What's hard about dating you?

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LookinTooSmile · Accepted Answer

Ummm... im not sure, I've been told both that im too clingy and not clingy enough, ig the only thing is that if i drink, you get some weird ass texts😂

lostnlonelyeveryday · Accepted Answer

Everything

AnanymousBabe691 · Accepted Answer

I'm a very possessive person. Either its food or men 😂

TacosRAwesome · Accepted Answer

I can be moody and non social.

splashofyellow · Answer

I'm terrified of commitment and I never talk about my feelings.

Allie_Oops · Answer

That I expect you to respect me. Apparently men don’t like that as standard.

jalebkackson · Answer

This recurring theme in every relationship that I'm missing something, I think it's something emotional. I have no idea what it is exactly. I've begged exes to explain it to me as they broke up with me and they don't know how to put it in words (pretty sure they just don't know how to say it without sounding super hurtful) so they just say they don't know. The clearest answer I got was she didn't feel like we were truly in a relationship. Or that they felt like I just used them for sex. Which is a pretty tough thing to hear from someone you love, and makes you question the feeling itself and if you're actually capable of love in the first place. Like if that wasn't it, then what does it feel like? I've only experienced life through my own body, so I have no reference point.

What I've gathered is basically the hardest part about dating me is I don't have a soul. And every emotion I express and every bit of affection I show, regardless of how sincere I feel it is, or how good it makes them feel at first, has a novelty that eventually wares off, they come down from the euphoria and everything goes dull. They start to see my feelings toward them as completely fabricated, lifeless and empty. Just par for the course, meaningless. Like a button-eyed stuffed animal that says 'i love you!' when you pull the string.

FinalVow · Answer

I am a sociopath so I don't realize when I hurt someone unless they say something. despite setting a host of rules for myself I still have a huge issue knowing if I hurt someone. though I am not as much of a sociopath as I once was I have noticed that recently I have started to regress back to where I was my tolerance for people being dumb around me is gone to the point where I ask them how they manage to function when they are so fking stupid they are unable to understand (insert super basic concept here) (example 50-0=50 not 5) yes someone was adamant that 50-0=5 I asked on what planet did that make sense and how he made it this far in life despite how incredibly stupid he was. Told him a 2 year old could answer that question and he should go back to 1st grade and reeducate his dumb ass because I could feel the aura of stupid floating around him. went on to compare him to the intelligence of a goat and that even the dumbest of dumb animals would be smarter than him. I did not and do not feel bad about it.

4You__ · Answer

It’s funny because there’s so many men who would kill for a chance with me they see me as really attractive and a good time but I noticed that once they really get to know me and know that I’m not all fun and games that I really get serious with someone And expect a forever thing they end up wanting to leave they end up realizing I’m not just some hot girl who wants to play. like no bitch you get involved with me? Your mine.. and I end up being hella territorial. But anyway glad I finally found someone who loves me being territorial, possessive & crazy and is the same way with me ❤️ Lol 5 years #engaged 😝

Elaine_17 · Answer

1) According to others, I'm too sensitive. 2) I'm a unique type of weird, but not "mainstream" weird. Nothing bad though in my opinion or off-putting. 3) I worry too much for my own good. Comfort me, but don't criticize me and give me advice. 4) If you make me angry, your actions goes on the list of things you've done that I did not like. This may be used against you. Although I don't usually tend to get angry, so if I do, you better hope I forget which doesn't usually happen unless I really didn't care. 5) Don't hope I forget anything you've done to me. I don't ever forget. Last guy who wanted me to "forget" about him being an asshole, I used against him. He was an extreme asshole/dick.

sagevalentine · Answer

I'm such a PDA person honestly, like my boyfriend doesn't mind. But like wherever we go somewhere I like barely realise that I'm like hugging the shit out of him. It's great to have your own 6ft teddy bear.

ShortCircuit · Answer

It would probably be the strict boundaries. If a girl were to date me, she should expect limited non-professional interaction with other men (within reason). Of course, I'm no hypocrite, so she should feel free to hold me to the same standards. However, I still find that those sort of boundaries are not very commonplace, so they may take some getting used to.

NineBreaker · Answer

I'm a workaholic who hates loud noises. This, I don't drink, and I don't go to clubs... EVER. I have waivered once and went to a club once, but never again.

I'm also very stubborn. I don't think I'm arrogant or condescending. I just don't change my mind very easily, and once I put my mind to do something, I am determined to do it. That's after a good thing, but relationships sometimes require some compromise.

vodkabunneh · Answer

Kind, loyal, understanding, nice, intelligent those are a few words that has always been a problem in past. I mean people left for those things so i guess those are the exact reasons I'm hard to date. It doesn't matter anymore tho cuz i focus into my life goals now instead of focusing on being with someone.

TheFunkyThumb · Answer

I can be oblivious to emotional needs sometimes. Like if they just want someone to listen and be supportive my go to for support is breaking down the issue and trying to fix the problem. And the few less emotionally and intellectually strong women i dated felt steamrolled by my "intensity". So i guess that's a thing.

titania21 · Answer

I am honest , loyal and understanding. I have my own interests and like to spend time with friends and family , I don't want my boyfriend to become center of my universe.

CottenBrick · Answer

I avoid certain subjects by making jokes and its annoying. Like racism, sexism, politics, religion etc etc etc

I do have opinions about those things, but I think those topics can and probably will ruin a relationship/friendship and I dont think its worth it.

amarahorrorstory · Answer

I confrontational and I like to talk about every little thing that annoys me, even if it's that person. Not to be annoying or rude, but I like it to be known, cause if not, I'll just resent them. I'm hoping to fix it. Let's clear the air, bitch.

21feminist · Answer

I'm introverted, I always eventually get tired of a typical conversation or tired of seeing my girl everyday. Then I'd avoid her for a while 'til I miss her again. Or 'til she comes to my house uninvited.

TheNoOne · Answer

I am usually awkward or too slow when dating unless I am really keen. If that happens I should rush things too quick. I am also not the touchy feeling type and social skills are still catching up. But on the other hand at least working on it.

Ketsurui · Answer

I could give you an entire list if you allowed me to, but I'm just going to present you with a small something that kind of concludes me:

Anonymous · Answer

I don't put up with bullshit games. The first time I feel as if I'm being controlled, manipulated, or punished for something you didn't like, we talk about it. The second time, there's just a warning because we already talked about it. Third time, I go back to being single.

WalterRadio · Answer

If a girl isn't very smart and confident, she will quickly feel very stupid around me. For relationships, I only date smart and confident girls.

oftheHowl · Answer

I'm not very emotional so I rarely say romantic shit and they might think I've lost feelings for them. Also sarcastic as hell so if they can't tell or handle it, they get their feelings hurt

SirMavane · Answer

Its probably mostly the whole dating part, because no one seems to have taken interest in that yet lmao. But in all seriousness, probably having noy so great hearing and a bit of forgetfullness

angela4266 · Answer

i have anxiety, ocd, and depersonlization. Basically my mental illnesses. Also i never dated anyone before and it gives me anxiety to think about dating. Weird right?

Torex · Answer

Getting me to ask you out in the first place. After that I'll do my best to be a good and interesting boyfriend. It is just I don't like imposing on others.

clairebearrrr · Answer

I feel like I’m a bit jealous, with good reason. I do have trust issues, my ex actually did cheat on me lol. And he was talking about how I should trust him lol what an asshole

young_blud · Answer

I'm not very romantic, or I'm not all into the sappy compliments and romantic dinner dates. I also don't like clinginess. I can go a day or maybe two without texting him.

Jesslin412 · Answer

You’d have to ask him. I’m a little weird... but he says I’m unique! I’m shy and take things slow. Don’t want to have sex until marriage. Guess that’s the hardest part.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I smoke cigars and my pipe tobacco a lot and I'm stubborn as a mule when it comes to my ideals, morals and values I budge for no man or women on a lot of things. And I am a gym rat among other things.

kubbie · Answer

im very good at creating awkward moments or in appropriate jokes. i need someone who can handle that and make a great roast session of it.

pitzi · Answer

Um... I'm really shy lol so probably that for the start... then maybe my insecurity.. it might bother some guys 😕

dandiecandie · Answer

I think its with anybody not just me. But compatibility is necessary for me. If personalities dont match it will be difficult.

Lavenderella · Answer

I find it difficult to let my walls down & let people in after numerous hurting. I don't trust people easily.

ENTP_EMO · Answer

Living contradiction

AbdKilani · Answer

Nothing hard, just the first step I would never ask a girl out unless she is super special i only tried three times in my whole life, so i guess she would have to make the first move

Nishonen · Answer

apparently it's all the "attractive" guys around keeping the woman distracted

mooky06 · Answer

The constant need to feel loved and cared for verbally.

LittleSally · Answer

Oh... so many things... Can't even enumerate them all...

cassiie · Answer

A lot of guys try to talk to me so if I were dating someone that could cause him to maybe get jealous.

CaffeinatedCactus · Answer

I'm very insecure and have major anxiety. I tend to overthink everything and overreact. I'm working on it Haha anxiety meds are making it easier.

AbagailGun · Answer

You have to have the intelligence or the ability to change / adapt so

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t put myself out there, I hate to be approached by strangers, and I find solace in solitude—so the guys who like to rescue a damsel in distress will hate that I am self-reliant.

ThoughtCleric · Answer

Only mr bean would go to the beach in a suit. Whats hard about dating me? Nothing just note im slow as molasses. Im more interest in the long term so it would be a while before the sex would begin.

Logan27 · Answer

I don't trust women. I am scared of getting hurt. I'm over-protective and also slightly controlling. I'm also lazy and get in bad moods when I'm hungry. Am I that horrible of a guy?

MimiHashima · Answer

I’m not so sure, I haven’t found that out yet; if I remember this, I’ll let you know 😂..

zarinofy · Answer

I don't commit easily. So by the time I am ready the other person is tired of convincing me.

9teen · Answer

I might be an emotional mess sometimes because estrogen is a bitch.

WeirdoWerdo · Answer

vroom vroom!

IsoUser · Answer

Seems like the English are still biggest Douches Ever, Besides Prince Charles, he inherited Douchebag as DID His Son, Both not to astray from Barflyitis

markr1952 · Answer

Constant rejection knowing that she is probably just as lonely as I am, and knows that she needs a serious 'banging', but decides to act 'bitchy' instead just to be in control over men and to prove a point, and goes home with female 'blue balls' !!

Anonymous · Answer

I struggle with depression and an eating disorder that tend to come back every once in a while. Also I can have pretty extreme moodswings.

Penelope_ · Answer

I can be really stubborn and I flirt with everyone I really can’t help myself sometimes 🤦‍♀️

Zanezane · Answer

Im an introverted person , i need my time to be alone and most girls take it the wrong way when i say i don't feel like going out

Namkrow · Answer

That would take entirely too long to explain. The TL;DR version is that people get on my nerves too easily and I am not trying as a result.

teruppin · Answer

I am always curious and ask a lot of stuff about the guy. It can get very tiring to answer my questions. I just really like knowing everything about the person. Lol.

The_Zesty_Zucchini · Answer

I'm a quiet person, and usually struggle to strike initial conversations.

Kaylapremi · Answer

I’m an emotional person. I will probably cry if they yell at me or we argue 😂

Synttacks · Answer

Besides the fact that I'm an uncaring asshole... Not much.

You_Cant_See_Me · Answer

I lay on the beach fully dressed and it makes people embarrassed to be near me.

JSmuve · Answer

I'm distant. Trying to get a conversation out of me is like getting blood out of a rock.

Giggletr0n · Answer

I hate socialising with anybody and I can be way too blunt with my answers

Anonymous · Answer

I like to get to know people on a deeper level, of thays bot for you we won’t work.

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