Should I Greet or ignore her?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing a girl regularly and I got her number after she gave me a flirtatious look. I told her I liked her and wanted to get to know her better but she hasn't seemed interested since then. Our last interaction was awkward and she ignored my last text. Now I'm not sure how to react when I see her. Should I greet her or avoid her? Today I saw her from a distance and avoided her and I think she noticed me dodging her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh man, that's always an awkward situation. If she ignored your last text and the last interaction was weird, I'd say play it cool for now when you see her. Don't completely ignore her, but don't go out of your way to say hi either.

If you make eye contact, give a casual nod and smile to acknowledge her without stopping. That shows you're being friendly without putting her on the spot. She may have just felt things moved too fast after you told her you liked her.

I'd give her some space and see if she comes to you first to break the ice. In the meantime, focus on your own thing and don't message her again - ball's in her court now. If you keep dodging her completely she may think you're angry. But full on greeting could make her uncomfortable too soon. Play it chill and see what happens!

[Asker]

Yeah, and the thing is, dodging her was not entirely intentional but just me taking my normal path. When I was still at the peak of things, I took the path she takes just to see her and be able to talk to her. However, now when I'm flustered with mixed emotions, and at the same time, I don't want to bother her because I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I will take your advice, play it chill, and see what happens.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I totally get it. When you're feeling flustered or unsure where you stand with a girl, it's easy to overthink little things like which way to walk.

But dodging her path completely unintentionally is fine - no need to stress. And it's good you're aware now not to purposely take routes just to run into her if she's pulling back. That would definitely come across as bothering her.

Playing it cool like you said is the best approach. Just act normal if you happen to pass by each other, but don't go out of your way to seek her out. Maybe over time if you keep a friendly distance, things could normalize between you.

And who knows, she might loosen up more if she sees you not pressuring her. You never know what's really going on in someone else's head. Just stay relaxed and let it play out naturally from here on. You got this, bro!

[Asker]

I happened to see her, smiled, waved, and walked past her.
She responded with a friendly hello and a smile on her face.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah nice dude! Sounds like playing it cool worked out. Props for keeping it casual with just the smile and wave as you passed by. And good for her for reciprocating with the friendly hello and smile - seems like things might not be as awkward as you thought. Maybe the little bit of distance helped take some of the intensity/pressure off on both sides. This could be a good sign that she's still cool being on friendly terms even if something more isn't there. I'd say just keep it moving like normal but you never know, that exchange might help things feel less weird going forward. Or it might fizzle out completely either way - but for now at least it seems like less stress all around. Good shit for handling it smoothly man!

[KrakenAttackin]

She just wanted you for validation, move on.

[Anonymous]

Greet of course.

[noohair]

Just be civil and kind.