Why are millennial 30 year old men such mommas boys?

[Alwayreckles93]

I noticed this trend in men in their 30s that are so attached to momma. I know family members and aquitences who are in their early 30s and still living with mommy. It is no wonder why millennial most off us are single because it is so toxic that monster in law takes over the couples house and 30 year old hubby need to wait and get. mommies approved word. Sick. why get married if you still want to be with mommy. I just font get it. AND NO let's not blame oh I live with my mom because of the inflation excuses excuses you had your younger years to work hard save as much money. Why? I had a coworker the other day hibiscus 32 and still his mommy came to his job to drop off mcdonalds ridiculous. I give him the side eye after he told me my mom comes first before my girlfriend. My coworker called me a Karen after I told him the advice to not get married stay single and stop wasting his girlsfriends time. Not everything is about his mom. I mean I see it everywhere I mean why?

[osmanthus]

I think it's worth sitting back and seeing the bigger picture, here. The Millenial generation can struggle with a shortage of job opportunities, tight competition, and general upward mobility in careers, in part, because many Boomers still work owing much to several factors such as an inability to retire and needing a purpose in life. Many Boomers might still owe money on a mortgage and keep a house, so, their grandkids who've grown and who can't get work may end up living with them. Part of this stems from mistrust of Millenial's work ethic and ability to manage heirloom businesses their parents either formed, sustained, etc. Some Millenials still very much love their parents and grandparents and see no reason to leave home if it meant they could not save money for a proper education. Rents in some cities is so high that the average Millenial delivering pizza full time still doesn't cut the mustard for a college degree, hence, why so many young men might end up working hard labor jobs, sometimes, like construction which pays a lot with shorter hours. Now, depending on the ethnic group, some families are more family-centric and see no problem having extended family live with them until they can adequately secure a degree and move out on their own. Even so, a man prioritizing his mother over a girlfriend could mean maybe the mother has a health problem and if she dies then that means the roof over his head is now in trouble. I understand your frustration but this is the state of things with some men. Some men simply are not ready to go beyond a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship owing much to their circumstances.

[osmanthus]

It's not unheard of for a boss not to promote someone who is a Millenial quite simply because the other is a senior and within the same age bracket with more experience could get the job done faster. Businesses that are very high profile generally don't want to hire and train someone to do work they've already been doing and that someone else of the same age has as much, if not more exp, about, so, they max each other out until possibly there isn't anybody waiting int he wings to take their place. Mergers tend to happen rather than a handing over of business in such cases; Millenials aren't given much leeway or chance or opportunity or a foor through to learn anything worthwhile in such cases that permit them to take on these responsibilities, so, they end up twidling their thumbs and finding other work or starting their businesses which in of itself is very hard for most men to do without some support network.

[osmanthus]

Most often either acquisitions or mergers happen which only delays the decay of the lingering businesses who aren't keeping abreast in the market. Eventually, some will die out, if they don't do something to sustain themselves, so, once in a blue moon, new talent is hired but that's very rare indeed and generally the result of some form of nepotism rather than pure skill and experience.

[Anonymous]

GenZ are even bigger brats. They don't even know how to tie their shoes by themselves, have no social skills and can't hold a conversation, since they're glued to their phones 24/7. They also throw a tantrum and will attack you, if you say something they disagree with

[V_Injector]

Most don't have a Dad growing up, and when they do, he was a henpecked beta bitch that said "Yes Ma'am" to everything Mommy said. Fathers have been systematically removed or had their balls fall off (hypothetically speaking). Every show that kids watched growing up show men that dumb and weak. Now they're grown-ups

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When you run into a man that had a decent father figure as he was shaping his mind in childhood have a stark difference in comparison.

[CuriousHubby]

Fully agree! Also it's the mom's fault for babying them!
Most MEN I know had a replacement father figure or a good dad! It's so hard to find just like real men!

Most guys are so soft due to how they were raised! Imagine this new gen and how babies they are in everything!

Someone insulted you play victim and... Your amazing just being a drain on society don't work make them pay you to sit on your phone!

[OfMiceandMen]

It is pretty sad, I love my mom but even she was like... I am proud you became a young man early in life and once you were done school got out on your own.

I made sure I had my first and last rent and a job when I got out of school. I was able to manage money well and had my own place.

Their mom's aren't doing them any favors by letting them stay home.

[OfMiceandMen]

Cheers.🥂

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes I agree that is so true back when your generation was fresh out of high school you guys managed to even become first time home owners and got real jobs. At the time when you were a teenager your generation was more responsible and actually did take care of savings and finances. Now a days 30 year old are alligator kindergartens. No wonder why a lot people from my generation are singlebat 30.

[OfMiceandMen]

It wasn't like it was easier either, people say inflation these days, but we were paid less and houses etc. were still expensive to save for. I had three jobs starting out. One full time and two part time because I wanted my own place someday.

[OfMiceandMen]

I just didn't piss it way in the bar every weekend.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes you are absolutely right. People were paid less and things were still expensive. Still the younger generation from back then knew better to compare prices and save up. I hear millennial guys complain uh I don't want Walmart shoes I want my Jordan's yet complain uh inflation so expensive. Millennial blame everything on boomers when it's their own fault for not learning good financial skills. Exactly see you were smart and knew better not to over spend your money.

[LifeHitMeandRan]

Before I answer, this needs to be stated: If you are GenX or older, then we do not need to hear things like "Well when I was 18 mom kicked me out" or "Back in my day, we did...". Back in your time a person freshly 18 could make a life for themselves on their own with starting wages and work their way up. That is not the reality for most young adults today without help, so if you are going to offer advice, keep in mind that the world is a much different place than how you grew up.

That being said, there is a difference between a momma's boy and someone who is living with their parents due to being forced to.

The people who act like what you described are indeed momma's boys and should be avoided.

However, in the current job and housing markets, it is so difficult to get your own place. The ONLY millennials able to live on their own are ones who pretty much did everything PERFECTLY since age 18. In previous generations, it was ok to live life, make some mistakes and find a way to bounce back. However, given how expensive things are today and how little jobs want to pay, if someone makes just ONE mistake, it can set them back years. Also keep in mind that, in today's society, girls often get more help from their parents past 18 than boys do.

I say this to open your eyes to look past "oh he lives with his parents" and look deeper into WHY he live with his parents. For some it is financially the best choice. So the real questions are "Does he have a plan to be independent and is pursuing it?" and "How much control do his parents have over his decisions?". If those two things check out, then there is no problem with someone staying with their parents if needed.

[Alwayreckles93]

Why are you calling me old? I suggest you get your eyes checked people arevalways telling me I look 20 . FYI You and I are the same age. I bet you spend your 20s partying and not taking college seriously. So if people our generation are not successful the fault is on them not inflation orthe government . It's not like the government Saud on national news oh hey millenail humans go out and party. I worked really hard to reach the top of the maintain. If I have the nice lifestyle it's not because I got lucky perhaps I worked way mire then your lazy ass. No excuse a human your age should be living with money. No the world does not revolve around moms so get that straight into your brain. I knew how to budget and be responsible if my finances I knew better to not be stupid and not blow my money off like crazy. You had a whole decade ahead of you after high-school oh and I am class of 2011 so you uh Life is hard now a days is no excuse. Eww I don't want Walmart shoes hey I don't have my own place but mommy is going to pay for my Jordan's sick. I tell something people would often call me over dramatic be abuse I was working on projects from the future now these same people are the ones now struggling complaining about inflation. When I was in high-school my friends at the time now ex friends would waste money on stupid stuff like Mac make up I would put my money on savings. See no excuses you and I graduated from high-school the same year we bought had same days same hours same 7 days a week The question is , WHAT WERE YOU DOING THIS WHOLE DECADE?

[Lionman95]

I would say some guys never grew up properly. The reason they live it at home because it´s safe as it allows them to not take responsibility and they parents not only let them they also don´t want them to leave.
The issue is they are probably not very self confident and they fear what might come the moment they leave for good. I would say it´s a consequence of a society where more and more guys are screen addicted and as the future is supposed to be female it´s just part of society´s development.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exactly because these 30 year Olds men child's are Giant kindergartens.

[Alwayreckles93]

The parents falt for not teaching them basic life skill , Budgeting money savings. And how survive. Uh inflation excuses excuses they want luxury live above their means. Uh I don't want Walmart shoes I want my Jordan's Ihear retired parents told these guys oh don't worry sweetie mommy will pay for your Jordan's. Uh why is rent s expensive. Ridiculous. My dad bought his first house at age 18 at the time back in the 80s.

[Alwayreckles93]

No wonder 30 year Olds are single living at mommies home.

[Lionman95]

No inflation is the safe excuse. It´s the parents fault yes but it´s more than that as it´s part of a developing social problem.

[Alwayreckles93]

You make good points. Millennial blame their fareless financial choices to the inflation. .

[Serkee]

Because a huge chunk of men that age grew up with single moms.

[Alwayreckles93]

Bingo

[MisterWack]

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I’m Gen Z so, thank you for not insulting us though I will say to every millennial man, you deserve so much better than this troll. I’m sorry hate to say it but you do. Ignore this question and move on with ur day she ain’t worth your time.

[PeachyPie93]

I assume they believe their mother will always love them more than some girlfriend ever would. If your mom is good she always has your best interests at heart and won't betray them.

[_piotr]

I am 37 and I still live with my parents and maternal-side grandpa. I love my family and I am so happy with them. I can't see myself to go and live with some woman-stranger, who probably will never love me or understand me as much as my family.

[ale2003]

That is so true, men born from like 1980 to 1995 are the biggest spoiled brats… That whole generation ruined the future of my generation in the region i live…

[anon1903]

Cultural differences apply!

But yeah girl, I totally see your point. It's creepy to be excessively attached to your parents

[ProbablyClueless]

Very few role models. Very few strong father figures. Lots of divorces and fractured families. An educational system that punishes masculine behavior.

[Alwayreckles93]

Excuses back in the 90s 18 year Olds fresh out of high school become business owner worked real jobs and managed to buy a house. Millennial uh Let's chill hit he club. Unacceptable

[ProbablyClueless]

Amen to that! I find the general lack of shit-together-having of our age group rather pathetic. I don't totally don't understand how these people have gotten as far as they have, but it's not sustainable.

[Starrrboy]

Yes, they're mommas boys.. but you sound like a huge karen, which is also typical for millennial women..

[Alwayreckles93]

Excuse me no the karen here are the boy moms.

[Starrrboy]

Sure..

[Twalli]

Apparently I can't live alone. I mean I guess the important word is luve, because I am functioning pretty well without supervision. I usually don't eat though, which I guess, us why thry say I can't live alone. Because I would die of starvation.

[JesseP1nk]

Just asking- why do you care how other people live? Not that you have horse in the race. Just because your husband pays for everything does not mean you could live alone with your money.

[Alwayreckles93]

You are very wrong. I knew better in my younger years not towaste my money. FYI I was already successful before I met my husband. Your statement is invalid. One thing I've learn people hate truth tellers.

[JesseP1nk]

So why you care what other people do? I mean people who are happy do not trow hatred around.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ErSV7_k7yps

[Alwayreckles93]

I do not threw hate around I am a sweet person.

[LiamJHayden]

I wish I could be a mama's boy, but mine passed away almost 13 years ago.

[Crimsyjo]

Awww *hugs*

[Lliam]

I'm sorry, Liam. That's rough, bro.

[Alwayreckles93]

My condolences

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You will get to know the answer once you become the monster in law 😁

[Bklynbadboy12]

You've said this before in another question you posted why do you think that

[Alwayreckles93]

Most millennial guys turn out to be jerks. Not just me I had friends who dealt with the same reason.

[strateguy632]

Too lazy to move out and get a job.

[sawno]

there's no housing left. You expect me to pay half a million for a basic house?

[Alwayreckles93]

There is no excuse. What were you doing a decade ago? I a your same age I own a house paid off and my vehicle are all paid off. When I was younger while people my age group were partying , having fun I was working 24/7 . I saved as much money as much as I could. No one told me today is your lucky day youwillget a house. No I didn't buy just amy house OK It may not be new residential house its and 1800s houseboat hey I managed to maintain a roof over my head. Maybe if you knew budgeting you wouldn't have this problem. MrKaren.

[sawno]

What was I doing a decade ago? Burning my body to the ground working super hard. Nobody can lecture me on hard work, almost nobody is as much of a dedicated worker as I was. Did you have a burnout? Did you go past your limits to make sure the job was well done and your colleagues were spared that? Did you work full time with 2 hours of traffic for the trip home and then run a world leading project in your spare time? You didn't did you. The only thing you have over me is the country your born in, if I lived in the US I could outright buy a house without a mortgage because your housing is 5 times cheaper than it is here and your income is double than ours for the same job making it effectively 10 times easier to achieve than it is for me.

So while your giving me a lecture on budgeting living on a houseboat I probably have more wealth than you do especially if we double my wealth to compensate for the economic differences, but I am smart enough not to blow it on a house thats 50% inflated in value because then i'd be putting myself into massive permanent debt the moment the housing market here stabalizes.

[Alwayreckles93]

My house is paid off you dumb ass. You have wealth yeah right living under mommies roof. I have way more income then you ever will. I was working hard will your ass was partying getting drunk. Why are you saying I don't have wrath be abuse I am a woman? Please I am way more successful then you. To me my parents and family mean nothing I choose success over ay family occasion. O have way more wealth then you ever will. Lazy I bet you grab out off mommies wallet. Lazy

[sawno]

And you have a happy family with a father for your child yes?

[Anonymous]

Why are you staying with these guys? You're so immature, move on, or are these the only type of guys you can get? 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I never said anything bad about working hard you idiot. I'm saying your immature because you stay with those type of guys. Why do you stay with them. I don't gives those guys the time of day.

[Opinion Owner]

You're crying on the internet for making bad dating decisions. Nobody told you to waste your time with those guys, dummy.

[Lynx122]

Wow someone's really angry :D

[Mad836362738]

Well they have liberal sexy moms

[noohair]

Childmen. No self pride.