If monogamy is not promised, which is worse, a woman using a rotation of men for money or a man using a rotation of women for sex?

Question

There were no promises made, so are either of these even bad? What do you think?

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

They are both despicable. But a woman (or rarer cases a man) uses lots of people for money it’s much more disgusting.

Three major reasons why:

It is only natural to biologically crave someone for sex and in some cases lots of variety. It doesn’t cost anything to offer your body for sex either (unless an accident happens). But you didn’t have to “work” for what the other person wants to use you for. However when it comes to money thats something most people had to work very hard to earn. It’s more insulting to be used for money. If you are used for sex at least the other person found you physically attractive (despite not wanting a relationship)!
Women using men for money in the modern world is the antithesis of feminism. Direct contradiction to gender quality. It’s the biggest hypocrisy in the world because feminists rarely (if ever) speak up, call out women who do this bullshit to men nor ever protect men who are taken advantage of toxic femininity. Feminists rather pretend that this gross female behavior doesn’t exists or worse try to justify it.
It is a lot more dangerous and risky to be a hetero male player nowadays given what #metoo has done to society. Some psycho disgusting women believe “regret is rape”. Despite the encounter being consensual they try to convince themselves otherwise to protect their precious egos. False accusations is a scary thought for a lot of men. A player is more at risk too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They’re all evil…. HOWEVER a woman has to choose to have sex with a man. If she doesn’t have sex and the man finds someone else’s time to waste that’s one thing. I do think it’s disgusting when a man meets a nice girl and is dating her, while also sleeping with whores then I feel terrible.

Using men for money is a huge problem especially when a man’s told to be a gentleman and pay for the dates. Women see this and can use it to their advantage to string them along without any intentions of commitment. It’s wrong to toy with someone’s emotions period.

All in all…. I do respect someone more whose honest. If a woman just tells me she’s wanting money or sex for that matter. I can know immediately if we are looking for different things and neither one of us will waste the others time.

Unfortunately a lot of particularly narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, and dark empaths are NOT honest. Men and women need to be very careful who they’re spending time with. Take things slow…. Date one another until you get to know one another. If someone’s seeming like they’re going too fast for comfort. It’s a lot like someone trying to get you to sign a contract before you’ve read it all. There could be ulterior motives at play that you don’t know about.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

Both are bad. But men using women for sex is worse because those are highly manipulative and promise of love all the time while cheating on her and making her fool also corrupting / disrespect her.

In France some Muslim will lie to girl (Muslim women keeping herself a virgin until wedding) they promise wedding to the girl force her to have sex with them and as soon as they have done their stuff they break up and leave them corrupted. Those girl get their reputation ruined and fall into depression (they're generally often very young and don't know anything because of highly sheltered life). This is ways worse than a woman just getting a free diner. (but obviously using the others for money is wrong too).

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

Both entail bad habits. A woman using men for money can easily get you into prostitution and pimp related activities and having you do things that are degrading because you get a high from the amount of money you are making. A man using women for sex, is at risk of catching an std, passing around stds, getting women he doesn’t value pregnant, and hurting people in exchange because you rarely find a man that is honest about using women for sex.

AviatorTom · Answer

Monogamy is not "promised" in a relationship. Such activity would only be acceptable if both partners agreed to it, which would be very unusual in a relationship.

BullShark · Answer

What even is the point of this question? Even if monogamy isn't "promised" it's a pretty obvious unspoken rule between partners that when you're in a relationship you don't go on to seeing others. If you want to stay polyamorous, don't get into a committed relationship. Period.

Sleeping around with multiple people, regardless if its the woman doing it or the man, they're both scumbags, so I hope that answers this weird question.

Serkee · Answer

They're both terrible, both are emotionally manipulating people to get what they want, and both leave people used and brokenhearted, but I think using men for money is worse. Sex is mutual, women aren't being generous or doing men a favor by having sex with them. When men are used for money, all the same damage is done PLUS the damage on his bank account. There's an actual, tangible, physical loss alongside the emotional damage.

Stevepro68 · Answer

Assuming the motivation is pure evil as you have described. Using woman like a blow up dolls and a woman using men like a wallet. Is so detached and sociopathic by both they should be in a relationship with anyone. They need to sort out their emotional issues.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Both are just as bad.
Unless you are talking about the niche and not situation you were on about probably in which said person is just honest about.
Golddiggers are okay if they just say yeah that's what I am doing it for because it's on the guy then to decide what to do. He's not been deceived. Same for men who just want sex if they say that to the girl it's her choice to stay around.

Apple1996 · Answer

Both are forms of gold digging and bad but using women for sex is slightly worse. Using a man for money is not too big of a deal since he can always make more money

PeachyPie93 · Answer

The woman is probably worse since she is probably using sex to get the money since most guys won't give money for free. But they are both disgusting people lol

sawno · Answer

Its pretty universal really, its bad when your creating false expectations. As long as everyone consents and is aware I don't see the problem. Not promised doesn't mean not implied in that.

patois · Answer

Clearly the female hooker. It takes two people to have sex. Therefore the woman is also using the men for sex just like the man, but the woman is also stealing their belongs along the way.

Anonymous · Answer

Both are bad, one has to presume that the woman is giving sex to the men for money which just make's her worse in every way.

If she isn't then she is creating a situation of conflicting responsibility among men.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

What's worse to me is worrying about this lol. It's not my place today what's worse. If everyone is consenting I don't care. It doesn't affect me.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Both are worse. They will both feel empty at the end of the day.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Neither one is "worse" in my opinion neither is bad but if I had to choose I would say women using men for money because at least sex is an equal value exchange.

DishLady · Answer

“Rotation”? Sounds unsavory….

elizamichale1 · Answer

Neither of them should use one another for money or sex... why can't it be mutual understanding

paledreams · Answer

They're both Despicable equally was my vote 🤭🤭🤭🫢

Fireguy17 · Answer

as long as both parties are there just for sex and are fine with it, have at it.

Anonymous · Answer

wait... I thought this site says body count don't matter... what happened?

DrPepper12 · Answer

Caveat emptor! If you're getting used, you didn't do your due diligence or your vibe meter sux

Anonymous · Answer

The poll results are hilarious, and typically gender biased. The obvious 'honest 'answer is D.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Using men for money is more despicable

Anonymous · Answer

Both are sinful in the eyes of God.

Anonymous · Answer

Same

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