How do I politely tell my girlfriend to lose weight because her face is so beautiful and she would look even better if she were slimmer?

[Anonymous]

I understand that she is stressed at work and she doesn’t have enough energy to work out. She has a more demanding job than mine and she can’t exercise as much as I do. I like her as she is, but I know what she looked like when she was slimmer and I would be more attracted to her. It’s not like I want to change her, because that’s something she can work on

[Little_Bumblebee]

Does SHE want to lose weight though?

ou say she's stressed from work and you're less stressed and therefore also has more time to work out.

Do you help her at home? - provided you live together.

You can help with the better options when it comes to food, which if you work out, you should know how essential that is.

Do you help her to decompress when she's home?

Or do you expect her to work when she comes home too, get more stressed and expect her to keep your dream body just to please you?

And was that slimmer body from when she was a teenager and she's now an adult?

The thing is... you wanting her to lose weight comes from a selfish point. You never mentioned how she feels about it. Whether it's better for her. Her health or anything else like that.

You only worry about what your cock likes more.

Think about that, and reflect.
What would your partner like? Wouldn't the most important thing be for her to be happy? And healthy?

[SueShe]

You absolutely don't ask her to change who she is because you would put pressure on her. You accept her the way she is or then you have to change girlfriend.

Your sentence "I would be more attracted to her" is your first step in your mind about leaving her. Either you are 100% attracted or you are not. The fact that you have not given your maximum tells me that you are contemplating finding someone else that you are more attracted, even if you don't want to admit it.

Trying to influence other people is always wrong because that simply signifies that you are not satisfied. You place the looks way above her personality and character which is an absolute no go in any relationship.

[Asker]

It’s not like I’m dissatisfied that she has a certain eye color or about her height, things she couldn’t change. But she could lose weight, because she was slimmer in the past and I know she can. Since I put so much effort into my physique, I would like her to do that too. Not as much as I do, but at least a little bit. I choose her over slimmer women. I would like HER to be slimmer, not that I like other women.

[SueShe]

A great number of people put on weight with age and there are a number of reasons for it. It could be a health issues, a more sedentary life, lack of exercise but above all, bad habits in terms of diet, stress and a whole bunch of other possible reasons.

You can try to gently motivate her to come more outside with you, walking trails for example. Motivating does not always mean forcing.

[Asker]

Yeah. It could work. I don’t want to force her.

[Oliverlogan263]

You don't, bro. That's a conversation that will only hurt her feelings and damage your relationship. Her body is hers to manage as she sees fit based on how she feels, not how you view her looks. Stress and lifestyle changes happen, and commenting on her weight risks coming across as insensitive or shallow. Instead of critiquing her appearance, find healthier ways to support her self-esteem like verbal/physical affection not tied to looks, doing active dates together she enjoys, cooking healthy shared meals, and helping relieve stress through quality time together. If you want her to feel her best, be on her team without pressure or judgment - focus on what you appreciate about who she is, not just what she looks like on the outside.

[NathanDavis]

don't be a douchebag like that

[Asker]

I don’t want to be. That’s why I need some opinions on this matter before acting on it

[NathanDavis]

[XHopelessRomanticX]

You don’t.

What you ought to do instead is find a way to ease some of her stress. Stress and excess weight can sometimes go hand in hand. Do you live together? Take on the responsibility of meal prep. Help her out with one or two of her chores in addition to your own. Plan dates; not to the gym, but to the outdoors. And don’t forget to cherish her as she is, even if she never slims down. Love her more than what is skin deep.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Oh, so she's already pretty! What more if she's super fit? She will find another man who will treat her better than you. 😍

[chrissykerdock]

sorry you can't tell her that unless you don't mind breaking up

[Lenabfine]

This is hard. There are lots of ways to indirectly bring it up but not sure of her self image. It is different for each girl.

[Apple1996]

You don't lol