If you have money, what do you need to pay for your dates for?

[Anonymous]

If you have money, you can pay for your own meals 🤷‍♀️

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Paying for me is a gesture. I have no problem whipping out a wad of cash and covering stuff. It’s when it becomes an expectation of that I get mad.

I have friends who are pretty much dirt broke who have known me for years and to this day when I go to pay for movie tickets or smokes or we walk into a 7/11 together they offer to pay for their stuff and you know what I say?

Fuck that I got us

Then I’ll take out a girl and one time I had just paid for dinner and we were about to go to a concert or something it was $10 a head but they were only taking cash at the door. The way this girl looked at me when I told her I only have card. I just left her there.

[HighValue]

Split the cost or take turns paying is best. If someone always wants the other to pay, they are a pros titute. There are tons of greedy women that always want the man to pay, so if that is the case, he can get a new one each week quite easily.

[CrazyGirl2]

I HAVE paid for my own meals and drinks, since after possibly my second date in college. Now that I live with my fiancé, and I pay the rent, electric, phone bills, cable TV, the groceries, and I bought him a new car, and pay for the maintenance on the car as well as the registration and insurance… Lee pays for diners! I’m most definitely NOT one of the women who believes “I’m a princess, and he has to treat me like one”. I have a trust fund worth millions, I’ll be damned if I’m making a guy who came from abject poverty, and works two jobs as a waiter to pay for his tuition and books, pay MY way on a date!

Hope this helps
Laura 🤗 🥰

[Alli112]

Love that for you lol

[CrazyGirl2]

Thanks @Alli112, I appreciate that.

[Jennz6]

@CrazyGirl2
What a great reply 💕💯

[CrazyGirl2]

Thank you @Jennz6 I really appreciate your feedback. Thank you so much 😊 💕 🤗

[Damaged00]

The fact that this is a huge debate in society is crazy to me. If everyone is working and paying all their own bills and expenses while single then what is the problem paying for yourself when dating or in a relationship, you do it fine when going out with friends. Especially if you work hard for your money there should be understanding and empathy for the other person who also works hard for their money.

If someone makes a lot of money, then sure they probably don't have a problem with paying for someone else's meal. But that doesn't mean you should expect it. That's their choice. But that's what it should be, a guilt free choice.

[kylee2437]

There’s nothing romantic about going 50/50. I’m very glad I’m not in a relationship where a guy insists it’s mandatory I take out my credit card.

[Juxtapose]

And yet it is mandatory for him to take out his lol.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose plenty of times where I’ve paid for him, but how rich of you to assume not going 50/50 means I don’t pay at all.

[Juxtapose]

You sound pretty entitled so it's a safe assumption.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose imagine saying I’m entitled to you feel just as entitled to a woman’s credit card just because you don’t want to do what other men have no issues doing.

[Juxtapose]

I only ask a woman to pay her half of the bills which is evenly split. I'm not her sugar daddy.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose so you expect a woman to be okay with that, when she doesn’t have to be.

[Juxtapose]

Yep! My girlfriends have had no problems with alternating between who pays for dates and they have paid their fair share of rent when living with me.

[Juxtapose]

I don't have to deal with that gold digging shit. I'm not going to pedestalize someone just because they have a vagina.

[Juxtapose]

And just so you know, I went above and beyond for a girlfriend I lived with that had bipolar, PTSD, borderline and schizophrenia. I would walk her to work everyday and whenever she would pass out on the ground and flop like a fish I would be there to get her. I would also take her to her therapy.

All without asking for anything in return. You know why? She wasn't some entitled bitch.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose and notice how you are currently single. You are speaking like you have the looks to cover how non gentleman you are. And pushing at the idea that every woman that doesn’t like things your way is a gold digger. What a miserable entity you are

[Juxtapose]

Says the person not even showing their face lol. I know I look hot and your preferences don't matter to me because I wouldn't want to be with you anyway.

"Gentleman"? A. k. a SIMP! I am not paying more than my fair share and I don't really care if I am single or not. I will find somebody when the time is right but right now I am more worried about taking care of my pets because one of them is really sick.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose I don’t have to show my face for your approval, I have a boyfriend that thinks my face is worth not going 50/50 for.

[Juxtapose]

I don't really care what a simpleton who gets hypnotized by pussy thinks.

[kylee2437]

@juxapose so then don’t date. Simple. Not that you had a choice anyways, you are currently single because you don’t have a choice.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose

[Juxtapose]

I have dated both men and women before and I will again. I was born with three learning disabilities including autism so whatever insults you throw at me, I have heard worse from better people.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose cool for you. Just keep making your dating pool even smaller and smaller.

[Juxtapose]

I'm bisexual so I really don't have to worry about that. Do you think men would get on me about this? A lot of women I talk to aren't as greedy as you are. Just because you can find men to be suckers doesn't mean most women expect men to be suckers.

[Juxtapose]

I'm going to be visiting a couple soon and they are both going to have sex with me as well.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose I guess my boyfriend’s a sucker for offering to pay it all after I offered to pay my half. You are one miserable individual

[Juxtapose]

Just because I am disagreeable does not mean I am miserable. You really suck at reading tone through text, but then again most people suck at that.

[Juxtapose]

And yeah your boyfriend is a huge sucker. He is hypnotized by pussy and thinks he has to give more because he is the lesser person in the relationship. It is a sign of low self-esteem.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose so people that prefer love over prioritizing money are “suckered by pussy” you have issues, and you obviously have been around the wrong crowd as an autistic person. I’ll keep to the one person I love while you go screw a couple because you don’t have much options going on. You have a couple using you.

[Juxtapose]

Unlike you I don't have a prudish morality which stigmatizes casual sex. I'm an atheist, I have no need for that Christian malarkey.

And I like it when my lovers expect me to not be entitled. Everything they give me is a gift, not an entitlement. The only thing they owe me is their half of the bills if we live together. Clean 50/50.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose people are allowed to have expectations in a relationship and I’m sorry to say bare minimum isn’t a gift, bare minimum is what keeps a relationship from spoiling. Probably why your past relationships did not work out.

[Juxtapose]

You are entitled and greedy. You see somebody thriving and you want a piece of that just because you don't have it even though you didn't work for it. That is lazy and communist behavior.

My past relationships did not work because of incompatibility and you have to date multiple people throughout your lifespan before you find your forever person. It's stupid to think that you find one person and then you are automatically set. How fucking basic would you have to be? Do you have no uniqueness? Yuck.

[kylee2437]

@juxatpose or how about I expect someone that shows they want a partner, and not someone that shows they want someone as a free time passer. I have my own money, and that’s why I also pay for my boyfriend when I feel like it because he’s a deserving partner of having someone that is mine for me to share with him.

[Juxtapose]

We're just going to go back and forth on this so let's stop. I'm not going to change my mind, you're not going to change your mind and this is useless.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose I never told you , you needed to change your mind. My mind about how people go 50/50 from my own experiences will not simply change just because there’s a whining man in front of me calling me a gold digger. I personally don’t care

[Jojojojojojojo]

For paying for date /meal question.

i guess 90% women are more concern about the man sincerity and how much he wants her.
Not paying can be one of the red flags , meaning he might have a lots of dates so he is just prioritising which girl worth the money.

[Jennz6]

Good answer

[Jojojojojojojo]

@Jennz6
Thanks.
When i was like 18-23, i didn't mind 50 50 Sure it got me a lot of troubles. Usually cheap men
that vibe attracts takers. Or something much much worse.

[kylee2437]

Agreed with the above reply. The one relationship where I went 50/50, it was brought into too much personal and bigger financial things where he wasn't trying to dish out more than his 50/50 percent, which lead to so many problems. It implies “I will only love to care to help if that means we are both equal in every situation” which is not how relationships work.

[Jennz6]

@kylee2437 I agree

[Jojojojojojojo]

@kylee2437
Yea it can leads to that too.
For contribution , he might expect woman to clean and bring money home like a feeder when man is actually a risk.
Yea i m tired of men like that. Let somebody else to do this unpaid slave job.

[Jennz6]

@Jojojojojojojo you have the right idea

[kylee2437]

And very quite sad that women low value themselves because they have had guys like this pressure them into believing that there’s men out there that hate the 50/50 idea. My boyfriend wouldn’t let me pay a single dime of the check on the first date no matter how much I offered

[kylee2437]

Into not believing*

[Jojojojojojojo]

@kylee2437
Right. There s men who would treasure women.
My ex boyfriend won’t let me pay either. I wish i knew him earlier.🥲🥲
Now I always make sure i won't lower my standards or it ll just break my ex heart since he s still here for me. 🥲🥲
One second of complaining about who have the bill will just have me leaving.
Never settle for cheap men 😤

[NathanDavis]

I've never stiffed a restaurant for a meal... lol

[WhitneySnow]

It’s a nice gesture if the other person pays for you. Makes you feel cherished.

[exitseven]

Getting an invitation to dinner usually implies that the one that invites you will pay.

[Juxtapose]

And it's no small coincidence women sit back and let men ask them first. I think it's bullshit because even if my friends invite me out to eat I still pay for my fair share.

[exitseven]

@Juxtapose There is a big difference between going out with your friends and taking somebody on a date.

[Juxtapose]

There really shouldn't be. They are auditioning to be a very close friend with sex.

[Juxtapose]

That's really all a lover is when you boil it down.

[Juxtapose]

They are gold diggers and want to humiliate and subjugate their man.

It is incredibly embarrassing to be treated like a sucker.

[Anonymous]

Some women are actually attracted to men and go on dates to get to know them regardless of whose paying.

[Anonymous]

It's a test but I'd soon say letting them pick the top is a better test

[Anonymous]

I like paying in the beginning. It helps show I have my shit together.

[RavVid]

About $AUD 35 would do it excluding alcohol.

[Ms_Facesitter]

My bank card of course.

[Yannae]

It's my treat. I'll pay.

[Jennz6]

Because he has to treat me like a princess

[MrGSpotHer]

So your going to pay if I'm poor?

[Asker]

You did read my question, right?

[MrGSpotHer]

So your saying you would because I haven't really seen that yet

[Asker]

No, I was making sure you read my question correctly.

[MrGSpotHer]

But to answer some people like to dominate and control a situation the idea of paying might make them feel weak

[Anonymous]

Is that English?

[Asker]

Nope, Spanish

[hisstarrr]

That's so true. Pointless. 😂