation financially so it doesn't just seem like you're super cheap. Or you can just come up with creative and free/cheap dates.
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But if this person is someone you really, really like, I wouldn't let money be a hindrance. She may actually be able to help you plan your way out of your jam.
I'm pretty good with money, but sometimes I think I'd like to marry a nurse because she could help with healthcare issues. I hope I'm not out of line by assuming that.
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They can date, their people too. Dating someone their own class🤭
Their own class? OUCH!
In other words, not at all
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Okay, but if I'm being honest, she's right. And I'm okay with dating a girl who is poor like me.
Hitler!
@Jamie05rhs I'm glad u understand what I mean..
@Peachbae Of course! :)
"Hitler" lol
@Jamie05rhs You won't be poor forever will you? Your class will rise as hers stays the same. Then what you find someone else in another class? Classes are not what we should base dating and love on.
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@coachTanthony I'm not following you. If we're together,... and my status improves... then hers will as well -- because she's with me.
@Jamie05rhs I agree. If you weren't poor and you were doing good in life would you date someone that was poor? The poster is saying..."stay in your lane, date who you are" Understand?
Of course I would. If she was hot.
@Jamie05rhs LOL ok!
I'm going to say yes. I mean what else is there to do if you don't have money? What do you think, coach?
I think if you are broke but have your bills paid then YES. You can always find creative ways to have fun without it costing a bunch of money. Just be up front and honest about your financial situation. This will weed out people who just care about money and not you.
It's a fun little exercise to see what people think on the subject.
It would be difficult, but not impossible. Home cooking, home workouts, movie nights, and other such things are always viable options.
Broke men will struggle , unless he truly has a plan of action to increase wealth and is taking action , broke women will still have a large number of options , as men do not care about financial staus in a woman , unless she intends to leech of him , then she should be binned !!
Sure. You can both relate, eating ramen noodles and going thrift shopping 😂
Well yeah if you both are broke then it's a match made in heaven.
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I am wired to be a provider. If I can't provide, I need to be denied. It's both for my own good, and her own good.
You can have a nice evening with someone without necessarily spending money.
depends. if the person you're hot for is broke too then sure
No. Both need money for activities, food and vacations. Sure you can have fun without money but I would not want to be with someone that is bad with money. Sort yourself out, be frugal and smart with money and then you can date
I don't date because I'm saving money. I see no point in spending money on drinks or food with someone I don't really know.
I can make myself good coffee at home and cook a nice dinner.
I don't see why I should spend money to talk to a guy.
I feel like you can become broke in a relationship at anytime if something happens. I wouldn’t judge but you need to be trying to fix your situation
It completely depends on the other person. The problem is when is are broke you only know whether you should go on a date with them if you get to know them face to face. And you'd only do that by going on a date.
I wouldn't go on a date with someone if you are broke.
Wait till you have more money.
If will become incredibly awkward if you go to try to pay for something for you both but you can't afford it.
Don't do it. Save the humiliation!
Sure broke is temporary unless you've got money control problems.
If I was dating a guy and one week money was tight then it wouldn't be a problem. But if he's living on the breadline then it's best he sorts that out before he looks for a girlfriend
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Same for women as men. If she is living on the breadline, she needs to sort out that before looking for a boyfriend.
Say it both ways, sexist woman.
Dirt_PILLS you didn't need to attack her.
my mom's first boyfriend was a complete gold digger so I'd rather not date a broke person.
I think its kinda weird that somebody else has to pay for your dinners and shopping (I mean if you're date is in good finances, he'll probably insist on taking care of your bills if he's not a dickhead like my mom's boyfriend xd) and you become...
Dependent.
i mean if dates only mean going to an expensive restaurants for overpriced shit then i dont see the point of dating anyone.
i dont see how money matters when you are trying to know the person and liking them for their personality and not for the gifts they can buy you
No. Get your life together first. Then look for love.
When I was younger, I often didn't have any money. We could still do something that didn't cost money. Being together and having fun was what mattered.
Yes - When I was young I never though I had enough money, was not attractive enough, not smart enough and a multitude of other false self-perceptions…. never let these be reasons for not pursuing love and marriage.
Thanks, brother. Good to know.
@Jamie05rhs - you are most welcome
Try to let her know beforehand that you're in a bit of a situation financially so it doesn't just seem like you're super cheap. Or you can just come up with creative and free/cheap dates.
But if this person is someone you really, really like, I wouldn't let money be a hindrance. She may actually be able to help you plan your way out of your jam.
You're a nice person. I like how you are practical and solutions-oriented instead of being judgmental.
@Jamie05rhs thanks, I know what it's like to be in a tight place financially. It can happen to anyone.
I'm pretty good with money, but sometimes I think I'd like to marry a nurse because she could help with healthcare issues. I hope I'm not out of line by assuming that.
@Jamie05rhs Not out of line at all, it's smart
Okay; thanks!