So my boyfriend makes quite a few jokes about hitting me. My boyfriend is very very ripped, 6ft3 and just overall a lot dominant and stronger than I am. But the thing is, he let's me know it all the time. He's constantly talking about "knocking out" any guy in my life, even my brother. Then recently we've been getting into arguments about my male friends, me living out, going clubbing. The thing is, I'm starting University, and so the first week is a time to get to know everyone, and in British culture that means clubbing. There's clubs at the campus and so I've tried to explain to him that I'll only go for that week, to make friends etc, and get to know the people at my uni. Then he starts to try and make me jealous, as he was a huge playboy from 18-20 years old, and so he constantly tells me stories about women. Now he's even saying "well if your going clubbing, then so am I", but he says it in a way to rub in the fact that he has women falling at his feet, just to spite me. Then he asks me outrageous questions and when I ask, "would I be allowed to do the same if it was the other way around?", he talks about how he'd hit me. Today he said, "I'd knock your head in with a baseball bat". Then he also talks about how he'd "break my bones", "give me a black eye", "punch my jaw in", if I ever did something he didn't want me doing. He's very controlling and possessive as a person, and normally I can understand that to an extent. But tonight we were on the phone, and he all of a sudden told me to stop talking because he was overthinking about something "I might do when I'm living out", and how he doesn't trust me. He only started talking after half an hour of silence. Then when I no longer wanted to engage in any conversations with him, after he had just ignored me for 30 minutes, he got angry and put the phone down on me. But then he also talks about how he'd never treat a women wrong, due to his mother and sisters.
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I had a friend call me the other night, crying, telling me he beat up his girlfriend. My boyfriend was disgusted when I told him, and doesn't want me speaking to that friend anymore either, because of what he did. So I don't understand.
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Also, my dad is a woman beater, and my boyfriend knows this, and knew how hard it was for me. He appears heartbroken for me, and reassures me that he'd never do that to a woman, but his jokes are rubbing me the wrong way.
