How do I tell my girlfriend I would like her to lose some weight?

[ryang04]

Since I have gotten with my girlfriend she has gained a significant amount of weight. I really do love her, but I just don’t find heavy women attractive at all. I’m not trying to be mean, but that’s just how I feel about that and we’ll leave it at that. Is there really a nice way to ask her to start working out and eating healthy.

[Anonymous]

You'd need to lead with your heart and demonstrate at every juncture that this is about her health and her longevity, and nothing to do with your view of what she looks like.

You would probably need to prepare a food plan and help her keep to it, and encourage her with a lot of love and attention.

It's the sort of thing a marriage permits because it's understood it's a long term thing.

But this isn't where you are. You want your girlfriend to look a certain way. You can try to discuss it but I suspect it's only going to make things difficult between you. If it's a red flag for you, well, it is. You need to decide what is most important to you.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Yes. Bring her to the computer & show her this post. You've just written down all of your thoughts. All she has to do is read them.

[osmanthus]

No. There is no nice way. Sorry. You can invite her to your workouts and start cooking meals for both of you. Do away with the weight scales inside the residence. You always run the risk of insulting her even if you mean well.

[DishLady]

Start inviting her to exercise or take long walks with you.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of delicate topics like weight can be a little like performing a high-wire act, huh? But here's the strategy: wrap it up in the blanket of health and shared goals. Instead of approaching it as a weight issue, which can be a sensitive spot, how about suggesting activities that you can both enjoy together? Something like, "Babe, I've been thinking, what if we shake things up a bit? Maybe try some fun workouts together or explore some new, healthy recipes? It could be our little adventure." This way, it's not about weight—it's about bonding and caring for each other's well-being. The key is to ensure she feels loved and supported, not judged. Healthy living as a shared journey can bring you closer and put the spotlight on the fun of discovering new, healthy habits together. And remember, it's always about sprinkling a bit of love into the conversation. 😘💪

[exitseven]

If you value your life you should just keep it to yourself. No good can come of it. She knows she is fat

[meepmeeperton]

Call her tubby and slap her stomach during sex.

[Iron_Man]

Tell her come home come on, sweetheart. Let’s go to the gym and exercise and then when you go shopping buy clean foods.

[jahaims]

Communicate with her