What's hard about dating you?

Question

Everything for me. I'm a pessimist so everything is dark. I can never see the light of things.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Im routine and don’t like change. I want the person to stay the same and things to be the way they started off. Improve sure but i hate change and people who pretend to be one way for the first few months then change completely. I dont change cause whatever I initially give is what you’ll continue to get

Account · Accepted Answer

Everything. I can relate with you.

ohsheeT · Answer

If it's a premeditated date it's going to be. Hard to get me to go I hate stuff this premeditated like that not unless it's something very very important and when I ask a girl out on a date it's just spontaneous I don't say we're going to go do this or do that so I'll pick you up at this time and then whatever happens it happens but it's usually going to happen it's going to be fun it's going to be something crazy and fun

Avicenna · Answer

Well, these things can be an advantage in some cases and a disadvantage in others, but I get up very early in the morning to work out and I am a health nut who eats a lot of some Asian cuisines and a lot of fruit and veggies, which isn't everyone's cup of tea.

DishLady · Answer

I'm very open and up front about my past, which some guys find that hard to process -- especially guys who don't like to be 100% up front with their own past.

ManOnFire · Answer

I can talk too much about my philosophies sometimes, which I have tried to work on. I don't like giving an impression that I think I know everything, because I don't.

XHopelessRomanticX · Answer

I’m not always honest about how I feel. Not to be deceptive, but more so to spare the feelings of others.

serious · Answer

Well, I have always been single given the kind of person I am. It is always going to be tough for a woman to date me. The way I think, they way I take my decisions. I will try to put that in points.

For me both physical beauty and personality aspects are equally important. Physical aspects are important to me because I am a very visual person.

1. Physical Aspect: The woman has to be drop dead gorgeous and must have well maintained super short BOY CUT hairstyle only, yes that is the only type of hairstyle that will appeal to me.

2. Physical Aspect: The woman must have a toned physique

3. Physical Aspect: The woman must be fair (skin complexion)

4. Personality Aspect: The woman should not have any self destructive bad habits like drinking, smoking, doing drugs and other self destructive bad habits that are potentially harmful to health.

5. Personality Aspect: The woman must be respectful (normal) towards people in general. This is important because this will assure that the woman is unlikely to have ego and attitude.

6. Personality Aspect: The woman must be sweet, nice, kind, caring, supportive and understanding as a person. These are absolute.

7. Personality Aspect: The woman must mature as a person. The woman must not be a person who believes in playing manipulative mind games like playing hard to get, using the jealousy card and other manipulative mind games. Never.

8. Personality Aspect: The woman must be good in communication skills, like replying fast or within a reasonable time etc.

Yes so these are my top points. The reason I have mentioned these point above is because it indicates that I am very fixed about things, it indicates my standards are very specific and so I am not open minded as a person. It is possible that the woman may not match my standards but then I won't even try and give the woman a chance at dating but rather just refuse because she is not as per my standards. That is what makes it hard to date me.

As a person I am very particular about things and strict in dealing with things. There are many things that I won't tolerate so if the woman makes any unforgivable mistake (subjective to me) then instantly she will be out of my life. There will be no forgiveness and no second chances given. I am very logical and rational as a person. As a person I don't forgive and forget easily. As a person I am also very rigid, closed minded and highly resistant towards change (making major changes in myself).

In short this only indicates that the woman has to almost always be at her best behavior because the margin of error will be very less. This also indicates that I am an extremely difficult person to date.

I think this answered your question?

NathanDavis · Answer

difficult? nothing much really...

except for the fact... that I actually don't date around, lmao, as in... I don't really go out with someone to find out if I can like them or to see how things go, I only go out someone after I know I like them and I do get along great with them, and have an actual interest on more

but... if you have an interest and then it is mutual, then it will go great

ManInChains · Answer

I haven’t dated in so long I don’t even know what would be considered as hard… 😅 I guess maybe getting me to do something I don’t want to do, like drive to a restaurant to get food and bring it to them at their place of work? I’ve been asked to do that once for someone I thought I was dating but actually they just wanted me for my money…

dragoblack · Answer

All of the walking on eggshells, because almost everything a guy does/enjoys can give women the "ick" and then she loses all interest. There's also the mind games, emotional manipulation, unrealistic expectations, lack of women wanting to put in effort in romance and dating process, and the lack of actual honest and human interaction.
All we want is for women to be honest with us, and just be a genuine person to pass the vibe check. If we can't just naturally vibe and get along, there's no way its going to work. Guys are simple like that

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Well it used to be my depression but that is getting better. So I would assume it is the fact I also have many walls and I don't care to let people in anymore. If I start liking a guy it usually makes me want to run away or keep him at a safe distance so nothing can grow.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Hmm I've always struggled with the "I love you" part.

I'm inconsistent when it comes to physical touch and intimacy (sex)

I'm insecure and I can be either very indecisive, or super stubborn.

I'm not good at conflicts and therefore I at least in the past, probably still, struggle with communication.

exitseven · Answer

i never thought of you as a pessimist. The hard part of dating me besides I am pretty closed off is that I am married and my wife will take a dim view of this.

paledreams · Answer

I want to, yet I don't have the time, the money, or the resources to - it's like, I love work and family and friends and grateful western world living standards I've always known - the downside is being 30s and wanting "a 20s round two, without losing my memories of round 1" lol 😆

Iron_Man · Answer

I’m a serious guy and I want loyalty 100% and I don’t want women having guy friends because I don’t trust men I don’t think there’s really such a thing as guy friends because they’re are always looking for something guys and I’ve heard too many stories on here to change my mind

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. My very best friend and the only other person trusted with a key to my house is female.
2. I will disappear for eight to ten hours at a time if I am working on a song.
3. I wake up super early.
4. I have a low-tolerance for fake/manufactured drama.
5. I have an insane metabolism so can eat and eat and never gain weight.

rachel776 · Answer

my travel schedule and generally my schedule overall. that's why Boyfriend has worked out so well, his schedule's worse than mine and a lot of times we're together in cities where we don't live more than at home

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I clicked this question out of curiosity. I see MHO's are already picked and they both say this.

So anyways, what's hard about dating me? Well obviously it's probably my penis.

Get it? my penis is hard.

Now I'm going to chill and expect to get a superb opinion from this later on.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I need my space. Try to control me and you won't see me for dust.

Anonymous · Answer

Either I get too attached to fast and the guy pulls away, or I find it hard to get attached at all and then the guy gets frustrated and finds someone else

serious_miss419 · Answer

I’m honest, I’m blunt with my words, I don’t sugar coat things making appear as they aren’t, I speak up and work hard. I guess I don’t sit around begging a man to want me. I don't know 🤷‍♀️ but I don’t care what a man wants to begin with lol 😆

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I like being single now and unless it’s truly a great match I don’t want to be in a relationship… you won’t see me freaking out about anything because I’ll just leave

Pyrofox · Answer

Chronic day dreamer, unless its a moment my brain has to be present I'm off in lala land XD.

abc3643 · Answer

I'm not dead yet, so radio-carbon dating isn't going to reveal anything.

Sonorous · Answer

I'd say trying to get me to agree to dating in the first place.

lorenzomichael · Answer

I don’t know but when she finds out I hope she lets me know.  But I’m an asshole sweetheart. I’m sometimes an ass sometimes.   But I’m never a Dick.

bowenw · Answer

Finding the nerve to ask people out. Knowing what to say on dates.

Unit1 · Answer

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justme444 · Answer

I'm not stupid and see through a lot. A lot of men simply want a dumb bitch. So in that aspect I am "hard" to date or deal with.

MicahRaine · Answer

I don't play games with love or friendships and will 100% call people out for playing games.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nothing I'm a walking in the park. I'm single cause people take my kindness for weakness and that I can't tolerate

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’m extremely picky and have my guard up. One red flag and I’m gone.

Knightwatch27 · Answer

I can be insensitive with my words without realizing given that my brain is dominated by the logical side.

strateguy632 · Answer

Sometimes i am boring

gangfan98 · Answer

LOL - I'm married... not a lot of free nights

Sambobelfast5163 · Answer

When it comes to the time of doing it I get rejected a lot

OddBeMe · Answer

So am I. Trust me you’ll find someone. My wife is opposite of us. Opposites can attract.

Jpie555 · Answer

I’m a sex addict, kink meister and a perv… probably why at 44 I’m divorced, lol 😆

alice55 · Answer

I want to stay a virgin until wedding

Truthatanycost · Answer

The fact that I don't date...

Nik1hil · Answer

That i am not dating!

Anonymous · Answer

Apparently, I am too clingy.

edmwarrior · Answer

I often struggle to open up

shortster · Answer

I work nights and am autistic.

Agape93 · Answer

I don't do monogamy.

Makeushiver · Answer

That's a home run ball

Peridot25 · Answer

Literally everything

gatixek710 · Answer

My dick.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont know what I want

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