Is this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend said something that was off putting. 'If I was the toxic type I would abuse u by now and hit u' am I just overthinking or is he thinking of abusing me evening. We've been together a year and a half and everything is great with minor hiccups and disagreements but that's normal for every relationship but it doesn't sit well with me. I managed to laugh it off and the date ended on a good note but I didn't wanna go to his place and just went home. I don't think he would ever hit me.

[EmmaMary]

You've supposedly been together eighteen months and this is the first time he's said something like this?

[Asker]

Yes, he's never said anything like this before

[Asker]

He did mention that if he was as toxic as my exes maybe then he could manipulate me into doing what he wants but he's too nice.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you so much for the SO.

[alice55]

Can't know but he's wrong on one stuff is that abuser are very very patient people and can wait decade before putting their hands on you

[noohair]

I am not sure if this was a sarcastic remark that he did not present well to you. I would clarify things by asking.

[worldscolide]

Seems like he is hiding the fact that he is the toxic type. You don't say shit like that, even as a joke.

[Razp_Sorbet]

That's a red flag. He has basically threatened you... Which is abuse

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are a red flag. As for your boyfriend, we don't really know him.

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

I think you’re reading into this too much.

[smurfwrangler]

it's not a red flag. he said IF