Why are girls afraid of rejection and scared to ask guys out?

[Hassaniscool]

[DishLady]

No one likes rejection -- guys or girls. I don't think women are "afraid" of rejection, but they do expect to be approached as a social norm. They don't like being "ghosted" or treated poorly after offering their number/email. Again, for women it's not a matter of being "scared" to ask a guy out, but a matter of being patient for the guy to initiate.

Women initiating doesn't necessarily lead to the relationship she is looking for. If she initiates, the likelihood of HAVING to initiate each step after that is higher than if she waits for the guy to approach and initiate things. We "play the long game" if we want a guy we can keep, who knows how to be romantic, gentlemanly, and treat us like a cherished lady without constantly being nagged and prompted to do so.

"Girls" and "Hookup" type females might do things differently, but the above is my take as it applies to an actual "high value" lady with principles and the desire for something real.

[PeachyPie93]

I got my first rejection when I was around 9 he was my good friend and said he see's me as a little sister. Then a few days later proceeded to give me a letter to give to my older sister LMAO. I basically grew up to have no interest in dating or actually liking anyone unless they themselves specifically asked me out.

[ManOnFire]

Girls want all attention on them, which means they want to be the ones a guy goes to. This also gives girls power over the situation, which is also what they want. By asking a guy out, a girl feels that she is desperate and the one not having any control over the situation. It's not so much that they're afraid of rejection, but more like they fear humiliation and not having that control over a guy that they so desperately crave.

[scott04sa22]

I'm used of rejections all the time and counting but they don't reject their potential friends with benefits.

Example they will rejected me and say no to friends with benefits with me but they won't reject the guy next to me when he also wants friends with benefits then a few days later all he'll go find someone else who is bigger and fater with has a kid or 2 then she leaves him for Chinese guy lol 😂

[LiamJHayden]

Women in general have not had to ask so are not accustomed to it. It's like getting struck. If one trains in a full-contact art, getting hit does not usually put one in shock. If one is not conditioned to take a blow, that one hit can be devastating.

[AmyHew1tt]

I think often because we get invested before we ask him out. It's less often just seeing an attractive guy and asking for his number. We tend to mull over it until we have feelings, and then it feels more serious.

[Nikki1989]

I guess you don't know many girls.

[Hassaniscool]

Nope

[lightbulb27]

Pain! And they are more emotional.


Were talking reproduction and the end if life here… eternity. Its a big deal.

[chrissykerdock]

i'll give him oral but there's no way i'll ask him out too enough is enough

[Hassaniscool]

Don't make sense

[Sugar100]

I’ve been rejected by guys since I was 13. Guys don’t like me and all deny to be my boyfriend. I get no by all guys.

[Hassaniscool]

Why so

[Sugar100]

Curse from god.

[mstbooblover]

In general no one likes to be rejected, and as well many guys as girls are often scared to ask out a person they're interested in.

[normalice]

I suspect women don't fear rejection so much as fear being taken by the wrong guy.

[IslaTheWitch]

the same reason why guys are? no one likes to hear "no"...

[tzdc21]

Well there are other reasons besides just saying no why guys are. The metoo movement has made it dangerous for guys to even be around women a lot of times. All it takes is one "creepy" comment to the authorities, even if you weren't being creepy at all, and you're in jail. It sucks, it's ridiculous, but it's the world we live in.

[IslaTheWitch]

@tzdc21 how you see your actions and how others see them are two different things... what you consider "not creepy at all" can be "creepy AF" for someone else...
women also are afraid of opinion of others... that they are you straightforward or not attractive enough to ask guy out... I can't see any difference between women's and men's insecurities...

[tzdc21]

True, but they could simply be a case of either your attractive or not and that is what can tip the scale. Two guys can literally say and do the exact same thing in the exact same order to the exact same girl, and one guy can be deemed creepy and the other romantic based on how attractive he is to her. You never know these days how far people will go to with these accusations. This goes way past insecurities. That is a much more serious matter.

[alice55]

They're not, they just think it's a man job to do it.

[alice55]

And they're more scared of being considered easy and slutty for doing it than scared of getting rejected

[Anonymous]

Because everybody is to varying degrees. Rejection sucks! Women just know they have the advantage of not having to approach men. Because WILL approach them.

[msc545]

Probabl because it is relatively unusual for women. For men, it happens all the time and it does cumulative damage.

[clampfan101]

I don’t understand how anyone could not be nervous about asking someone out.

[Anonymous]

Because women literally never face rejection, and when they are rejected, they react worse than men do.

[Anonymous]

It's a combination of entitlement and cowardice.

[Anonymous]

Not just girls, some guys are afraid of rejection too (myself included).

[paledreams]

I agree. Women make men do all the work - all 👀

[Unit1]

Nobody likes being rejected

[Anonymous]

Emotional

[Hassaniscool]

Why si