Would you send a decoy to your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has been sexually rejecting me for 8 months now. At first I thought we were just having a dry spell and she just needed space.

Recently I organized a summer vacation for us. Again, she was talking really sexual. Saying “where gonna have so much sex”, my vagina will be all yours for 4 weeks, and we’re gonna have sex in car”. We only had 3 times on our trip after begging her for it.

I had so many thoughts of her potentially cheating so I set up a decoy. My buddy rob had sex with her in the past. She doesn’t know that me and rob are friends. So I asked rob to text her and she responded and chatted with him for a bit. At first, she was honest and told me a guy named rob from her past messaged her, but. Now things are getting sour.

Right now at this very moment she’s laying beside me sleeping. And again, she refused sex like always. So I asked rob to call her multiple times, she woke up and kept declining. I asked her “who’s calling?”. She lied and said random number 😬

Yes I would

No I wouldn’t

[stratford]

The whole thing sounds like such a turn off for me. My advice is one of the following:

1. Move on from the relationship, she isn't the one

or

2. Talk to her honestly and openly about it and stay calm

or

3. See a relationship therapist together

Good luck.

[stratford]

Thanks for the MHO

[DrPepper12]

The fact that you're at the point and considering this is a big 🚩🚩🚩 and if you can't have trust in your relationship what's the point of having intimacy? I think you need to have a big conversation and decide where to go from there.

[HelpfulWoman]

if you feel you need to that, yikes.
i mean why should she "give" you sex when you're actively distrusting her and tricking her in your own way?
dodgy...

[poochigoochi]

so what is the point of sending rob to her o. o