Is it a good idea to say "hi" to a woman who always ignores you ?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl in the neighboring department that I like. We have never talked to each other. I used to stare at her because she is beautiful. Couple of times, there was an eye contact during our stare.

She ignores me when she walks past me. Does this mean that she does not like me ? Should I start ignoring her too ?

Girls, please advice me what kind of girls should I befriend ? What body language should I look out for in a girl with which I can safely assume that she is into me.

Yes. There is no harm in being friendly with her. :-)

No. She does not like you. :-(

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+1 y

But when I try to make eye contact, she looks away

:-/


Is this a good sign or a bad sign ?

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+1 y

Every time when I look at her, she always looks away and avoids eye contact. She does not maintain eye contact even for a fraction of a second.


As far as I think, a woman will at least maintain an eye contact for 1 second if she likes the guy.


Is it still okay to say "hi" if she looks away or avoids eye contact ? :-/

[Konnour]

F***, sometimes I'm surprised how people at such age can be so bad at picking the vibes and reading the body-language and.. lacking assertiveness.

Man - the only way how can you be completely certain what that chick is thinking about you is to ask her! Yes - say "hi" to her, tell her your name, ask what's her name, and set a date!

But for god's sake - don't just say "hi" and that's it - keep talking, arrange a meeting!

Girls f***in' hate if you just stare at them and do nothing.

We cannot know any better what's on her head than she herself.

And regardless of what she's thinking, it's always better when you make a move because it tells good about your courage.

There's a chance she doesn't like you that way. But even then at least you'll know it if you'll make a move and stop wasting your time on her any longer.

There's a chance she likes you but she's just shy. Many girls are like that, afraid to make an eye-contact, especially with a complete stranger. Such kind won't make the first move, regardless whether she likes you or not.

But right now you don't know it, and we neither.

[TheEmperorofMankind]

My friend had a beautiful woman who he would always make eye contact and say hi to and be friendly. She would ignore him. Then she told me she liked him. He was like "What? I always say hi to her!" Since he is one of the top 5 most handsome men I have ever seen (no homo) I told him maybe she was intimidated by him.

The other month I saw a woman who I found attractive and said hi to and she ignored me. Then the next time I saw her I turned around and she was following me and stalking me which caught me off guard. For like a solid 5 minutes. So then I started talking to her and she likes me.

Some girls get very nervous around very handsome men. Yes can mean no and no can mean yes. Most women are never straightforward. They are far more afraid of rejection then men since they have less pain tolerance.

[JustChris]

Thanks man.

[simplythebest]

lol I loved your answer iam a girl and I agree a 100%. I am one of those girls who can easily be intimidated by a really attractive gy showing me interest. idid exactly what this girl did which is ignore him even when he would blatantly stare at me and make it obvious he was interested.

[DebiPie]

She doesn't know if she likes you or not, she doesn't know you...YET! Get in there man and talk to her. She isn't ignoring you, she just hasn't met you...YET! Introduce yourself, or if you have a problem doing that yourself, get someone at work to do it for you. Say "hello, how are you, I guess you may have noticed I've been noticing you." Tell her you have been wanting to talk to her and you would like to take her to lunch this week, "what day would be good for you? Tuesday or Wed.?" You have to pin her down to a day, got it? Offer her the choice of days, if she says no, can't do it, busy. Tell her you understand, your schedule gets busy too. But you will definitely make time for her next week if she can. Then ask again, how's Mon. for you? Or maybe we could just grab a coffee together?

Try it out for size. Life is too short to mess around & lose the opportunity to meet someone you like. Ask her, see if she'll say yes. Just be you, joke alittle, be light & smile. She'll say yes.

Good luck.

[ladyofshalott]

I wouldn't really count it as ignoring you if you've never talked to her. I mean if you try to talk to her and she still acts like that, then I'd say that was ignoring her. I personally think you're reading into it way too much and she just say hi. Saying hi is completely harmless, and you're never really going to be able to pick up on signs on whether or not she likes you unless you talk to her. A lot of times, a girl might not take notice until they talk to a guy and get a glimpse of their personality. That's how it was with my last boyfriend, I'd always seen him around and such but never gave a lot of thought to him until he started talking to me and it did not take long after that for me to be very interested.

So just say hi, give her a chance to really notice you. You really have nothing to lose by it.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

if you wanna say hi to her just say hi. her not saying hi doesn't really mean anything, I don't think most people say hi to strangers unless your in the south or something. she doesn't know you so how can she like or dislike u? I'm sure she noticed that you stare at her so you might as well speak. right now your getting ahead of yourself, you should say hello first before you start thinking of "does she like me?" and becoming her friend

[Skyler123]

OMG! Just say hi to her! SHIT! What's the worse that could happen? If she's any decent kind of person she'll say hi back. If not she's clearly a bitch if some one said hi to me (even if I don't like them) I will say it back. There was a guy that I liked at my current job I got nervous every time I saw him. So one day I finally got up enough nerve to say hi. He replied and said "sup".

After that I never said hey to him again...not because I didn't think he liked me but because how he replied. He just seemed too full of him self and I don't like that in a guy. So I'm sure based off of her response you can gauge whether you think she's still (which will still most likely be the case) girlfriend material or if she has an interest in you. :) Hope this helps!

[mmike0]

it can be intimidating because men are expected to have a plan... what if she think he is a creep.

[Skyler123]

...HOW would she get creeper vibes from him saying hi? Unless he just says it SUPER awkward. But even that is hard to do "hi" is barely an utterance. It's not like you have to think about it. Kids perfect this within the same day they learned how to speak it. Anyone can say it. He's just putting way too much thought into it. He just needs to relax and be himself. :)

[diosadelanoche]

Honestly, it seems to me that she just doesn't know you. I don't think she feels one way or the other about you because she has no clue you exist. If you ever want her to notice you, say hi to her and strike up a conversation. Something like, "Hey, I see you around a lot. My name is _____. Which department do you work in?" If that's too much for you to handle, start off slow. Start smiling at her when you pass her. Then, after a while of this, smile and say hi every time you pass her. And after a while of this, it won't be weird when you introduce yourself.

[ana385]

Just remember that she isn't going to stare into your eyes for ever. If this is occurring at work, she may be occupied with working and not paying much attention to any man. So no, it is not a bad sign. If she is anything like me, she will not say hi to you while she passes by you. Pay attention to her posture when she passes you. Does she stand tall and look directly forward? Is she perking her chest and butt out as she sways her hips from side to side? She may be trying to get your attention without having to say anything. If you like her, just find a way to start talking to her. There is no sure fire way to know if a girl is into you by just body language. Getting to know her is your best bet.

[VeinsofGlitter]

I'd say ignoring someone being a sign of attraction is bullsh*t if I wasn't guilty of it myself. Two things could be the case here:

She's not interested and can't even be friendly. She might just be uncomfortable. We tend to just know when a guy likes us and if we don't return the feelings, the immature of us just avoid him completely.

OR she likes you and she's nervous. I have the same situation happening with a guy. He looks at me a lot and says hello and sometimes I pretend I don't see him. I'll avoid eye contact, too. But I'd also pretend I don't see or make eye contact with someone I didn't like who I suspect likes me. So it's hard to say!

[VeinsofGlitter]

BUT the difference is I wouldn't be nervous towards a guy I had no interest in. If you sense nerves, she may like you. The best advice I can give is she might not be content with staring and "hello" and wants you to give a clearer indication you like her. We're not mindreaders.

[sportdistant]

thats kinda interesting, I've been ignored plenty of times by girls from me smiling and saying hi, and most recently I tried to talk to girl that I caught glancing at me a few times...i waved and try to have a short convo, and she just looked at me strange like I was a monster and didn't wanna talk to me :(

[Anonymous]

Before I got with my boyfriend, I just knew him to work in the corner shop and he was always looking my way and smiling at me and even though I liked him I thought he was just being nice to me so I never really smiled back or anything so would have never guessed that he fancied me to but my best friend found out that I liked him and told him so now we are together and thank her all the time for it so what I am saying is maybe she thinks you are just being nice to her and is to shy so start talking to her, so if you really like her just tell her as what have you got to loose apart from gain

[curiouschica]

Please try it once! There's this guy I always see who's super cute, and I usually end up avoiding eye contact or being timid when I do catch his eyes and looking away quickly...I'd love if he said hi and carried a conversation with me! Go for it! You'll either make her day or go away knowing that she might not be interested (consider the fact that she might be shy though!)!

[Eiffelgirl21]

If she gives you dirty looks or rolls her eyes, then yes, it is a bad sign. But, if she just looks away, perhaps she is just shy? When a guy looks at me, I look away and smile when he can't see me..lol Only because I am shy. I say, there is nothing wrong with being nice and saying hi

[Eiffelgirl21]

@update: She is most likely shy.

[JustChris]

Yes it's a good idea because greetings are harmless (even if it takes countless tries she will eventually say something) and when you guys finally get to talking and you get the feeling that she doesn't like you back then forget her and move on to the next girl. Don't let a girl waste your precious time. Don't stare for too long though because she doesn't really know you yet. Be the Alpha Male and take the initiative. You got this man and remember smile! She could be in love with your smile!

[Feefee]

Just because she ignores you doesn't mean she doesn't like you. Many girls purposely ignore the guys they like! Say hi to her and strike up a conversation with her and see how that goes :)

[simplythebest]

i agree she maybe shy.

[Feefee]

You mean she never gives you eye contact? Not even a situation whereby you can kinda spot her looking at you from the corner of your eye?

[Asker]

Yes, absolutely.

[Feefee]

But you said in your question that she made eye contact with you a couple of times. Now you are saying that she never gave you eye contact in the first place?

[Asker]

No. She used to give me eye contact when I stared at her previously, like 2 to 3 times we stared at each other continuously. Now she does not want to have an eye contact with me. :-/

[Feefee]

Well I still think you should say hi to her and chat with her, see how it goes, and let that help you judge whether she likes you or not. You can't just be staring at her for the rest of your life without taking action otherwise she might find it creepy! So go ahead and talk to her :)

Good luck!

[Feefee]

And when you talk to her, tell us how it went so that we can help you judge :)

[Lovestar980]

She may like you but she could be shy. When I pass the guy that I like I don't always say hi or even pay attention that he's there. Try to talk to her. When you talk to her try to get eye contact when you talk to her.

[Username256]

She either doesn't notice you or doesn't like you. I know with the guy that does that to me our date night bombed so I'm avoiding him and he learned quick to leave me alone.. But yeah..i would stop. Sorry :/

[shelbycobra96]

try not to stare:) she might think you are creepy... just look at her occasionally or hide when you stare at her hahah... but you should try to be friends.. when you get closer lether know you think she is beautiful

[candy247]

the most important body language you need now is being able to tell if the girl is a sweet nice girl who is just intimidated by you or a big snub. start from this point first!

[luv4all]

so why don't you just speak to her and see how things goes. sometimes that all it takes and you can strike a conversation. good luck

[mmike0]

in this situation.. what to talk about? I mean is it too forward to say " hey how you doing? my name is billy bob" girl "im fine how are you?" billy bob "im fine, I can over to tell you that you are really beautiful and I would like to get to know you beyond work. Are you available?"

is this good?

[DebiPie]

Yes! For goodness sakes, say "hi!" already & tell us how it goes.

It's always OK to say hi or hello to anyone.

[cathysmith07]

I do the same before to guy and fortunately he is my boyfriend now. haha!

[justlilly]

Just say hi and introduce youself and take it from there.

[Yeahhbro]

well women never say hi, or they ever approach men, so yes that wouldn't hurt.

[Anonymous]

I said hey what's up to a girl who ignored me and she said nothing so expect no response if she is stuck up like the girl that I tried to talk to.

[starlight124]

theres no harm in being nice lol