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Pretty privilege is insane.
I have a conventionally attractive mom and sister, and it's insane the different treatment we all get. I am ignored, meanwhile I have people (especially men) come up to me to ask about them. Sometimes these men are married.. or they just stare. They are often told any man would be lucky to have them. My moms sisters husband (my uncle) told them infront of me how they have good genes.
I get nothing, no dates, no compliments... when someone does compliment me it's out of pity. I've seen guys point and get giddy when they come in contact with my older sister. I see how men look and appreciate her.
Yes I'm jealous, I'm not pretty. I'm fat, and no guy likes that. Just really kinda sucks. I've never had a guy truly be interested in me, if they are it's online dating and they're only interested in sex. They probably think I'm easy. I've been told no guy would want to come up to me if anyone hot was around, or if they did they'd want to get close to me to get close to them. And that I should go out alone so guys don't focus on them.
Now if beauty was "subjective" then why do all men follow the same type of chick's online? The half naked ones? Seems like guys have to force themselves to like a certain type of woman if that's all they can get. I don't believe for a second a man finds my body desirable.
And that if someone is willing to date me it's always cause they find my personality attractive and not my physical appearance.. everyone wants to feel desired so don't give me the "it doesn't matter, the right one will see what's in your heart". How do I accept being ugly?
I have a conventionally attractive mom and sister, and it's insane the different treatment we all get. I am ignored, meanwhile I have people (especially men) come up to me to ask about them. Sometimes these men are married.. or they just stare. They are often told any man would be lucky to have them. My moms sisters husband (my uncle) told them infront of me how they have good genes.
I get nothing, no dates, no compliments... when someone does compliment me it's out of pity. I've seen guys point and get giddy when they come in contact with my older sister. I see how men look and appreciate her.
Yes I'm jealous, I'm not pretty. I'm fat, and no guy likes that. Just really kinda sucks. I've never had a guy truly be interested in me, if they are it's online dating and they're only interested in sex. They probably think I'm easy. I've been told no guy would want to come up to me if anyone hot was around, or if they did they'd want to get close to me to get close to them. And that I should go out alone so guys don't focus on them.
Now if beauty was "subjective" then why do all men follow the same type of chick's online? The half naked ones? Seems like guys have to force themselves to like a certain type of woman if that's all they can get. I don't believe for a second a man finds my body desirable.
And that if someone is willing to date me it's always cause they find my personality attractive and not my physical appearance.. everyone wants to feel desired so don't give me the "it doesn't matter, the right one will see what's in your heart". How do I accept being ugly?
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Hey girl, I totally understand how hurtful that all must feel. Comparing yourself to family members isn't fair and will only make you feel worse. Please try not to internalize what shallow guys say or do - their opinion of you says way more about them than you.
Looks really aren't everything. Sure, they draw attention at first, but what really matters is who you are inside - your character, values, humor, kindness. Those qualities are way more important for a deep connection.
While our society puts way too much emphasis on appearances, try focusing on developing who YOU want to be. Pursue your passions, surround yourself with people who love you for you. Loving yourself is the first step to meeting someone great who loves that person too.
It's OK if right now you feel sad or frustrated - allow yourself to feel what you feel. But please don't believe you're "ugly" or undeserving of love. You have so much wonderfulness to share with the world. This too shall pass - keep your head held high beautiful soul! Feel free to message me if you ever need an ear.
Just try this