Would you date a girl who is a broke college student?

Question

I got ditched by this guy I liked. We were supposed to chill yesterday but he wrote me and told me “ hi sorry I’ve been short with you. I’m getting involved with this girl. She wants the things I want and we are going on strong. She has a great job too. I’m going to invest my time and effort in her. Sorry. Good luck to you “

fashionguy17 · Accepted Answer

WELL... my girlfriend is in your situation. Here is out stats:

ME:
-27
-College graduate
-Great Job
-Good money
-Living Well

HER:
-22
-Still in college
-Making $11/hour
-Has trouble making payments

My girlfriend has asked me for money quite a few times, because she has been short on rent. This does not always happen, but sometimes her job gives her very low hours... and even when she asks for more, they don't give it to her. For that reason, I had to give her some money to pay her rent these last 2 months and a few other times as well.

It's extremely tough to be in a relationship like this, because she is slowing me down, I feel. However, I cannot blame her, and she always pays me back when she gets the money.

Even though she isn't where I am at yet financially or job wise, I know when she finishes college, she will be there and she will more than likely make more than me (she is getting her masters in occupational therapy).

So... with all that being said, I am not going to dump her simply because of money trouble, because I know that in a few years from now we will be laughing about this.

StrangerByTheDay · Accepted Answer

Hello dear,
First of all it is rude to break up with someone by text. At least have the good manners and be a gentleman to say it face to face.
Second, as long as I really love the girl I would be next to her no matter what the situation is.
If we are aiming for a long term relationship than it is my job to help her finish her studies and get a decent job so we could take care of each other and live under the same roof.
The way he left makes me come to a one conclusion which means that guy is a "gold digger".

My answer is Yes I would. If I love her and she really loves me, we will find a way to make it work.

Making it through hard times like these strenghten up a relationship.

Don't worry dear, you will find someone who will make it through difficult situations no matter what 😊

peachpit0801 · Accepted Answer

I don't think it had anything to do with you being unemployed. it sounded more like he was bragging on her and that may have simply been what ultimately made him choose her, especially depending on his age. he may be looking to finally settle down, that factors in greatly as well.

inmensus · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't mind dating a broke college student. Jeez, I'm in med school and I know things can get really hard. But I'd understand why someone wouldn't date one. Maybe they have different plans, different priorities, etc. It's just weird how straightforward he was about it.

lurikatia · Accepted Answer

At least he's being honest and he accept he is the bad person in this situation So u dont end up in a circle of drama, lies, secondguessing, and getting hurt over and over again

truthbeknown · Answer

Casually, yes. Seriously, no. I'll be honest. I am established in life. I have finances and assets that I have worked hard for. I would love to share my life with someone who has similar goals, social standing and financial progress. Dating someone broke and cannot financially contribute to a relationship doesn't sound like a very smart thing for any guy to do. No problem if you are going through a rough patch which is only temporary and you have potential and drive to turn things around. But, I simply will not fund and support someone's life while they freeload. Love doesn't pay the bills.

UnstableCraft · Answer

Personally I don't think that I had anything to do with you being broke or a college student I think that was more of a situation where he was talking to several people at one time and just decided that he liked one of them or their goals matched up and they were just they clicked better and he decided to focus on her more and push their relationship I would say be respectful of that he didn't ghost you didn't just dip out on you he me he respectfully told you hey this is what I'm doing and I feel like that was mature I do think that he could have done it not over texted them in person but some guys are just too awkward and too immature to do that but at least he did tell you and he made a choice on who he was going to be with you saved you a lot of time and I think you should just take it as it is and hang in there

Demised · Answer

Yes. Why not? I mean why the hell will someone break up if he/she is broke? WTF? If u really love someone then money shud never come in between.
Its really strange though, ur situation is kinda opposite. Guys dont do that. Gals do that. Gals r always breakin up if guys r jobless or has a shitty job. Gals always want a prince charming who can buy their effection by buying her exp designer clothes, shoes etc etc.
I think its a good thing he broke up wid u.
Do u really want a guy like him in ur life? No. Right? Keep smiling n have a good day 😊

FakeName123 · Answer

Depends on what she is studying, why she is broke, etc.

Is she a lazy bum, just studying some useless crap such as gender studies while expecting others to pay for her living standard? Hell no. Not gonna deal with that.

Is she just busy with her studies, studying like medicine or something difficult or is jobbing, but just minimum wage - completely fine.

It depends solely on context and attitude.

Zoyan945 · Answer

Sounds like its less about you being a broke college student and more he's into this other girl. Unless you're incredibly lucky everyone in college is broke as shit. So unless you're being a hypocrite and shooting down college guys cause theyre broke it just wasn't meant to be.

External · Answer

It doesn't matter if someone is broke or not. I have a good Job that has a pension and is solid. But it won't stop me from liking the person just because of money. That can always change for the better attitude and attractiveness/ brains different matter all together

liveharddieyoung · Answer

Are you sure it's because you're broke or just cause because I don't think he ditched you just cause of money but just cause ya know he wanted that girl a bit more

Nik1hil · Answer

men are visual as long as you are sexy, and healthy and have decent looks and share same hobbies and perspective..
no men will turn you down..
cannot assure you about paying of your debts..
but yeah.. would definitely pay for things on date with you..

wolecollner · Answer

I don't really see money in this situation. Maybe he just appreciates her for her job more than you. Not a bad thing, some people are attracted to different people with different jobs, I would be much more likely to date a teacher than say a firefighter. Not that they make vastly different salaries, but because I am just more attracted to someone that wants to be a teach rather than a firefighter for whatever reason

BrianMerritt · Answer

First thing I'm going to say is that kudos to him for telling you straight. There are a lot of guys who don't have the dick to be honest with a girl they don't want to pursue, so please try to appreciate him telling you before things went further.
It sounds like he wants to date a girl who has a more certain future in front of her. That sure makes it easier for him to think about his future with her.

kolver · Answer

No thats no and obstacle. buut if she only wana look for a Guy that have $$$ and she only wana sleep eat and stay home? Honestly thats bot good for sure i will broke whit her, because i will be working hard to get what she want and when the time pass and the work got me like all the time what will happen? money is not everything. (I know is not the topic but i like to share)

Matt57 · Answer

I'm a broke college guy. Doesn't mean we can't cuddle and watch a movie before a class starts, or go to a school function and spend hours talking to each other and not get bored. I'd love to have a girlfriend at my college, whether she's broke or not.

newguy26 · Answer

Yes. I have and still would. As long as our dates are reasonable and she's not sponging off me. Not saying you are. But something simple as grabbing some Whataburger or Burger King and staying home watching a movie would be just as perfect as going to a fancy restaurant

JZ909 · Answer

In general, sure, I would date a broke college student. She is broke now, but she clearly has some sort of ambition. I would not date someone who was broke and didn't look like they had any long-term plan to support themselves.

BellePepper · Answer

Dang. Well, that’s just the way things work out sometimes.  You’ll find someone whose goals and priorities match yours so no worries :)

elsid · Answer

I've been rich and had many suitors nut I've also been flat out broke, lost my house, and job and my partner never budged from my side... If someone can do that for me then I could do it for someone else too :)

DesertedFryingPan · Answer

Personally, I would date a broke college student. Being unemployed shouldn't be a reason for someone to not want to be with the other person. Your are a collage student which shows that your trying to better your life and in my opinion thats better than a job. If you look at the bright side, its better that he told you that he was moving on with someone else in stead of leading you on and wasting your time.

Acegoolah · Answer

Hell ya I would. Maybe he genuinely found someone he feels more comparable with, good for him. But it doesn't mean your not a fly ass woman who someone else wouldn't love. Which sounds cliche but I swear it's TRUE.

jaidee · Answer

I would... but 25 years old is kinda too young for me. Kinda.

stifler1979 · Answer

The data tells us that, as a whole (there are exceptions to everything), socioeconomic status makes ZERO difference to men's sexuality attraction to women.

I'd never do that to someone over text by the way.

CountrySoul · Answer

Sounds like he was more concerned with you having a paycheck than any feelings. While having your own source of income is important, you also need to concentrate on your school work.
Basically forgot him and concentrate on your school work and find someone who appreciates you for you

RandomPerson63 · Answer

Well, it depends for me at least, on the personality of the girl, if I like you, I will generally like you and try my best to stay with you, but sadly there are guys out there that only want a girl for her looks and if she has money, for me that's no issue, it's only the personality and the looks. The ratios like personality 85% and looks 15%

Anonymous · Answer

If you had ambition, and the willingness to work hard, and were smart with your decisions. Yes I would invest in a broke girl. if not, then probably have you as a play thing, do fun stuff with see how good you are, then if your ambition got better then we could think about relationship goals. if not, then I’d move on too the next one.

slatyb · Answer

His parting remarks show that he is an insensitive ass. You are better off without him. Of course I would date a broke college student. Broke college students like you graduate pretty quickly.

cutebutevil91 · Answer

That sucks, I wouldn't take it personal tho if I were you.
A broke college student says that you have a future ahead of you, that's really cool in my opinion. And any guy would be lucky to have you.
Don't let that get you down girl

ammar114 · Answer

I know it feels bad.. But you really should be happy about it. He is not willing to be with in your hard time. He doesn't really love you.
Out there is some one who will be with you no matter what.. So go out and try to find him.. God bless you..

Anonymous · Answer

hell yeah course i would don't worry bout the corporate tree carcass just be yourself aslong as your real like the real you and you don't put up some walls or be someone fake then their will be somone who digs you for the broke college student that you are

Best of luck

Duntonnag · Answer

Well yeah, just because they're broke now doesn't mean they'd always be broke

HikerDude · Answer

None of that matters for girls. Only guys get judged on things like financial status and living arrangements. Girls can get away with anything as long as they're hot.

Alibaster · Answer

Who do you think all the broke college guys are going to date? Of course people date broke college students

kashmenon · Answer

I don't think you being broke is a problem if it's love. Maybe he already made up his mind and he's just blaming you for it.

bigkevin06 · Answer

Damn I'm sorry. I am sure you are an amazing and beautiful woman. Don't let it get you down. You deserve someone that will love you and treat you like the princess that you are. You will find a good man I'm sure of it. When you do don't let him go.

Zenron · Answer

weird... If I love someone, it's the reason I want to be with her for who she is, not with what she got attached among. Some people are just not nice. There's more fish in the sea ;)

MrCube · Answer

To be honest, if you are working towards being a successful college student, he's a shallow ass. But if you are broke and not doing anything then it's your fault he left.

Myrdices · Answer

It'd be kinda hypocritical if I didn't I'm broke as hell too

sexystephen77 · Answer

Heck yes I would it wouldn't bother me today too college girl that spoke it wouldn't bother me a bit she's still a person

sam3324 · Answer

I'm sorry that happened to you, I for one would date a college girl despite her lack of money. You don't need money to have fun, in fact you don't even need much money to go on a nice date. The only thing that matters is what you make of it

WalterRadio · Answer

Are there any college students who aren't broke, or close to it?

Nuespeed · Answer

Hell no, that is beyond messed up. If you actually love someone it wouldn't matter.

JonnyTrauma · Answer

You deserve better and I'm old school in that way. Your man should treat and care for you and that doesn't mean he need to spend a lot of money

Anonymous · Answer

I would date a poor college student, because at least I know she is broke from school. As long as I knew she was a good person and was not using me for just money I would be with her.

rahul_24 · Answer

Just shows he want the right guy for you so don't worry. You will find the right one

Andre__ · Answer

Lack of money should never be a reason not to persue someone you like.

DaBush · Answer

Sounds like a total cheat to be honest and I also think people that care more about money than a person will never find true happiness. There is lots of good guys out there not all of us care more about the money

raton21 · Answer

I don't know why shouldn't somebody date you just because of that

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, it wouldn't make a lot of difference to me. Other characteristics like, is she hot, is she fun, is she nice would, how's the sex, would matter more.

genericname85 · Answer

depends on the guy honestly. and on the goals and ambitions for a relationshipt that this guy has.

Juxtapose · Answer

.. wow.. a male gold digger? What a fuckin' prick. But yeah, as long as I'm not paying a woman's bills, what do I care?

Varaksa · Answer

To be honest I value honesty so much, what a dick but also respect

Lostblyde · Answer

Listen its not about being rich or broke its how you feel about that person

Adam_INTJ · Answer

Not one who is broke out of neglectfulness. If she has ambition and good grades, that's fine.

Randomlips · Answer

Oooh I’m so sorry, im sure people would date you.. why not?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 22 and broke. I don't have a job, I'm a full time college student and my family supports me until I'm out of college.

Nezgaar · Answer

Yes I would, in fact my girlfriend is college student and I'm the owner of the shop in our Town so you can see... But you must find a right person girl/boy

kaylamacias · Answer

wtf. he's a total ass

jazzinvader · Answer

Would I take a girl who is going to school and better herself in life.. yes! Now if you weren't going to school and just was broke..✌️! Don't pay homeboy now mind.

thebugler · Answer

It doesn't bother me. I look more that your moving forward not staying still in your life. So yes sence your in college working towards the life you want i would date you in a heart beat if we clicked

WildNekoWolf · Answer

I would. Their wealth or lack of wealth doesn't affect my opinion on them.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

I would if you were hot and I liked you. Same as anyone.

Milli95 · Answer

I would date, if I were a boy or a lesbo, it depends on the girl and not the kind of money she has

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